I’d suggest you ignore the 40 year old virgins here. Your boyfriend knows damn well you’re not easy and he knows you weren’t suggesting sex. I’m sure he also enjoys affection.
yes hugging like that is both affectionate and potentially arousing for a couple who are attracted to each other.
you’re probably reaching a point where you may not want your parents blessing on everything. Are you going to check with them in a year when you might want to have sex which positions are okay? What about some time between now and then if it was too soon to give a bj? Those aren’t normal conversations to have with them. Neither is whether you’re cuddling turned into a little bit of grinding or not.
so stay out of trouble with your parents but realize their decisions aren’t yours.
your boyfriend knows you’re not easy.
in all of this what you need to get MUCH better at is deciding “what does Jay want?” And communicating it to your boyfriend, who thus far has shown himself very happy to listen to what you want. Ok you like cuddling now and sex not for a bunch of months. There are still a whole lot of “how about this” and it’s not even a one time conversation. These are conversations you’re going to have the rest of your life... “are you okay with this? Can we try that? Are you in the mood for this now? Maybe later or not today?” The more you talk to your boyfriend the easier taking gets and the less if a big deal each conversation is. Right now you’re acting like the slight wrong type of cuddling means sex or not. There’s WAY more possible stops along the way then that. And if you just say “no” to anything because you’re afraid it leads to sex you will never actually feel ready for sex. You need to get confident you can take small steps forward and then speak up and say “that’s as far as I want to go today” and your boyfriend will listen. I think he will. But you’re not confident yet.
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You're already of age. The question now is Are you ready to have sex?
Think about your emotional need vs his physical needs.
Yes, us guys are easy. We just want sex. Any vagina will do.
But you need to feel right and ready, especially you need to trust him and feel connected. Are you?
My suggestions:
1) learn to "feel good" about sex. No, sex is not dirty. It's the most beautiful expression of love, if you're in love. (Fuck the social stigma that sex is dirty. Its 2020, not 1920!)
2) take it slow, set boundaries now, and adjust according to your deepening relationship with him.
And tell him, openly and honestly.
Hence if you just want to cuddle, naked or otherwise but no sex yet, then tell him directly, like "I just want to cuddle, and if you like to, naked. No sex yet."
Get my point?
3) know that guys want sex. Most can wait, but not until after marriage.
So as time passes, he will ask for it. Give him a concrete answer.
E. g. "I hope we can do it in a resort (name it) and have it... (short details) ..."
Yes, when money is involved, it means saving for it. This gives you both time and opportunity to save up and plan for it, thus making your first time with him special.
The rest is both your fantasies, including lingerie, settings, positions, contraceptives, etc.
And since you have an entire day until the next in a resort hotel, you may like to plan for a few sessions.
Hence my opinion is, embrace your sexuality and open up your sexual hunger. Take all the time you need but recognize his needs. Plan well and set boundaries. Communicate like adults. Its your sex life. Not others. Listen to others opinions but make your own decision. Then live by it and don't regret.
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2 months is not too soon to cuddle I find. This is what relationship are about, cuddling and showing affection or else you are just a friend. You don't have to have sex but cuddling and showing affection is important. You did nothing wrong.
Have you asked your parents why? Then ask how do you mean? Cuddling can lead to sexual intimacy. How serious are you two? What is your/his goal for this relationship?
because if he has an erection it will push you off the bed and you might hit your head. i'm not saying you can't do it. just be responsible while in bed and use protection
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They don't like it, It's their house their rules
That isn't bad 😂 wtf
they just don't want you to get pregnant lol
That's just how parents are.
Well, often spooning leads to forking sooo
It's fine
GO FUCK YOURSELF
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