Honestly I think its because since its so easy to get into a relationship these days for many such as through the internet and through all of the modern luxuries that we didn't used to have relationships value has decreased because its now easy to hook up or cheat with somebody so when they act like their relationship are disposable I feel its because that its because the value of it has decreased and its no longer special when you get one as many don't have patience due to the modern world being instant access to stuff like information and entertainment which causes other effects including impatience in relationships in my opinion. Its like if gold suddenly became super common to have and could easily be replaced which is how many relationships are treated nowadays in my opinion. Also not saying that everybody doesn't have a valid reason for wanting to dump as if its abuse or something then its very justifiable wanting to quit the relationship but I agree stuff like 'should I quit because my partner walks funny' is a bit overdramatic. One final point I want to mention is that I also think that many people don't actually know what they are looking for sometimes and go into a relationship because its a novelty which leads to them not being prepared which then leads to problems sometimes like the ones you described as its always important to be in the right state of mind! But that's my opinion!
Because they don't know how to recycle. They just want to waste
Honestly, they have this fuck and dump mind set. Because someone had difficult dealing with their emotions. Instead of learning how to cope with their own emotions or their partners or both. To them it's just easier just to dump them and go fuck some other bimbo.
Me and you and most in our age group or older went though this shit in high school. But something came out after us went though and it went mainstream.
The internet, chatrooms, social media, cellphones. The instant feedback of on-line and now I see this high school bullshit lasting till people are into their 30s.
Two of my own kids are full of this stupidity. I watch them go from one to another like taking turns on carnival rides at the circus.
Talk about being fucked up.
And I hear from people on here. How did your marriage last so long, what's the secret.
It No secret. (YOUNG PEOPLE PAY ATTENTION HERE). It's called listening, unstanding, compromising, and not using them as a fuck toy. That's how you get 20, 30 and more years out of marriage.
Well im ready to dump my boyfriend. But it not becasue he a bad person or trash. we are just way too different. I dont see the purpose to force things. people can only compromise so much and everyone should have limits. Always. I like to think everyone has that right.
everyone has thier reasons why and at the end of they day who am i to say what is morally right or wrong.
the majority could agree yes.
In my case after 7 months , why waste more time?
Which make me wonder why would you date someone one who can make you that fragile. Nothing lasts forever either. And GAG ehhhh ill pass on that thought.
Most people now a days seem to stay in unhappy because they "do" try but 9 out of 10 the probability of them being together ended a long time ago.
My parents are still but that just because my mom got pregnant literal right after high school. She admits she loves my father but she doesn't think that they would still be together if it wasn't for us girls.
It seem to me for things to last. people need events that bring them closer not just love. my 2 cents anyway
I totally agree with you!
Most people on here are like 'She/He isn't hot anymore should I break up with her/him? " Or "Is it ok for me to cheat, my partner has a medical condition and he/she can't have sex"
It's like bruh if u only care about someone's looks or if he/she can have sex with you then you don't deserve a relationship!
I think that in todays world most people think that dumping their partner is cool or something
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That's one of the best questions I've ever seen around here. Totally real.
It's sad, really.
These days, people are giving up on their relationships too easily, the first bump on the road is a reason to change partner like they were dirty laundry.
It all comes with technology too. It allowed us to not persevere in something real for the ability it gives us to swipe right and start all over with someone new.
"Relationships aren't a fairy tale, they take commitment, and compromise, and so much more. But if it's real, it's so worth it!"
That's your interpretation of what relationships are.
Personally, I don't see the point in keeping a relationship like that going.
If you think that it is worth maintaining something which is clearly not ideal then good for you.
I personally don't see the point in it.
I will much rather have a perfect relationship for 2 years, than try to "make it work" for 20 years.
How successful a relationship isn't determined by how long it is.
At least not for me.
Technology and online dating is great, gives people so many options! Technology and online dating is horrible, people believe they have so many options :(
Prior to online dating there was more incentive to invest time into one person and build a long lasting relationship because if you became single it was hard finding someone else. But now the illusion of options and the ease of communication means people aren’t as invested and can have 2,3,4 people on the side in case their relationship doesn’t work out perfectly. In reality those people have less motivation to improve themselves when they can just float to the next option.
Ok I’m going to shut up now, that’s hella cynical..
It sounds like you want understanding and clarity as to why people do the things they do when you find it unreasonable, hurtful, and stupid. Just look at the world today where people feel it's justified to burn down a Target or a Wendys. How on Earth can they think like this and act like this?
Some people need understanding so they ask questions. They might even get a Psychology degree to have a deeper understanding. Or go into therapy.
I've done my share of trying to understand these people. I've found it's best (for me) just to walk away from those people. Life is better for me when I'm not in a relationship, except with my pets.
If those things happened to you - I'm so sorry. I know it hurtful.
When I was young, I never got into a relationship that I expected to last forever. I really liked my partners both for sex and for who they were as people. I was faithful and treated them with respect. I liked hanging out and doing things with them. But I eventually moved on because I wanted to experience life. I don't know, it's hard to explain why. I will say that I never treated them like trash or cheated when I was with them. I just didn't want to settle down.
Once I got to the age where I wanted to find a life partner it was different. I had a couple of girlfriends and dedicated myself to those relationships. One of those women turned out to be a certifiable psycho. Another one I loved with my whole heart and soul but, in the end, circumstances were such that we couldn't be life partners. I had a really hard time accepting that.
Then I met my future wife. She has taught me what it means to be 100% committed. I'll stick with her through thick and thin, no matter what.
Because they obviously don't have real love.
It's like hollywood movie stars and such, 9 times out of tend they get divorced within a year or two, even though they have no need for money, so the main reason MOST people get divorced doesn't even apply to them, and they can't make relationship work anyway, because they don't know what real LOVE is.
Real love (Agape) is willing to sacrifice your own life for the other person, which by the way pretty much none of you people on GAG have real love either. You all have plenty of lust though.
Frankly, these people asking these question are doing the person a huge favor when they do end things for the above mentioned. It wouldn’t even be a thought let alone a question for someone who was committed to their relationship.
If they question the small, they certainly will not remain when a big hardship occurs in the relationship.
Because traditional, collectivist mindsets and Godly values have been thrown out the window. Especially since the implementation and raise of feminism. Nobody is being held accountable for their sinful and bad behaviors anymore.
Right?
It turns out, that they are only after themselves and/or they just aren't qualified for relationships to begin with and should stay single indefinitely. Simple as that.
For women however finding replacements is a piece of pie.
For men I am not sure. Women complain about them men cheating and/or keeping them as sidehoes/pieces of meat but at the same time these are the same men, who women are swarming after while the bigger half of men do not have these options.
The core problem is always the background of why they dated in the first place, they simply start a relationship based on first impressions and becuase commitment such as marriage isn't popular due to financial, religious and social instability they view a current partner as a person who makes them run away from reality: which is indifference. Thus when something bad happens they run as fast as they can beaucase the relationship from the beginning is based on false ground. Commitment is tied to beliefs and shared ideas which are not available during these years. If you think about it marriages mostly happen in places and countries where people are less educated, you ask me why because uneducated people aren't aware of indifference which makes them pure and thats how humans should be even when they get educated.
Because we are sold an image of an "ideal" relationship that real people can't maintain. The frantic search to fulfil what marketers tell us to want prevents us actually enjoying real life. People want an image to show off, rather than a partner to explore.
We live in a world of entitlement where fewer people are willing actually work for their relationships.
People who treat their relationships this way are, ironically, the trash in the relationship.
Very good question. People are accustomed to taking the path of least resistance. Why put forth the effort to fix anything when you can just throw it away and move onto the next person? I don't agree with that logic, however this is my observation.
Well they dont truly care for the person, just their own selfish needs. I wouldn't pay attention to those people. This kind of character will get them nowhere
They dont understand the value. I personally feel we were put on this earth to live/learn/laugh/love/reproduce. Not just fck for fun
I totally agree with this!!! Relationships take work and they should be fought for. The reward is each anniversary you get
Pure self absorption and selfishness... the all too common " It's all about me !! " attitude... which is a major reason why I am not fond of people in general , & do not partake in the farce / charade known as " dating "
Well, I never answer such questions as u mentioned.
And people hv become more unstable and restless in relationships. They be like "if I don't like this thing, I don't want this relationship".
Maybe it is immature of me, but I will break up if we are incompatible on some fundamental level and not look back. I figure she is better off having the opportunity to find someone who is more in tune with her.
society has lost morals principals loyalty and respect. now everyone believes they are entitled to what they want, only care about themselves and how they look in selfies and the number of likes they get
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