"He is trying to work on it" - that doesn't sound good.
Has he really been hurt or is he just a douchey guy? I've known lots of douchey guys who seem really sweet and loving and like the perfect gentleman - but really geat quality guys tend to know what they want from life and that's a proper girlfriend.
In your heart of hearts, you will know the truth.
If he has been hurt before you will be able to tell... and players are often smooth guys who use this line to take advantage of nice women.
On the other hand, if he does seem like the type of guy who has been burned before, you will see it in his hesitancy - but right now, it seems like he has no hesitancy and has been completely confident around you.
If I were you - I wouldn't buy it. I realize how painful this may be in the short run, but in the long run, BELIEVE ME, you will be so glad that you didn't waste your time and find a real guy who is good for you.
Just tell him in a calm way (no histerics or long talks) that you're suspicious he might be trying to use you and then cut him off. If he is the real deal, he will be so scared of losing you that he may ask for a commitment - if not, he's a player and you've saved a load of your time.
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I doubt you are a game but you are a comfort zone, no doubt.
Fortunately, you haven't been chasing him and that's good.
He says he knows it's not fair but that he's working on it? Ok, what has shifted in the relationship to show that he's working on it? All of the variables are still the same since the beginning so it would seem. You talk, you have sex but that's about it. What if you didn't anwer his every phone call? What if you were out with the girls for a night? What would his reaction be then? Likely, it would be an upset in his comfort zone and that might invoke some real thought in him.
I would try that (and it's good for you BTW to have a life seperate and apart from him) and see what happens. You can't stay in limbo forever.
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No. he just doesn't want to put a title on anything right now. he kinda still likes to feel free or is not too sure yet if he wanst to take that next step with you yet. So he is pretty much not ready to make it official in other words but wants to still continue to let things flow. Its good to not rush anything but at the same time if your feelings continue to grow more amd more months are going by and he has still not made any commitment to you or he still can't say then its time for yall to seriously have that talk. Let him know if he wants to keep you he is going to have to step it up. We as women have to set requirements for these men or they'll just have it there way when its two ways ok? But if its not somethin he wants and you do then you have to move on or your just building up false hope.
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