I personally like to see them more often, if not daily at least 3-4 times a week. But from what I understand from people who tend to be very detached from their partner, one thing is they want to have their own life, they don’t want to make their partner a priority.
Another thing is that they’re too afraid to let them close enough to make them a part of their life just so if they broke up it won’t take them that long to get back to normal.
And three they intentionally do it because they’d eventually get married and wake up to them every day and do everything together so why start from the beginning of the relationship.
While I’m all about balance and even if I’m married I’d still need my me time and respectively give my partner his time with the boys, some people see it as the end of their freedom so they try to live life to the fullest while things are not serious.
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Me and my boyfriend talk everyday and spend most are time together. People call us clingy and tell us the honeymoon phase will die out soon. Its almost a year we've been together and we still can't get enough of each other and when were away from each other i miss him like crazy. I don't think that's clingy i just think that's finding ture love
I don’t see it as a bad thing , a person that says it’s a bad thing is just a selfish person , when you are in a relationship and your partner says they need space from you then you’re best to kick them to the curb , your partner should be your number 1 priority over everyone , not saying they have to be by your side 24/7 but you both should have great communication and be supportive of one another no matter what , if they can’t do that then they shouldn’t of got into a relationship period , Relationships means commitment you are choosing to be with that person , your days of being single are over , if you can’t commit then don’t
Get into a relationship plain and simple
because many people are closed minded, and many of them work on the assumption of what THEY would do, so they view it in a rather nefarious image...
rather like "oh you dated, so something must be going on" what they cannot grasp is that you were friends before you were lovers... and some people who are more mature about things and openminded can retain a level of responsibility and know there boundaries... like i still keep in touch with my last ex and first and second ex...
hell i lived with my last ex for almost a year after we split up in a flat share, but once our relationship was over... neither of us crossed the line
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How often you talk to a partner depends on the stage of the relationship. If we have had one or two dates, them talking once or twice a week is adequate. Once we have had five or six dates, I would expect to be talking more often. When the relationship becomes physical (assuming that means serious and not just casual/NSA/ONS sex) then I would expect to be talking almost every day.
I don't know why that would be a problem for someone. That's how you get to know someone better and how you find out if it's someone you wanna live with or not, so agree there.
Maybe that's why do many relationships don't work.. Cuz they didn't take that timeI think it's okay if it works for the couple, as long as it doesn't turn into an unhealthy obsession in which one can't be without the other for more than an hour. I honestly think that level of clinginess towards anyone is extremely unhealthy.
However, for me personally, I need days to myself away from everyone sometimes, and nobody ever seems to understand this about me. I could never be okay with being smothered by someone every single day.One thing is for sure, if you move in with your partner you'll have to talk daily. So why not start practicing?
Wow. if you don't have any communication in a relationship I would think it wouldn't last long. "Work is required" is not only something you see in a job description. It takes work to keep a relationship going as problems do not always work themselves out. Communication to head off any forseeable problem is part of that requirement. Otherwise bad feeling may well up and feelings of "they don't care" may arise when it may not be true. The only time I wouldn't talk to a S/O every day is if I was away on business but I would call as much as I could. Otherwise why be in a relationship at all?
Meh.. I can do without seeing each other every day.
Let's say I have 3, 12.5 hour shifts in a row.
Between those shifts to get adequate sleep.. if I get off at 0730am I try to be asleep by 1030am.
Between those 3 hours I have to cook, shower, do my night routine, and wind down. Then get ready for work again at 5. If I'm taking a class then I also might have homework to do. I don't have time to see my s. o unless we're going to just eat and sleep together so I can recharge for the next day. I get busy so not seeing them everyday is fine.because some of us communicate differently. Being in a relationship doesn´t mean that we have to do everything and everywhere together. We spend time together but not every free minute. For me communication or chatting must have a reason because chatting just to chat is senseless. Spending too much time with someone takes my interest away and it increases the chance that I might have an affair. Because I lose the interest in her. I´d also say we need to have a good communication system but it shouldn´t end in both loosing their personality and their character traits.
Because it shows that you don’t have a life outside of the relationship. Or you don’t have much work / responsibilities outside of the relationship. I have a busy job where I need to work 9 hours day with great performance. I can’t be texting you every hour. I have to make a living and meet friends/ acquaintances.
If you cannot survive a whole day without texting your boyfriend , you definitely have issues. Chances are you lacked sufficient love and validation when you were a child so now as an adult you are constantly trying to seek your partners attention and approval in order to feel stable.
it isn’t cuz you love them so much that you can’t go a day without text , you just want self validationFirst, let's eliminate crush from this discussion. Something as minor, possibly
meaningless and unpredictable as a crush
or distant infatuation, in my eyes deserve
no such consistent dedication. However,
someone viewed as a possible, potential
life partner/spouse deserves every minute
possibly available, getting to know, build
and enhance the growth of this relationship.
One doesn't put limitations on going to work,
sleeping or consuming food each day to
strengthen your economy or continue the
body's function and growth. Therefore, by
what account is investing in something
you deem important to your life, suddenly
questionable?
We continuously use our phones and the
internet consistently, everyday for less than
nonessential reasons.A lot of people believe in, or try to have relationships that are about being together, but separate i. e. get the benefits of being in a relationship (sex, love, etc.) with the benefits of being single (so-called and ambiguous "me time"). I think that's a recipe for disaster. In my opinion, if one can't stand spending most of their free time with a partner, the relationship has an expiry date. I mean, how will such people even survive marriage?
He is my best friend, father of our child, my rock. We respect each others space, work in unison without really having to think.
Sure we have our moments where tempers fly, usually constructive and just but we always end the day with what we describe as pillow time, we both agreed that our bed was neutral territory and we would talk before sleeping.
The new day starts! Ideally that works all the time but in reality it doesn't but it is what we strive for.I agree with u girl!❤
I can't understand either why some people would feel this way. My only guess is that they're either not serious about the relationship yet, or have some sort of trust issue.. or perhaps, they're super "independent".. 🤔Well there is a giant difference between crush and partner so I will answer both. It's completely appropriate to communicate with your partner daily and could actually cause problems if you dont. As for a crush, ideally one will try to convert a crush to a partner sooner than later and commence communicating every day. If you are afraid or unwilling to convert a crush to a partner, you really have no business communicating with them at all.
I’ve been in a long Distance relationship for 3 years and we talk every all day u til he goes to sleep since time zones, people always say the same thing but it’s what works for us and we never force a conversation we just always have something to talk about
Beats me, reeks of ego and attachment issues to me.
If someone claims to be into me, they better be trying to talk to me every day.
And if we are in a relationship, preferring not to be in contact every day, that's just odd and dysfunctional, fuck that.That’s like saying why is it bad to play with fire by gasoline. Sure you MIGHT not light the gas but why risk it? Some people just aren’t comfortable with the idea of their partner spending a lot of time with someone they used to say they love and have sex with. Some people feel like once you past that boundary you can’t go back regardless of if you say they’re just a friend or not.
It’s not “baaad”. But if you want the relationship to last it’s best to create space from time to time. That’s what develops attraction.
Seeing each other everyday takes away the element of surprise, and excitement. Perhaps not in the beginning, but definitely over time.
Predictability is the “killer”.Some people prefer "fantasizing" about their crush. If they become partners, it'd be hard to acknowledge some dark sides of a partner that they overlooked at the beginning.
I see many have high expectation and think their partner is perfect as how they imagine. Then it crashes when they discover more info. It's just a fear of accepting the truth. And the truth kills romance.I prefer seeing and talking to them daily. Especially in college, my boyfriend used to call me in between classes and ask me how they went. I loved it. If we can't see each other every day, I like to keep phone contact like text messages or calls. It's a balance between what I like and what he likes.
Talking to them everyday by text is annoying but talking to people who you live with is definitely not the same at all. I don't know if it's just me but I like focusing on the people that are around me at the moment and not the one that are not next to me so I rarely text people no matter how much I like them but if we're in the same house I would talk to them a lot.
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