Am I being paranoid?

[Anonymous]

So firstly there is this drama brewing between my girls best friend and "me", i dont know per se what is happening but her friend is using all sorts of lies and putting words in our (me and my 2 friends) mouths to create drama... My girlfriend obviously doesn't know who to believe but her best friend is lying so hard... Its so sad and of course she will choose the side of her girlfriend in the longrun sadly, if she's this hesitant already

Second; last night my girl just ditched me for another guy, just like that
We were chilling with another friend like usual and right before bed she went out to see another friend, 3 am at night...
And this friend is someone who she finds very sexy... I mean cmon, my heart literally broke when i saw who it was.
I dont want to be suspicious but it did hurt me, at such random hour at night

Maybe im just paranoid tho

[standingUP]

You are not being paranoid. A person in a committed relationship just does not up and go to another dudes house at any hour, but 3am. That would be the end of her far as I would be concerned.
Listen man it doesn't matter what is said or who said it. LOVE is stronger than what ever is mentioned by someone not involved.
I would consider this a blessing to have happened the way it did. Before you you really got hurt. I mean of course you are really hurt now. But it could be worse. So time for you to move on.

There is someone out there waiting to be loyal to you and she has a heart and understanding enough to put things into perspective to stay with you no matter what projections were laid out to her by another.

[Asker]

Its absurd man and she did it with so much ease as if nothing is wrong with it... Even asked me if anything was up lol

[standingUP]

Well maybe that will make it easier for you to walk away with that same type of grace. You just found out that she is NOT THE ONE. Your ONE is still out their waiting to meet you. prepare yourself for her. She is the one that deserves you attention and love. Not that 3AM'er chic.

[Anonymous]

ah man. You gotta move on if she going to find reasons not to stay by your side.

[Asker]

She said she wasn't going to spend the night anyway, since its someone elses couch...
Then she saw i was obviously pissed/sad and invited me over to her place tonight

But why would u at 3am move out the house to chill with another guy, you think is sexy... If i did that, it would be murder

[Opinion Owner]

don't simp for that broad man. I know you haven't seen anything yet, but if and when you do, you'll know what to do.

[Asker]

Maaaan im just so scared cause there is this history u know
She lied about another guy and their sexual history, but it was before our relationship so i can't hate, but its the fact that she lied about it twice that makes it so dirty
Plus my intuition then was right too, even tho she denied

That's why im paranoid, i been having this feeling of uncertainty for awhile now.. the way she talks about them, sometimes looks to them..

Like just last week she said she thinks this guy is sexy as hell and now random meet up in the deepest of the night

[Opinion Owner]

oh brother you do deserve better. I'm sorry she's just tossing you to the side like a toy. That uncertainty that you are feeling right now in your gut is telling you something. If that gut feeling is very strong, you have to listen to it. Otherwise you might regret being dragged through the mud with her.

[ivydaisy]

Yeah move on , it’s not going to work out especially if she’s seeing other people

[Asker]

Its so weird we have been seeing each other for 9months now? Not that long but still just yesterday we were talking about bigger things... Maybe im too fucking naive