My boyfriend is pressuring me to have an abortion? He said I have to choose the pregnancy or him? Please help? (Page 3)

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Hi everyone. I found out last week that I am 5 weeks pregnant, my boyfriend is 27 and I'm 27. He wants me to have an abortion, and he keeps saying things like "all my friends have done it, you'll be fine its just a heavier period" his argument is that he will lose me if I continue with the pregnancy, and I told him he won't because I don't want to lose him, but he's saying he will lose me because he will be MISERABLE and probably run away. He keeps saying "you have to trust me and you'll thank me in a couple of years that you got rid of it" the thing is I don't want too get rid of it, I have a great family who supports me, I have friends. I don't agree with abortion, I never did. I feel like I'd literally be doing it for me. He's been telling me he's back on the drink since I told him, and that he needs sleeping pills at night to help him sleep because he's so stressed, He said I can't think about myself i have to think of the relationship and him. He's putting me under a lot of pressure. He also said 'we can't go to gigs, dates, we won't have a life with this baby" I feel like he's just talking about himself that he won't be able to do these things because not once has he even taking me to a "gig" he said I have to be on the same page as him, and please don't do this to him. He hasn't cared about my feelings at all. He wants to see me today to talk and sort this once and for all Please help. Thank u x

Anonymous · Answer

Yes you should have an abortion. But not an abortion of the baby. You should abort your boyfriend!

just_a_potato · Answer

He is obviously selfish and could care less about your wellbeing and what you want, you might not want to now but leave that sorry excuse for a significant other. You will be just fine. Never be pressured into a decision. ❤💜❤

MissDawn7961 · Answer

thank the Lord that you kept the baby ! make sure that the father of the child only gets supervised visitation with the baby for he might abuse the little one otherwise ! thanks

BillOwen · Answer

Give him a middler finger cuz anyway he's gonna be a dad.

Don't let yourself and your soul to follow "his body"
Think first about your own blood, your child.

If he did not thought that can happen, he shouldn't do it.

KatQueen1313 · Answer

If you want to keep the baby, then keep the baby and leave him. It's your decision and it shouldn't be his.

AustinMan · Answer

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. If you were writing the script, what would happen?

BackAgain602 · Answer

Any man whose making you make that kind of decision while only thinking of himself is not a man worth having in your life. And he sounds incredibly selfish.

Surely · Answer

Sounds like he is afraid of loosing his freedom and or money while taking care of his child. If you have means of doing this on your own. The final choice is yours.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

Sounds like the relationship is over. You either keep the baby and do it yourself, have him sign his rights away OR you go against your conscience and have an abortion, which will build resentment against him for sure.

ovixs90 · Answer

Dont do abortion cuz its killing imagine your future son or daughther your killing. Thats not nice especially he is forcing you its killing

elly91 · Answer

Reverse the roles... ask yourself what you want more a baby or your boyfriend? if the answer is a baby then leave your boyfriend...

OceanMelon · Answer

The guy sounds like a dick, my personal opinion is that you should keep it. You said you already have a supportive family and friends, so that's good and they could help with some stuff.

LivingOnTop · Answer

Dump him and run! He wants to wait 10 years? Ain’t no body got time for that!

Cherokeehp · Answer

It sounds like he clearly doesn’t want this baby, and you’ll have to choose between the two. Which one do you want more?

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

Well hopefully he'll man up eventually, but it sounds like you're going to either be a single mother or in a relationship with a boy that resents his child and you

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

He sounds like an abusive manipulative asshole. Don't let him convince you to commit murder if you don't want to.

Pete671 · Answer

wow he's a real piece of work, a really toxic male, get rid of him, for your own wellbeing and more importantly for your child,,,

Shamalien · Answer

What a sad weak pathetic loser. Never understand why any woman would agree to an act that ends in pregnancy with a person that won’t be man enough to raise the child

sex is how babies are made in case you all forgot

wilfh1965 · Answer

Choose your baby no real man would ask you to make that choice someone like that is not worth being with get rid of him and have your baby.

Uhhhhyee · Answer

Keep your baby if that's what you want. And leave him either way. he's showing clear signs of being manipulative and not caring about your well being. Get out while you can

_lucretia_ · Answer

You are not alone. Just listen to your heart, you will know what to do. Because you will have to live with your decision. All the best 💕

Grond21 · Answer

I'm so glad you're keeping the baby! Your child deserves a life where he or she is loved

EyesOfGod · Answer

Do you really want to wait till your nearly 40 when risk are higher? Plus what if he moves on before then. you'll be stuck in your 30's were men your ages are dating 20 year olds.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Well he's made it clear, and I understand where he's coming from entirely. Whether you choose to listen and feel the same way is also entirely up to you. None of us can make this decision for you.

Jack9949 · Answer

Well he’s a shit boyfriend. Its time you dump the fucker. He only wants you to abort cuz he can’t handle responsibility. Tell him to man up and grow a pair of balls. Or just don’t even bother and sue him for child support.

venomhbk1313 · Answer

Don't get an abortion because he said to if he doesn't want to be part of the child's life then loose him it'll be his own undoing

worldscolide · Answer

He doesn't get to decide.. if he is pressuring you, then he is not the one for you..

codyccc · Answer

Heys bluffing and if not sue his ass for child support

startingfitness · Answer

Wow what a jerk. The baby shouldn't have to die because of this irresponsible man

asshole_ · Answer

So I'm assuming he's pro death, at this point? Not even pro choice

Isac132 · Answer

It's not the right thing to "get rid of this thing". Also if ur 27 in 10 years it can be almost too late to have your first baby to be born all healthy. And abortion IS dangerous. It can cause that you won't be able to have a baby AT ALL. Never...

bamesjond0069 · Answer

y'all probably going to breakup if you have it. That being said i dont believe in abortion but i also dont believe in being with someone if its not going to work. Prepare to be a single mom. Good luck.

humanearth · Answer

Your man sounds like a Neanderthal dickhead. Do what you got to do for you and not because your forced to

TonyV · Answer

Your body your choice, if he leaves you, your probably better off without him.

KeziL · Answer

Screw him, keep your baby. He’s a jerk for giving you that ultimatum.

Rebecka33 · Answer

I've been in this boat I chose my baby the baby should always come first over a murder it isn't his body.

RHK36 · Answer

That dude is trash. If you want to keep the baby then do it. He doesn't deserve you.

Anonymous · Answer

Do what you want. Don't do it for him if you don't think it's right. If I was in your position, I wouldn't have an abortion. I don't believe they are right to do.

Anonymous · Answer

keep the baby or not, its your choice., but dump the looser sperm donor in any case.

Oric5 · Answer

Thats not how a man acts. Babies aren't a negative ever period. Life happens let it happen. It sounds like your family will me thrilled. Im guessing your family doesn't like him anyway.

logangambill3456 · Answer

Choose the baby bc he seems like an ass when that baby could change your life he's probably just scared he gwt sex as much

reptocarl2 · Answer

Get an an attorney and court ordered child support NOW!!!

coffeewithcream · Answer

Sue that freak for support and make sure he understands it's jail time if he doesn't pony up.

dwelshman · Answer

If you want to have the baby don't let him decide it's your choice. More than likely if you choose him you will eventually lose both.

JoseLuisGonalez · Answer

Have your child and make damn sure he pays for it. Or whatever works for you. Good luck.

Murad_ABK · Answer

Leave the dude, and decide what do you want to do with tge baby, preferably before the 40 days.

Prof_Don · Answer

The ultimatum is made. You have to ultimately choose one or the other.

jestergent · Answer

The kid won't have a father figure. Not a good one.

Antelope · Answer

It's ultimately your choice, but all I can say is please don't try to drag him into it if he leaves you, child support and everything

Anonymous · Answer

Don't do it. You have a an innocent living child inside of you that deserves to live and many of us would love to have children while many of us can't. Don't murder your baby, adopt the baby out if you don't want the baby, and dump him.

MDF_ANJ · Answer

Personally, I'm all for abortion, but, if your absolutely sure you can support that baby, possibly alone, then have it

Anonymous · Answer

You have to ask yourself, is your boyfriend worth killing for?

HATR3D · Answer

Do what you think is right for you but personally I don't even think your boyfriend is a good boyfriend. Chances are the relationship is going to crash sooo

larry69 · Answer

Choose the baby and make him step up and support the child

nailsandhair · Answer

Abortion is never the answer... dump the guy if he can't take the responsibility!

Gedaria · Answer

Sounds like a real man. Get rid of him. Which either way you go...

Anonymous · Answer

You need to do what you want. And dump him, he's not going to be a good father

Anonymous · Answer

Do what you want with your life but also let him do what he wants with his life, meaning that you shouldn't take his money for the next 18 years.

Meatunnel69 · Answer

Dont let some random online people determine the fate of an actual human being thanks 🙏🏻

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know why he hasn’t used a condom if it’s that bad

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