Would you be mad if your boyfriend stayed out until 6 in the morning every time he went out?

[JesseGurly]

Girls, would you be mad if every time your man went out he stayed out until 6 in the morning? My man only goes out once or twice a month but when he does go out its with "the boys"...and he always stays out until 6 in the morning. He says he's going to the strip clubs. So girls, would you be mad if your live-in boyfriend did this? Or am I being irrational here?

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Guys - how would you feel if your girl stayed out until 6 in the morning?

[vmw2008]

I wouldn't have a problem with him staying out until 6 in the morning. Especially if it was only once or twice a month. I encourage my guy to go out with the boys. I know he needs the down time and I never want his friends to feel like I'm stealing him away.

My only issue would be with the strip clubs. My boyfriend used to go to them, but as soon as we got together, he stopped going. I never asked him to so I'm assuming he just did it out of respect for me. I'm cool with him going out, drinking, dancing, having fun. But I'll be honest, I wouldn't be OK with him going on to a strip club on a regular basis, if at all. Strange naked women and lap dances are for single men and bachelor parties. I highly doubt either of our boyfriends would be OK with us going to see naked men and getting grinded on by them multiple times a month. It's good to keep fairness in the relationship.

[enrawesor]

It depends how much you trust him? has he ever lied to you would he ever lie to you? when he tells you he's out with the boys is he just doing that to make you jealous.. If my guy went out until 6 in the morning I don't think I would be too concerned aslong as it was not on a regular basis, you know everythings okay if he is coming home to you, if he doesn't return then you have a right to be irrational. Everybody is aloud to go out once in a while, if he didn't take his phone I would be quite concerned, it all depends who his mates were and what kind of 'mates' they were because as soon as your guy is drunk he is capable of anything, but if he is dedicated to you, you shouldn't have any problems.

[fascination_streak]

This is a difficult one for me personally but I wanted to tackle it. Personally, I think it's important for a guy to have time with the boys and his own social time. If he is true to you, has never cheated and isn't acting shady then there shouldn't be a reason not to trust him. Staying out until 6:00AM is a little excessive, but I'll be honest that I don't know how late strip clubs stay open until. I think the mature approach is to think about it like this: He is only going out like once or twice a month. He is entitled to guy time. It's not like he is going out every weekend and staying out that late. I'd cut him some slack, trust in him and let him have his guy time.

[ihatework]

irrational. let him have fun with his friends without being upset over it.

[ihatework]

@ update: no big deal. people need to have fun with friends as well as SO's once in a while. not being allowed to do anything while in a relationship is a surefire way to kill it.

[JesseGurly]

What if he has a history of cheating in his past relationships?

[ihatework]

that's a little different then. realistically you can't stop people from going out but if there's a history like that then you guys better have a talk and make sure things are on the up and up. my belief is once a cheater always a cheater.

[JesseGurly]

well he hasn't cheated on me...at least not that I know of. but I still think his behavior is a little suspicious. I understand your point but I know he has history with his past relationships

[ihatework]

he cheated in the past?

[JesseGurly]

he cheated on his last girlfriend

[ihatework]

i'd be leery if that's the case. people who cheat have weak minds and can easily be tempted into it again.

[JesseGurly]

my feelings exactly...

[sineadocl]

Id have no problem with that, sometimes I get home at 8am or later.we trust each other 100% and I know he would never cheat on me, just as id never dream of cheating on him. if youve got something great going I'd let the smal things slip. although if your concerned just talk to him, don't shout or make a big deal, be calm and say what you don't like. if you don't do it now then it will start annoying you more and it could end up being a huge fight.

good luck :)

[Colettek8]

Yes and I'm currently living with someone who is doing it at the moment and it Infuriates me. Nothing is open at that hour so what the hell are you and who are you with. I get him spinning the conversation on how he didn't think he was being times for his nights out. Anyone who says this wouldn't bother them is extremely naive and really knows nothing about relationships. Oh also my spouse it's almost 45 years old and we just had a baby 7 months ago. So again No is my answer.