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When you find the right partner, do you think it's more "luck" or "fate"?
I believe it's... Neither
I think if you've put enough work into self development and grow to be a certain way that alligns with who you are at the core of your being , you will attract a certain type of person depending on how you walk, talk, speak and generally carry yourself.(it's hard work.)
I only recently came to that conclusion with my current relationship.
If I would claim it was luck or fate then It would devalue all the hard work we've put in and all the effort we put into making it work , all the adjustments we made , all the growth that took place.
I am together with someone from a different culture , different background , brought up with different values and societal standards. Which was one of the biggest challenges early on and almost drove us apart. At a certain point we were on the brink of ending it , we had a deep and open hearted conversation about mutual annoyances about each other's behaviour and what not. And decided to give it our best shot. This shift in mentality was the catalyst on which everything else was built on and eventually got us to where we are today almost 3 years later.
It was a very difficult process looking back at it and it took time, Courage , perseverance and commitment from both ends to make it work.
We both had to compromise bits and pieces from ourselves in order for there to be an US, not in a forceful way or anything , it has to be because you as a person want that change , not because you're expected to change. because you both are aiming for a common goal to achieve not because person x demands you to be like this.
On another note , I've come to realize another major important factor , in order to be able to have a solid and strong relationship , you will have to accept that person as a whole.(which sounds logical right , nothing new there! But you'd be amazed how many people actively try to change their partner, similar to all these couple's claiming trust is the most important thing in a relationship but then the first chance they get to snoop in their partners phone they'll blindly take it)
Not just the things that you like , you have to accept the "bad" stuff too as part of that person's personality. (Not talking about eternal toxicity, violence , abuse) for example, she's more sensitive than I would generally like a girl to be. And that was a big thing initially , but I've grown to be more understanding and accepting of her emotions and in the process have become more emotionally available as a result of that.
It's crazy to think that this could have all ended in the earlier stages , but we made the decision to buckle up and go for it and that made the change. The shift in dynamic , that was the catalyst , saying it was luck or fate would and I'll repeat it again. Devalue all the work we've done.
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I uss fractals in large sums in my equations too gain a better understanding of the universe, and my one "ABSOLUTE" belief, as certain too me as god is tho religious folk, is that there are no completely random events in this Universe., or any self sustaining, 3 dimensional universe. Fate and luck are two sides if the same coin, and one lends credibility too the other. Given enough time, keeping an open mind and an open heart, you will draw your significant other too you through your actions and desires. Keep in mind that your perfect match may not be the person you think you want now, but the person who completes the person you should become, bringing out the best in you as you bring out the best in them.
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I think most successful relationships are pure luck.
Think about it, if it was fate, why is it harder for some people to find the right partner compared to others?
Fate implies when the right person enters your life, it happens for a reason. Yet that isn't the case for some people.
Love is good timing (both individuals being available, single, and willing to be together), finding someone that compatible with you, and cares for you. Most of those conditions will not always be met or occur with someone you like or pursue. But if it does, you're lucky.
I also believe the factor of luck varies for each individual.
Meaning finding "the one" is like playing the lottery, or a game that's RNG based: either you have really good luck and you find the right person quickly or easily.
... or you have really bad luck and it takes years to find said person.
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Both, but my guy is a nut. He will do the most craziest, most daring, most wild nut job I have ever met.
He is the only guy I know that would go on stage wearing just a pair panties and tell jokes.
Go shopping at a mall wearing just a Bikini
Take a good working car and rip it apart and make it work without a computer
I also watch him drive so fast and turn the steering wheel so fast. Just to see how many times he can flip cars and make them roll.
He done a lot of dangerous shit. sometimes I think he has a dealt wish.
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1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. No such thing as Fate. Your responsible for your actions and all your actions will be a cause to an effect. Therefore you made yourself find your right partner and he made himself find you too with whatever your actions were even if you don't know it. So it's not really luck either since both your actions contributed to it happening and the chances of that happening due to both of your actions is quite high. For example if you went back in time and did the same thing same result that's not luck.
Luck is when you come back do the same thing but something else could happen. But to you or anyone else we would class this is lucky in the time because well it's a shock to us and we don't really think it through like that. Unless if your me lol.
To think there is such thing as Fate is to deny your responsibility in your actions same if you say lucky. You know flipping a coin and getting heads or tails ain't luck there is a reason why i can flip a coin and always get heads just flip it the same amount of times i always do start off on tails and if you do it right amount of flips you can always get heads it takes time to learn but that right there proves that even flipping a coin ain't random luck it's the way you flip it that chooses what it will be so it's you that does it. There maybe many variables to it that make it seem like luck but it's really not.95% luck. There's billions of people on the planet. Some (the most basic, average, mediocre people, in my opinion) will find love easily, because of how common they are as people. Others (like me, TBH) will very very likely never find love, due to how odd, strange, unique, eccentric, or otherwise incompatible they are with most people. The only time it isn't luck is when you choose to be in the right place, at the right time, because most people don't find their true love through a dating site, to be honest.
2.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I'd say it's a mixture of both. Or rather luck and looking. But fate I think we make for ourselves. An example is being a couch potato and ordering every thing that is needed off of Amazon never needing to step out of the house vs. Actively being involved in your community. In that way I think you can fate yourself into not finding anyone. Now I suppose you could argue that if it's fate they could go and find them with a grubhub order for example but I still think that the fate we have we make for ourselves
1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I'm not sure if I believe in fate.
I think finding the right partner depends on a couple of factors. Considering the number of people on the planet, luck is certainly a factor in meeting someone that you connect with on a deep level.
But it's not just a matter of waiting around for luck to find you. You have to search. You have to be ready to seize opportunity when it presents itself. You have to be in the right state of mind - be the kind of person you would want to be with.
And then there is the fact that nobody is perfect. If you think you're going to find a perfect person, you're going to be out of luck. If two people connect on a level that they can envision spending their lives together, they need to work at keeping their relationship healthy and strong.- Anonymous(30-35)
When I was younger, I definitely would have said fate. We grow up watching fairytales and romantic comedies, which lead us to believe in fate and soul mates and happily ever afters. As I got older and had more life experiences, I know just how rare it is to find someone you just instantly click with. I've had people I've truly wanted to like, or people who I did like but felt like there were too many fundamental differences (in our morals, goals, etc.). I'm with a great guy now, who is the guy I just instantly clicked with. The relationship has felt so easy since the very beginning. It has never felt forced, like so many other relationships. It's unlike anything I've ever experienced, and I can't call it anything but lucky. <3
1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Neither.
Though yes there is an element of luck, and fate is not something we have control over. But it's more about work and effort, just like a career. You cannot guarantee that a kid will pass his exams, get into a university, and a career to pay off his student debt after. But it's what 99% of kids in school want to do, and why 95% of them fail to do so.
A relationship is like that too. 99% of people think they have to go through dating apps and sites like it's a "necessity". but they forget that the success of such is very low. At best they give hookups and short term relationships.I haven't found the "Right Partner" just yet, though a few, came close.
I think everything is FREE WILL, and nothing is "Destined" or "FATE"
Our lives are what we make, and choose, and who we know, and not 'written' in a scroll, or woven into some 'Skein, of Life!'-
It's a blessing and a lot of luck. I used to say fate to this, but honestly I could never deserve him, and so to me it's more of a humble blessing. Also, I don't want to use that we were meant to be as an excuse to stop doing my part or get lazy or careless and give him any less than he deserves. That's what makes it a lifetime blessing. :)
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i have very little belief in luck. luck is brought on by ones actions, while fate needs none
so yes acting will cause a good/bad luck outcome, fate was always the result of not acting at all.
which begs the famous question. do we make our own fate? I think neither mam, we find our right partner because we are compatible with eachother, so I think instead of luck or fate it's compatibility.
And when they meet or find eachother they just click, you just know it's them, you don't need luck or fate, the feeling is enough.both. I think life is a test. Some of us are meant to find someone and others of us are paying for our sin of pride which got the better of us in our youth and we disregarded what we were taught and the warnings from our mentors. Life is a test of faith.
Good question - and I gave the lean to fate for me... could easily argue luck was involved but I do believe fate played a bigger role. I've often said I'd rather be lucky than good lol... and to this question, I'll say I'd rather have good fate on my side vs. unpredictable dumb luck :)
1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. faith: complete trust or confidence in someone or something.
Without the faith of one day finding the right one, we can't speak of the hope of being in a desired relationships, and without that hope the trust required for a healthy relationship is not gonna be there.-
The biggest part of finding the right partner is being the right partner. If we give 100% of ourselves to the relationship and are partner does the same thing, then the relationship will grow. Relationships are not 50/50 but 100/100.
When 2 people have that same goal then finding the right partner comes naturally. - 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. u
When you find the "right" partner, you've just found someone you're generally compatible with ("generally" being the key word) and you choose to love each other and grow with each other.
I dont believe in fate. It is simply people trying to rationalize luck by giving it purpose. I'm also agnostic. So for me the question basically reads is it luck or luck!
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Fate, rabbit's feet and clovers have nothing to do with being persistent or folding. Now if you have a chance meeting at roadside dinner and
both had a bowl of Lucky Charms cereal, maybe. 😂 -
i will go with jax on this one
i dont feel luck nor fate that brought us together but the friendship and tha hard work we both put in our relationship 6.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I think it's mostly luck. Which is fine- it's the end result that counts, and that's something we should remind people who are frustrated about being single.
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Might be luck and might be fate or who knows what might it be, the important thing is that i found my real chosen one...
I'm still waiting for this day but it seems that my luck is zero these days and my fate ran away from me 😂
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