I have this lesbian friend who kind of asked me out?

[Anonymous]

I have this lesbian friend who kind of asked me out. She is really sweet, pretty and a lot of fun but I know I'm not gay. When I said yes to her I thought it was just a hang out thing but then she said "It's a date" smacked my ass (which all my friends do to me) and winked at me as she left. I know she has a thing for me because she has been hitting on me since high school. She is also very aggressive so I know if she wants to she is gonna kiss me or make a move.

I need advice on really what to do...I've never done anything with a girl before and I'm okay with trying it out. I'm even up for trying out dating a girl but I'm nervous.

Guys, lesbian and bi girls tell me how is it dating a girl? I need mostly sexual tips.

[Bambimo]

@tmlsurfs- Wow it is in NO WAY that simple. I'm bi, but it's more like 90% straight, 10% gay. Like mostly I date guys then sometimes I have to go hook up with a girl.

I would check to see what she meant first. Be like "so this is awkward, but I just want to clarify..."

If she was serious, my first warning would be to keep in mind that she is your friend. I know this seems obvious but it's different when you break up with a girl than with a guy.

Dating a girl is similar to dating a guy minus the testosterone, honestly. I can't really think of anything to say on this front- I've always been pretty dominant so that's consistent throughout all of my relationships- guys and girls alike.

As for sexual tips- just do what you know you like. If that doesn't seem to work- just ask. You have an advantage of know where everything is anatomically to begin with along with the knowledge of what does and doesn't feel good, so it really shouldn't be that hard to figure out.

As for actually dating your friend- proceed with caution. If it turns out she was joking, you could even consider hooking up with her anyway- keeping in mind that you both know it's not serious.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[holly916]

I'm a lesbian and dating a girl is better because you have the same mindset... Give it a try

the sex is unbelievable trust me

[Ugliness]

LOL you go girl.

[holly916]

there is so much retard in that sentence... another good reason to be a lesbian

[tmlsmurfs]

I think you are gay, if you weren't and you found out that she meant it as a date you'd correct her in an instant, and not go out, since you said "I've never done anything with a girl before, I'm okay trying it out" it proves your gay, hands down, if you weren't AGAIN I'd say you would correct her. So since you are gay do whatever go out with her have a fun time.

[Asker]

Okay...you didn't answer my question. I don't care if you think I'm gay because I know I'm very into men. Also she asked me liked we were going to hang out which we always do. Nothing seemed weird until she said it was a date.

[tmlsmurfs]

then don't go on the what she calls "a date" because then you'll give her the wrong idea that you may like her in the future, and that she may think you may be lesbo or bi or sumthing, you can hang out with her as a friend you can tell her, but not by yourselves bring sumone(s) with you.

[Drake742]

how'd it go?

[Asker]

I dated her for a while but dating a girl just isn't my thing

[Drake742]

LMAO, did she ever make a move on you? I'm am very curious about lesbian relationships, something about them seems so taboo.

[Ugliness]

OK so you found out for yourself. It's good to hear that you came from it sane. You never mentioned if the two of you are still friends. We're all different. I know the first time a guy kissed me it was sooooooo thrilling.

[Asker]

We're still friends. We live kind of far from each other so it makes talking to each other easier to handle on her part. She says she still loves me and I love you but I don't want to be with a women. Men pretty much do it for me always have and hopefully always will. But the sex with her was really good. We both are very enthusiastic in bed.

[Drake742]

Damn, do other straight girls feel the same way, do you think you were just curious or confused?

How old were you?

[Asker]

I am and was 20 when I dated her. It was just this past summer and I wasn't confused about anything I wanted to try it out with her because she is a sweetheart and said she loved me. What are you asking me about other straight girls? That men do it for them or that lesbian sex is good?

[Drake742]

It seems as though you are attracked to girls, but they don't fullfill you to the same extent as guys do, I've heard before that girls express this feeling of being confused and being attracted to other girls, but they are pretty sure they are straight, I'm asking are most girls uncommitted or undecided in their sexuality?

[Asker]

I think it's like a girl will understand where another girl is coming from but most of the time girls want to be protected and some of us don't feel that way with another woman. I just tried it out and had high hopes. But long term I doubted. I want kids and all that so I wasn't confused I just experimented.

[Drake742]

I hear that a lot as well, I didn't know girls were so aware of the fact that guys actively try to protect them. I also wasn't aware that they concciously make decisions with their saftey inmind; beyond the obvious of course.

[holly916]

soooo what did you do?