People assume im a gold digger because when it's my birthday or Christmas he buys me expensive gifts but the rest of the year i don't expect nothing. Yes i have the privilege to be driven around and go out for fancy dinners and holidays (before covid) but they don't seem to realise i pay towards that too. It must all come out of my boyfriends pockets.
The funny thing is i actually earn more than my boyfriend doing a job i hate whilst he earns less doing a job he loves because he can and doesn't have to worry about not earning as much because he'll always have his families wealth to fall back onto just incase unlike myself.
People are constantly judging us for the life we have just because he is rich doesn't make him or me a bad person. He actually raises a lot of money and works for a charity helping adults with disabilities. He doesn't post it on his social media looking for gorly or anything. He's just there because he's passionate about it and that's actually what made me fall in love with him too not his money as he even kept it a secret from me at first
There will always be people eager to put you down, in hopes of pushing themselves up. It doesn't work more than momentarily, so they continue the behavior, hoping it will eventually stick. Generally, people who apply labels without first doing their homework and finding out the truth are jealous of what you have and resent not having it themselves. Gold diggers seek out rich people. It looks like you sought out caring people. The money was a double-edged sword you didn't expect nor seek. I understand how this can be annoying, but, due to the prevalence of women seeking money, it's not going to go away.
You know the truth, and that is all that matters. Generally, when we take things others say personally, it's a sign we believe there is some truth to the statement. If I told you that you had 14 legs, you'd see it as my problem and not take it personally. Accept that this is their problem and has nothing to do with you. As long as you treat people with kindness and respect, volunteer when there is value to what you have to offer (not just for publicity events), and don't look down on or talk down to others, people who matter will eventually see you for the person you are. Did Eleanor Roosevelt bask in the glory of prestige, power and wealth, or did she actively do all she could to help those in need? What do people remember her for?
Unfortunately, our society promotes conformity rather than uniqueness, so people tend to be judged based on how close they come to society's ideal. Not only are these ideals unrealistic, not meeting them only creates a society of people who feel insecure and defective. Be unique and special, and let the pettiness of others wash off your back.