Besides CHEATING what else would you not FORGIVE your partner for?

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MLawrence · Accepted Answer

Cheating wouldn’t bother me much. That’s a free moral ticket for me to move on to another girl.

Attempting to control me, is what I would NOT tolerate for very long.
If it’s my day off and you have a list of shit for me to do. Fuck off. MY free time is not for you to utilize.

Complaining about chores. Fuck off. If YOU find them to be a burden, maybe YOU should stop doing them more often. I do my chores as I see fit. Some more regularly than others. Don’t work yourself into the ground and then blame me for it. I didn’t ask you to do it. I NEVER ask someone to do chores, so don’t fucking ever DEMAND me to do any. I will do them as I find necessary, on MY time, not yours. My cooperation is voluntary, not compulsory.

If I have made prior appointments, they are not automatically canceled, just because you exist and have dropped in unannounced. You can ride with me to those appointments, you can wait, or you can fuck off.

I cannot stand when a woman (or anyone else for that matter) tries to control my time. Even my parents and my clients know better.

jgokgotit · Accepted Answer

I'll always forgive, even in cheating. God commands us to forgive others lest we not be forgiven. However, forgiveness and remaining in a relationship are two separate issues. Things I would BREAK UP for besides cheating are:
-Cruelty to animals or other humans
-Anything that shows anti-police or anti-military leanings
-Any abuse
-Constant negativity (Meaning they ALWAYS find something wrong with the world)
-Habit of lying
-Breaking the law without a reason I feel is reasonable (Even as an officer of the law I do not agree with every law)
-FEMINISM

Everglow5 · Accepted Answer

Well obviously the ones that go without saying e. g., abuse, criminal activity, and other things of the likes.

Other than that, there are a few things I'd flip out about. If he were to use my insecurities against me or irrationally. For example, someone I opened up to about once said to me while we were playfully arguing "Ha, now I understand why (her name) told you you should (bleep)"

I was not happy about that. Anything like that, and it would be hard for me to forgive you. So i. e., if they were to use my insecurities/sensitive topics as an insult or tool.

Also, if they were to drink my tea without asking.. we'd have some issues.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Insulting my family (unless I agree with him, then that's okay, lol) If he hurts and/or kills an animal, especially a dog.  Committing a serious, criminal offense Telling me I can't or shouldn't exercise and/or play video games anymore- I'm leaving him if he utters those words, LOL Obvious there's others, like abuse, rape, theft, drug use... those go without saying! But I wanted to list some non-conventional things as well.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

*physical abuse *Emotional abuse *Constantly lying

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Verbal or emotional abuse and stinginess or hatred over minor costs - Like if a guy hates me for accepting rides home without paying him money for every single ride

Apope16 · Answer

Just lying in general. if you are honest and never cheat there is a lot i can work with

cth96190 · Answer

Actually, I would forgive cheating.
We all have our sexual needs and at the most basic level we have drives in our lizard brain that certain create behaviours.
That is why men talk about post-nut clarity.
Once the sperm has been ejaculated, the lizard brain goes quiet and we have a 'WTF have I done' moment.
Women experience something similar.
If I had a woman who had an itch that needed to be scratched, I would probably tell her to go for it and then tell me about afterward.
The things that would and could not be forgiven would include cruelty to animals, choosing to be an obedient serf of the New World Order and having sex with a man of another race.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm actually shocked no one has brought this up yet. But, I would never forgive a partner giving me an STD. However, it depends what kind of STD it is and the nature of it.

For example, let's say I started dating someone, we had sex and they discovered they had an STD BEFORE the relationship and gave it to me. If it was something that was incurable, like Herpes, HIV.. things like that... I would get pissed! However, if it's something like Chlamydia or something curable, I wouldn't be too upset.

The reason I bring up STDs is because a friend of mine had a partner who lied about having an STD and gave her herpes.

Citizenkirk · Answer

I don't hold onto grudges, resentment, or anger with someone I love. We are either there for each other, or wego our separate ways.
I will not discard the good times we had, to stew over the bad.
If someone I care about deliberately hurts me out of spite, then the time we have shared together has been for naught, and there is no future for us.
For me, love can not be turned too hate, because love isn't about me, it's about us. No one can ever take that from me, and I would not allow it if someone tried.♥️

David92506 · Answer

I was dating a woman and we got along great. The only issue was she would beat her dog if she had a bad day. She would come home, take off her shoe, and smack the dog in the head with it. I just couldn't handle it and she wasn't going to change her ways. I had to break it off with her.

BunnyGirl420 · Answer

Any form of abuse... Or so I would say if I weren't too forgiving when my ex was sexually abusing me and I didn't leave until a friend forced me to. I wish I was given the choice but in a way Im glad she forced me cuz if she didn't, I would probably still be being abused today, almost 3 months after him and I split. I still love him but I can't let myself be in that situation amymore.

Hangry22 · Answer

Animal abuse and all other stuff like others said
But my personal dealbreaker is him appreciating other girls for the same action or same body part that i did/have (which he didn't appreciate me for). It's complex and it's something i grew up experiencing always. So such a thing will kick him to the group of people who makes me feel suffocated

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Bestiality , false rape accusations , stashing (especially of me), and putting a wedge between me and family through lies. Or being a gold digger who doesn't care that I barely have any to dig. A freaking vulture.

Pyrofox · Answer

Kidnapping one of my three nieces. Got little Mercy for a stunt like that. A great way to trigger every ounce of anger I keep pent up inside.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

I wouldn’t really care if he cheated, but I could never forgive him for hurting an animal or making a sexist joke.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Not forgivable:
- if she would suddenly like K-Pop, Hip Hop or Rap
- eating the last HARIBO gold bear in the house without replacing it
- manipulation; attempted or applied
- purposely being disloyal about (important) stuff we had agreed on

Finchie40 · Answer

Selfishness , if they don’t think of you when making decisions , little white lies , verbal and physical abuse ,

Anonymous · Answer

Physical violence when I told her to stop. I’ve had women who started to do borderline do this shit to me. If I kept on dating them they would be the type to initiate physical abuse and scream victim when the man hits back. I HATE fucking HATE women like that.

My mom did this bullshit to my dad. Out of self defense he shoved her (hard) to get her off of him.

Guess who then called the cops? It only happened once in their entire marriage. But it happened.

mélancolie · Answer

being a pedo, having done certain types of crimes, being a complete dick in general wether it's to me or other people, policing everything i do (like my socials, internet search, when & where i go out), trying to change me & being a complete slob

Newhead · Answer

Playing mind games, I give people who do that the boot.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmm... good question. My dad pretty much set the bar for me, so there's a lot I won't tolerate. I think a big one for me is an uncontrolled temper. He was never one to yell, so I can't accept entertaining a guy who can't keep his emotions in check. I think I can forgive one slip up, but if you feel like you have to raise your voice to get your point across, you're probably not worth my time.

codyccc · Answer

Entering any religous building unless under threat of death and even then you better have the warning shot in you Stealing my money over $2000 Hitting my kids

Anonymous · Answer

Drowning our kids. Kicking the dog in anger. Sharing intimate details of our life without my consent. Being a generally terrible person.

Snickermarstwix · Answer

Using the things I told her, like secret or very personal against me in order to win an argument. Like it's a point of no return. Like don't weaponise my feelings towards my momma or anything just cause you're mad cause you won't ever see me after that.

BeyondCuriosity · Answer

Probably something like spending money for rent or something to feed a substance or gambling addiction. I wouldn't even hold it against them personally, and I would forgive them on an emotional level, but I just couldn't tolerate that for the obvious practical reasons. I'm not going to live like that.

BrokenPromises · Answer

Accusing me of cheating, when I’m 100% innocent.
my partner of 3 1/2 years accused me last March, I couldn’t forgive them. I got tired of trying to convince them I’m innocent, so I just walked away.

Dongtai · Answer

Killing our child I guess. There aren’t a lot of things that’s impossible to move on from. Cheating is the one thing that can completely destroy trust. For me at least. Loyalty is the one thing I can’t debate on.

Just_Me89 · Answer

Cheating, dishonesty, illicit drug taking, deliberately hurting another living creature or committing another serious crime.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Lying about being not gay or trans, Gold digging (it's not just about cheating) rape/sperm stealing and gossiping about me.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

No sex.  Obvious exception medical, or physical ailments.

Nikkilee12 · Answer

Gambling our savings!

killerboots · Answer

Honestly, I would forgive a woman for cheating before I forgive a woman for calling the cops because she don't want me

KnightKissedbyFire · Answer

Changed his mind on his values on having or not having kids once we are married and I've made a permanent body decision for that. Unforgivable.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know about forgive but it's difficult to see a way forward if they are consistently demeaning, disrespectful and mean spirited.

siseñor · Answer

acting like a spoilt brat. i mean like refusing to even go a different route to the shop. or after you get in an argument with someone ignoring everyone else & being grumpy on a day out. i'd get pissed.

prince370 · Answer

It all comes down to cheating - be it lies, financial, sexual... lack of loyalty (that makes you wonder why be together at all if you are just her ATM machine)

Elsa143 · Answer

Lying, being secretive, taking me for granted, telling me what to do, being mean or selfish to others and not loving me enough.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Getting a haircut because hair length is a signifier of status in the clan structure that I am a part of, and if she did that to me, I would have to immediately die from the dishonor of her doing that to me by seppuku.

Xochitl2021 · Answer

Cheating... once a cheater , always a cheater. Trust is a high commodity and once is lost you can never get it back... just like time.

Browneye57 · Answer

It's complicated. Life and relationships are not black and white.  And while you cannot blame the victim of cheating, there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship.

liburnia · Answer

Verbal or emotional abuse, physical abuse and drinking

art84 · Answer

Physical abuse like if she started hitting me no apparent reason and wouldn't stop. Anger issues like just going into a complete rage and getting mad for no apparent reason.

sexiwolfess82 · Answer

Not being attentive to the relationship or at least giving 30% to building a life together!

vee31 · Answer

Not feeding my pet and let my pet die

pleasestopthis · Answer

Ruining our finances, treating our children badly, scamming me or my family members, doing illegal things.

AdithyaR · Answer

Physical abuse, manipulation of certain degrees, if they commit some kind of serious crime. All these are deal-breakers for me.

markthespot · Answer

With holding back information, stealing from my family, our families. Its time to do something different somewhere else. I dont give a second at a first impression.

Eliiiiii · Answer

For hating my parents. Not respecting my opinions and feelings.

courtney06 · Answer

Finding out he’s a pedophile

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Getting an abortion. Neglect of our child that led to death or serious injury. Hard drugs being used or regular drug use.

Anonymous · Answer

Saying he gay after 10 kids and 100 years 😭😭

Anonymous · Answer

Hurting/abusing a child, and rape

Anonymous · Answer

Aborting our child that I wanted to keep.

Nea02 · Answer

Sharing my nudes to others lol

CoolKatie · Answer

drama. accusing , verbal abusing , not keeping promise and not taking things serious.

apple_jack · Answer

If he eats my pie I will throw him out. Period.

Egirl28 · Answer

Verbal or physical abuse

HOAAH · Answer

If he gambled all our money away.

paraXaraq · Answer

Watching our anime show without me, unacceptable!!!

Agape93 · Answer

Rape Abuse Manipulation  Lying

beefy40 · Answer

Verbal or emotional abuse and lying about her past.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I'm always willing to forgive if they are contrite about their mistake.

andypaul2490 · Answer

If she tries to poison me or kill me.

Besides CHEATING what else would you not FORGIVE your partner for?

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