My boyfriend is dyslexic (Numeric & Lingual), is it wrong/rude of me to correct him?

[Anonymous]

I swear, I don't correct him on purpose!
We all make mistakes sometimes & my family will correct one another, to us it's second nature to do so.

He called cupcakes "Muffins" & relish "Radishes", among other small things. I really try not to correct him, unless I can't figure out what he is referring to & blurt it out when it clicks (like when he called relish "radishes", we were talking about hot dogs, I don't know why is didn't click right away that that was the word he was looking for). He tickles me into submission when I correct him.

He mentioned it to me when we first started talking, he said people have always made him feel bad about it. I told him I don't mind, nor care, that sometimes this will happen from time to time. Sometimes he catches himself, stutters a second to correct himself, but I told him not to worry about it.

I didn't want to mention that my ex-husband was from Leon Mexico &, even though he had been in the US for years & was fluent in English, he would confuse words too.

I always feel bad when I correct him, because it just slips out. I never do it to be like "no, you're wrong, this is the right word". I'm trying really hard to watch myself & make sure I don't do it, because I don't want him to feel like I'm being an asshole or making fun of him.

Is there any advice on how I can work on this? I don't want to accidentally make him feel horrible or self-conscious, as I already feel like I've done this...

[caring__1]

Rather than hold yourself back from doing something either of you would prefer not being done, discuss this topic with him and ask him what he's appreciated the most when people have noticed his little glitches in the past. In other words, focus on what works rather than what doesn't work.

Forget the number 7. Whatever you do, do not think about 7. 7 is not something you are ever to think about again. What is this number you aren't thinking about? The brain doesn't differentiate between do and don't. All it hears is 7... 7... 7... 7.

You're more likely to appreciate the results when focusing on what you do want rather than what you don't want, for whatever behavior we reinforce is the behavior we will see more of. You'll never go forward if you're always looking back.

[madgoat]

How does he feel when you do it?
If he doesn't mind and understands you genuinely are only trying to make sense of what he said, it could be a cute couple thing. Said out of love and trust.
Something you should try to keep on top of though.
And if he does mind, it's going to be a problem for you both.

[Asker]

He told me he doesn't mind, but I make a conscious effort to not correct him regardless. Everytime it slips I apologize.

[madgoat]

Sounds like you've found something that works for you both.

[sheikalana]

I don't see that as something rude at all I also have dyscalculia and I genuinely appreciate when someone corrects me, same if I type or write something wrong.

[Ewgies01]

Ask him what he wants. Ask him if he wants you to lovingly correct him. Or leave it alone. Then respect his wishes.

[NathanDavis]

" he tickles me into submission when I correct him" that sounds lke fun.

Don't worry about if at all, if you do not mean to be rude then he won't feel it as rude.

Other people could be anyone, just jerks from school or whatever and you're not just anyone, you're not people, you are his significant other.


by the way, when women have corrected me it's always been a great feeling to me.

[MrCreep]

Most people are just stupid not dyslexic I know lol

[Asker]

No, he's really dyslexic, and that was uncalled for