Why is saying "if you loved me you'd do it" considered manipulative? (Page 2)

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Like, it's true - if my boyfriend loved me, he'd do this thing for me (I want a threesome with another guy), but he says that it's just being manipulative.

lillianaustin · Answer

wowww, why would you do even do that to him? I wouldn't do that to a guy i love or let alone ask hm that

sp33d · Answer

So if he refuses to do something, does that automatically mean he doesn't love you? Apply your logic in your case, then. If you loved him, you wouldn't ask him to do something he doesn't want to.

jshm2 · Answer

Because you're placing pressure on the person, for self gain.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl what the fuck? I read this title and was like “yeah I agree if it’s a basic need that needs to be met they would do it.” Then I read about the threesome.🤦🏽‍♀️ Seek Jesus.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

It is being manipulative. Also would you have a threesome with him and another girl?

fonduegirl · Answer

Because love is supposed to be unconditionally given.

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes it's being manipulative for you to talk hom into you cheating on him with another guy.

IsuckIguess · Answer

Is forcing people to do something good? Don't think so. Stop forcing him into shit he doesn't wanna do.

Screenwriter · Answer

He's right and you're selfish. If he's said "No," that's the end of the matter.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Because it is

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Because that is being manipulative. If my partner ever told me "if you don't do this, you don't love me" I'd be out of there in a heartbeat.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

He's right. It's one thing if you ask for a small favour, like him going to the store for you but a threesome is another level.

grega239 · Answer

Because it is. You're manipulating his love for you to achieve your selfish desire. If you loved him you wouldn't have said that

gmeext · Answer

It puts an unnecessary burden on the person you're asking to "prove" their love in trivial situations. It's a preferred tactic for abusers who'll repeatedly exploit it and love loses its true meaning.

beebella · Answer

Because you're trying to convince someone to do something that they don't want to do.

bulletbob555 · Answer

To me its manipulative. I hate those words in a relationship they hurt the relationship more than you could gain in the short term. I've never went through the 3 some if you love me though. If he said no then it's no until he changes his mind

rc321 · Answer

Question is if you love him, why would you share yourself and him with someone else?

Dontaaa · Answer

Because that's blackmail. Blackmail is a form of manipulation.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

That's insanely manipulative. Are you a narcissist or something? This is shameful way to treat your significant other. Fucks sake.

pigoat · Answer

"Hi this is Anonymous let me just dump this question here and leave" 👎👎

MsElizabeth96 · Answer

I Really hope you're a troll, if not I feel sorry for your boyfriend

MillenniumBill · Answer

Men say it to women to get sex, women say it to men to get everything else.. So it balances out.

iGodric · Answer

(I want a threesome with another guy) 👀 Da F Did you really You know what Do you boo boo do you

maryisbreathing · Answer

I think it is a bit manipulative in your situation but it isn't always

Anonymous · Answer

Of course it's manipulative of you. The fact that you don't see it as manipulative just demonstrates the fact that manipulative behavior is so ingrained your personality that you see it as normal.

Anonymous · Answer

Because doing whatever your partner wants isn’t love, and trying to set up that kind of ultimatum is attempt to manipulate people into getting your way.

Emperorxxxemilio · Answer

If they try to force you to do anything with guilt tripping you it’s manipulative and you need to take an observers point of view and not get too pulled into their shit.

Prettyapathetic · Answer

Yes, i think using that love energy for your own personal selfish reasons is bad

DaddyRollingStone · Answer

You should drop his socials so I can tell him to dump you

Nazgol · Answer

Because you're trying to make him feel guilty and question himself by questioning his love to you

Guanfei · Answer

It is. It's basically emotional blackmailing. Pretending they doubt your love because you don't bow down to any demand.

Wise4myage · Answer

Because you could wind up doing something you're really not into and regret it later.

Anonymous · Answer

lol why do you still even have a boyfriend with that kinda brain

Jakeofalltrades93 · Answer

because if you loved him you wouldn't make him do anything he doesn't want to

tripptt9 · Answer

You are being manipulative... dump him and find yourself a submissive cuck... then you can fuk other guys and make him watch

ayomanwya · Answer

If you loved him you wouldn’t say “if you loved me you’d do it”

Smegskull · Answer

Because you are taking control of how they express their persona.

Glasgow55 · Answer

It's emotional blackmail.

spartan55 · Answer

You don't want a threesome, trust me.

Anonymous · Answer

As a master manipulator, that is MANIPULATION

SavageGirl101 · Answer

You are being manipulative

K-I-S-S · Answer

If you paid me i'd tell you.

Anastasia97 · Answer

I think so it’s sound he isn’t enough for you.

monkeynutts · Answer

He just ain’t down for any kind of Ménage a trios.

TallAnon · Answer

"If you love me, you'd get another girl instead".

dwiller943 · Answer

Because it is...

msc545 · Answer

Yes, it is.

Anonymous · Answer

YES!!

Floppy2112 · Answer

Good luck with that!

Waldoe · Answer

he is right...

collie22 · Answer

its is

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