Have you ever called your parents by name?

Question

I used to, but now that I'm reapproaching both my parents I'm trying to let go the habit. Especially because my mother shares a variation of my fiancée's name and is weird at times. What about you?

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Yes, my father. Which is super weird to some people. Shows you how un-traditional my family is.
My father used to call my cousin a nickname. He added an 'o' on the end of his shortened name. Then my cousin called my dad a similar name, adding an 'o.' Then my sister heard this and copied my cousin, but dropping the 'o' and using his regular name. I saw my sister do this, so I started doing it. And my dad never said anything/don't do it. We've all been doing it since we were kids. I called my stepfather by his first name. Which he was also fine with. He never wanted to be a dad to me.
I wanted to call me in-laws by their first name, but glad I asked, because they said, "No, mom and dad", which I understand. They're very traditional.
My mother changed her name to a completely different North American name, simply because her birth name is in another language. She chose a male name.
Then later, she got her first grandchild to call her a completely different name. A bizarre, abbreviated version of a common, popular one.
I tried calling her "Mommie Dearest" a couple of times, after watching the biography of Joan Crawford movie. She was not having it. She wanted me to call her 'Mummy' but I ended that, as a teenager. It's been back to 'Mum' for most of my life now.
We are an odd family. But I actually enjoy these specific quirks about them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nope, we have to give respect to anyone who's older than us ie.., even if the person is just one year older to me, I'm not supposed to call them by their names, that's in the culture, and calling someone who's older than me by their name is disrespect, so I don't. That being said, I honestly can't imagine of calling parents by their name... and I'm shocked to know that some people does that.

We have certain words to address people who are older than us with respect... (I know English speaking ones won't understand this, because the vocabulary is Miss, Mrs, Mr, Sir, Madam etc).

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Yeah I do. But I alternate depending on the circumstance.

My opinion on this:

Even though I think that it can be more respectful to say it, if a person calls someone by their name, I don't think that should be viewed as unacceptable or disrespectful.

The name they go by shouldn't be treated as an insult just because a younger or a person they feel should say it doesn't. It should remain as a preference and people should have a choice without unnecessarily negative consequences looming.

dtweed1996 · Accepted Answer

Yes well not while talking to them like my mother I only say her name in history class or whenever I am talk about political scandal then again I don't pay attention to the continent Asia while my fathers name I only say it when someone is asking for my name

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

No, they would probably give me such a look of disapproval if I did! Lol Unless I'm introducing them, or referring them to someone, I call them mom and dad.

Anonymous · Answer

You ever see that meme that says "My mom swore so much when I was little that I thought my name was Fuck"? It stands true to my life. I have been called every name in the book, as well as being told to go kill myself. Or that I should have died instead of my sister. Some families are fucked. When you have kids of your own after a life like that it is a CONSTANT fight to break that cycle.

Hoper-101 · Answer

As a child it was always dad. I moved out the DAY I turned 18. Finally see my father over 15 years later because my children wanted to meet grandpa. I showed up on his door step and you would be DEAD WRONG to think I wasn't gonna call him by his real name. Now that I don't live under his roof it is William. William was never exactly a father figure.

ariadneR · Answer

Yes.
My dad and I work for the same guy, just different branches. So if im working there, or covering there, I won't call him "dad" unless it's just him and I talking. If there are other people around I'll call him by his name. More profession in a work place.

LogicalGal123 · Answer

YES. 😈 just to throw them off a bit. Lol especially my dad (step dad, he's pretty much is my dad since he raised me like his own since I was 2). My siblings and I think he zoned out A LOT of times. So every time we called him dad just to get his attention when we have a conversation. He doesn't pay attention. We kept calling him like "dad. Dad. Dad. Dad! Dad! DAD!" and he's literally across from us and still nothing so we are like "Joe!" Then he turns around and said "ha?" 🤦🏻‍♀️

HitTheQuanYin · Answer

Never have and never will, unless I am asking someone else questions about where they are, etc. Addressing them by name can be very disrespectful.

electromagnetic · Answer

I do my mom but by default really. Her name is Reyna, but everyone calls her Aunty Reyna. So when I was growing up, I started calling her Aunty Reyna too. It just stuck around.

clalinesuu · Answer

Umm not when im calling them at home or family ocassion, but yes when im referring them in a professional conversation. Like i can't call my dad “dad” in the office.

MCheetah · Answer

Yes. My "mother" is a bitch who I have zero love or affection towards, so I've been referring to Kim by name since I was 12. I have no real "mother."

KibblesBits · Answer

I only call my parents by their first name. My mother hated it at first but it's not my problem.

spartan55 · Answer

I used to use my mom's first name if I was trying to find her at a crowded party etc.

doopayo · Answer

My mom thinks it’s rude so I’ve just always called them “mom”

Miyasee_ · Answer

No that’s unacceptable. In Turkish language there are specialized words even for elder sisters and elder brothers in terms of respect. So i can’t do that

hunsinger · Answer

I don’t like to do it. It feels awkward and disrespectful

Stevo-Irl · Answer

No I call everyone else by their names. Special relationships such as my parents have earned their titles!

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Yes, during college when my dad wanted me to call him by his name (I think it was because he didn't want to appear old or something).

Old_Golden · Answer

I do it frequently because it's awkward being an adult and trying to get their attention in public by saying "Mom..." loudly

karaspara · Answer

No it’s always been mummy and daddy to me I have a couple of friends who do though

douride2 · Answer

I never called my parents by their given names. It was always dad or mom.

Iron_Man · Answer

No it’s disrespectful and they wouldn’t have it anyway

collie22 · Answer

to my Dad sometimes when he's acting so professional i have to. it dose have an effect on him

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Yes both of my parents I called them by first name it is normal for people my age to called their parents by first name.

syskey69 · Answer

If i did i would be dragged back to india and beaten with a club

Hannah_le · Answer

Yup and my dad got pissed 😂.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

My mother. She doesn’t deserve to be called mom

bolverk · Answer

Never did, If I'd tried it I'd have been on the receiving end of a clout!

Siren777 · Answer

Yes, when we joke around.

Julio20Ab · Answer

I Did !!! andddddd... You know the rest of the story...

cicadas · Answer

Only when joking around.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. As a teenager. I guess it was a bit passive aggressive.

Anonymous · Answer

So you are a mama boy now?  Pathetic. These people mistreated you for years and you let it all go for some honey words? Grow up. You got no good parents, you aren't a child and be a man.

pleasestopthis · Answer

No, I always called them mamá or papá

Marhaban-1 · Answer

Yep I have before. I just find it totally normal

Aimee_Maemae16 · Answer

Yeah when I was younger

DrunkenMaster · Answer

I call my mom by her name sometimes as a joke.

rodeschaap · Answer

No, I haven’t.

randomusername321 · Answer

Nope.

Holisticapproachsara · Answer

Always

EyesOfGod · Answer

My mom gets mad at me when i say her name xD

Gedaria · Answer

No...

msc545 · Answer

Maybe a few times.

shadowlunitic03 · Answer

I have, now i feel like it right now tehehe.

oncpl · Answer

Never.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

No, that’s weird

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