The primary reason people cheat is because of a lack of communication in a relationship. More often than not, if you're in a relationship, your relationship will have some issues. Many people enter relationships because they want to be loved, cared for, treated kindly, sexually satisfied, and feel protected by their partner. Sometimes, a person in a relationship might feel that some, most, or all of those aspects are missing in their relationship. Instead of talking to their partner about what is missing, they instead secretly seek another person to provide them with what they're missing. This poor communication could be a result of many things such as not wanting to hurt their partner's feelings, safety reasons, still viewing their main partner as "useful," or in some cases, to intentionally hurt their partner. People that don't want to hurt their partner's feelings might still have feelings for him or her, resulting in them cheating secretly and hope that he or she doesn't find out. The solution to this is that, sometimes, you might have to hurt some feelings to repair a relationship. It might not be pleasant, but it helps in the long run. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. As for safety reasons, sometimes, a partner could be mentally unstable and abusive.
Some people threaten to kill their partner or turn abusive if they try to break up. Thus, to protect themselves, they cheat quietly. The solution to this problem is to get out an abusive relationship as quickly and safely as possible. Cheating isn't necessary. As for the main partner still being "useful," unfortunately, some people only enter relationships just to use people. For example, a partner might not be good at sex anymore, but still makes plenty of money. Instead of communicating about the decreased sex quality, a cheater would have sex with another person, but still come around and use the main partner for his or her income. The best solution for that would be to communicate and solve whatever problem it is, whether it's sex or not. In probably the worst cases, some people cheat out of spite specifically to hurt their partner. A good example of this is when one person suspects his or her partner of cheating. Instead of communicating these suspicions, the person might cheat in return to make their partner angry. This isn't wise, especially if the other person wasn't cheating at all. All and all, these issues could be prevented if both parties simply worked together to solve their issues instead of ruining the fabric of their relationship by cheating.
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There are many, many reasons why a person may cheat. There is definitely not a one size fits all answer. And I don't believe that it really matters on what sex, color, etc. you are. I know many women and men from all different types of backgrounds and ages that cheat or have cheated on in the past. I also don't believe in the saying of "once a cheater, always a cheater". Ok now reasons as you asked.. some people are in sexless marriages.. this can be because of a partners health issues. Say your wife gets cancer and is sick.. sex is just not something that is available. Many people would not want to get divorced in order to satisfy a physical need. Now I'm not talking morals here.. I'm not judging anyone or stating that one way is right or another. I just saw this happen. I wish I could give you a better answer. I will say that I have personally cheated and been cheated on.. not necessarily in that order. It is certainly not something that I wish on anyone. However, I do agree with you that honesty in any relationship is a vital key. Communication is a must.. you must tell your partner if your needs are not being met. Also, society is changing. This is where morals come into play. Things like social media can make staying faithful very difficult. More and more I am learning about couples who agree to have open relationships, where when I was coming up, to the best of my knowledge, that wasn't heard of. I know that children and finances come in to play with decisions regarding divorce. Well, I hope this helped a little. Good luck and best wishes to you.
He's a relationship dynamic for every type of interest. Monogamous relationships are only one kind of relationship dynamic and yet people keep talking about cheating and being faithful as if many of these people that might be better served in taking me type relationship scenarios or even swingers groups don't have any choice, when in fact, they do.
Some people just aren't suited for monogamous relationships of any kind and would be happier in a different type of relationship scenario one in which you can sleep with many people as you want and not be cheating on your significant other or even your insignificant other or others.
One thing you can say about swingers for the most part is that they don't cheat on each other. The same can be said for the single folk the asker is talking about that would rather be single instead of cheating on someone which is also a better alternative cheating.
a lot of questions on this website that talk about cheating don't even fit that criteria because they don't mention any conditions in which someone's being betrayed by a particular relationship scenario or format and assess circumstances described in a question may not even come close to describing a cheating relationship within that context.
Sexually if the person has a attention span and length of a hummingbird, then monogamous relationships might not even be appropriate to be on the table, at least not until they've been sure of it.
I think you're absolutely right about choosing being signal as an alternative to cheating on someone in a monogamous type relationship. What purpose is served, by breaking someone's ♥️ unnecessarily?
The reasons vary, and not limited to, people simply have the luxury and ability to cheat. If times were harder and people needed each other to survive, cheating would be rare. We live is a relatively peaceful and easy time.
For women, a lot of cheating is around hypergamy. Women are always looking for the bigger and better. They always marry up, even if married. But it also stems from boredom, ego and emotional needs.
For guys, it's simply for respected to have more women. People will shame the married guy, but will admire his ability to be sought. A married man can have many girlfriends and friends with benefits, all most or all know of each other, and don't mind competing for what they perceive as the best man. They won't say they believe that, but they will do it just to see if they can. Thus has been the norm for centuries, as well-do Roman men who were successful to have a wife, some concubines, and a large group of mistresses. It was expected to keep men excited to be successful. Like the needs of a race horse, they must be fed and we'll conditioned. That still plays out today.
Another aspect is a reliable base-station. It feels good to know you have someone always waiting for you, even if you come up short. It's selfish, but people wanting more all ready are. You can't pretend to emphasize with people who don't have a backup plan. It just sucks to be the backup plan, when you believe your number one.
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I believe some people cheat because they're addicted/turned on by doing the forbidden... Forbidden fruit thing
This is a complex answer. I too used to think the exact way you did. But now I realize that when I was cheated on, I had put the blame on the other person. I never thought what I was doing wrong. It's a hard pill to swallow to admit that I was expecting someone to go without something just because they loved me. That man was in love with me but I wasn't loving him the best that I could by not giving him what he needed. I know to most that it sounds superficial but I'm different now. I now expect a sexual relationship equal to an emotional relationship. And honestly that's exactly how it should be.
Because cheaters can’t admit they are wrong cuz they know they are a piece of shit , it’s a selfish act , they only really care about themselves. Cheating occurs for a lot of reasons and I understand people cheat but I never understood why they would want To go back to the person they cheated on considering that should be their answer that they don’t love their partner if they can cheat on them , but like I said it’s a selfish act Me personally if I cheated on a partner my ass is ending the relationship
They want to have their cake and eat it too.
They want all the benefits of a relationship, while still wanting all the benefits of being single. They want all the good without dealing with responsibility. Cheating is cheating. Whether it's physical or emotional. Being drunk is also a poor reason to excuse someoen of cheating. People who put themselves in positions that will increase the odds of cheating are pretty much not to be trusted.
Unforunately, there is a huge double standard in regards to cheating between the sexes. If a guy cheats, he is "a piece of shit" and it's all his fault. If a woman cheats, it's still the fault of the man. Go figure.The thing is, people don't get into relationships with the intention of cheating on their partner. Okay, some do, but let's talk majority. Sometimes, it's more or less an accident, e. g. when you're drunk. But for the most part it's acting out of despair. You have a partner whom you love very much, but there's something missing in the relationship. It makes you feel unhappy and unloved but you don't want to break up. Also, if there's kids in the relationship, it's not that easy because it's no longer about just the two of you. So it's easier to find someone to fill the void.
I liked your question and gave it a "thumbs up."
I've been in a relationship where I discovered she cheated on me with her ex-husband. They have two children. I know she cheated on me because he texted me and told me. When I asked her she denied it. But when I pursued it she admitted it and then acted like I was the problem. I was in love with her and she said she was in love with me. So why did she cheat? What's the issue?
When I saw a therapist she said maybe I am the problem. Instead of asking why does she cheat, there could be endless reasons, instead ask why am I in a relationship with a woman who cheats on me? What's the issue with me?Well people cheat because they sometimes do not see the love in a relationship or dating they just see it as a game, where they are the player and some probably use the expression don't hate the player hate game or they just do it for child's play or they don't know why. Like I met my gir l three months ago when she was living in South Carolina with her grandmother then she randomly traveled to Pennsylvania where she is with her friend far up state, or that is what she said days ago anyway though she shows frequent love I keep meeting new women and some have not really been in a relationship just used for sex and the girl Jackie has not had a relationship or sex.
Anyway though I gave my heart to rose and wittingly agree to socialize with these other girls I feel like I am cheating I just don't know why.Because some people believe in freedom and that you shod be allowed to do what we want with whoever we want and be free.
The little rule that you must be tied down to one person jus cos your dating then seems like a bullshit rule to me, who made it up?
I will continue to brake this rule jus cos I think it's bullshit, stupid, and I don't agree with itWhy should it matter if you're dating another girl? If a girl gets upset and sad and feels like she is not good enough jus cos you have another, she is stupid and needs to stop being so ridiculous, if she wasn't good enough why would you be dating her? She jus insecure n needs to toughen upI wouldn't care if a girl I was dating for another boyfriend.. it's human nature and we can't help but be sexually attracted to multiple peopleThey don't want to give up what they already have. But they're bored AF and like the attention from a third party.
Cheating is pretty well split 50-50 by gender, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men.
Any woman can and will fuck any guy they want, any place they want, any time they want. Just ask them! It is and always has been, all about the FEELZ.When there's marriage and kids involved, I'm not saying it's right, but I can certainly understand "why".
Those who cheat on who they're dating there's usually more going on. High desire for multiple partners while still wanting a relationship or some sort of insecurity.Sometimes they're using the person they're in a relationship with as a status symbol, or could want the security of having a constant, reliable supply of sex, or want the experience of having an emotional connection with someone.
Some were forced into the marriage and not by choice of their own, some just settle for the first thing that comes around and get too comfortable, not wanting to fix things. Some just would rather suffer and are not up for new beginnings. Some are in abusive relationships and find it hard to leave. Some are in it for benefits. Some are just fulfilling society's expectations of relationships/marriage & not that their heart really wants..
No valid reason for cheating. Idc what she says, if she cheats on me she's immediately a scum and an asshole to me. And Idc what I might did in the relationship, if she has a problem with me then just leave. Plain and simple.
Chicks are so turned on by sneaking around. A reliable guy that doesn't suspect shit and the thrill of being pursued on the quiet... c'mon man. Also, they enjoy a touch of suspicion here and there.. Would it shock you to learn that sometimes they want you to find out? Much of the time they dont care at all if you find out because you should stay out of their business if you dont like it.
because when people cheat, there is usually something dysfunctional or missing in the relationship. Sometimes there are people out there who are not meant for monogamy. They are always craving for something exciting
I have been cheated on. She adamantly denied, but I had people letting me know where they seen her and with whom. It seems that with her, it was an escape from issues She caused. I had found out that she had cheated on a large number of men with the same guy.
They are cowards. Plain and simple. Or they just want their cake and eat it too.
Because people want their cake and eat it too.
Cheaters want someone else while still wanting to reap the benefits of the relationship that they're still in.
It can be considered a mixture of greed and lust, I guess.Depends on where you live. I can't blame women who get threated with death and violence -this abuser deserve the worst anyway and by cheating she can find someone who love her and may help her. I mean some people have no other options. In Asian/middleeastern countries homosexual people have to marry the opposite sex and so they have no other options than cheating. So if your life is not threated or you are not abused, i see no reason to cheat. Just fucking leave instead of cheating.
I've never understood a cheater's mentality. For me, if I want to be with multiple women at the same point I'll just stay single. I guess some may brag about it, but that's not what drives them to do it. Maybe self validation?
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