I realized, as a black girl, that I‘ll never find my happy ending.
I will never date and enjoy my dating life, will never marry or have kids.
I will probably die alone.
So I wish that I was white, no matter how long, even for a second I would to anything to be (come) white. I stopped a whitening cream I used to buy but now I‘m considering starting to start using it again. I just want to be white so bad, just having beautiful long hair and a normal life without prejudices, discriminstion or (verbal) attacks from cops and other people. I just want to be freaking normal.
What can I do? Does a treamtent exist to become white somehow?
This is so f***** up in so many different ways and I feel bad that you feel did that would make it easier for you that's what I mean by it being f***** up the world has to change and we have to start changing our politicians are not going to change it you're the ones who keep it going racist keep it going because they hate so f****** much you got to keep the hate alive f*** them I can't wait until the day we all get judged and if you are racist I hope you'd never get to f****** come back up to this planet I wish I could give you a big hug right now you have to understand something we are all 97% same DNA our loving God gave us 3% DNA that changes some characteristics about us one of them is the ability to adapt to the harsh environments and conditions that we were going to be in he knew that there was going to be places on this Earth did we just f*** you up so he gave his skin pigmentation to protect us that for us to f****** fight about whatever the past is the past is over f*** that it's done it's over get over it so I have to say it that way but I'm so sick and tired of all the b******* and all the sick motherfukers out there just like to keep it going you all f****** sick like I said if you have any part of racism in you I hope you disappear from this planet and never come back I don't care what color you f****** are you're human f****** being we are all f****** made in the same DNA and how dare you think you're better than somebody else because you're all piece of s*** just like me I I'm a piece of s*** and I and I don't like it so I learned from it change it every single day. Racism has never been in my blood it tried to get forced on me but I was 5 years old at 5 years old my stepfather never cuss in his life we were driving down the road and some black guy cut him off he started yelling screaming f****** n***** f****** n***** and then told me to say it I told him no he told me to say it I told him no but when I got home I got beat with a belt just because I didn't say that at 5 years old I didn't know what the past had held what had happened I just knew it was wrong inside of me a 5 year old I knew it was wrong and to this day it's still wrong most people out there in black or white whoever you are your brainwashed you f****** sheep your followers why don't you grow the f****** and for you I'm so sorry that you feel that way I really wish that I had an answer for you but I think you need to love yourself no matter what color skin you have understand this when we are born we are one cell each and every day those cells grow cells don't have color genes and DNA have color it sells don't when we die we leave our body behind and we are a ball of light a ball of energy it has no color and how dare anybody disrespect our loving God for creating somebody and all the beautiful things he has on this planet the meek shall inherit this Earth not a color and like I pray to God that he takes all people it has racism inside of them and f****** s e n d s then to the Moon
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Sure, you might have more struggles, depending where you lie, your income, etc. But that happens to some degree everywhere. I live in a mostly "white" area. I'm sure there are racists (there will probably always be racists, anywhere)... and there are a lot of snobs in the area where I live. But the snobs (most who aren't racist)... they're snobby about anyone who isn't in "their crowd." It doesn't matter your skin color... just how much money/power/influence you have. And it's tough trying to work around that, even for me, and I've had some blessings.
Be proud of the good (whatever it is) that you do, and keep striving for the best. Yeah, statistically, you might have had an easier time with some things if you were white, depending on the area/culture you live in, but there are some great things about being black...
I think anyone could say "I think life would be easier if..." Being black doesn't stop you from much these days, if you're in westernized society, and you're wise about what you do in life.
Statistically, while the news sensationalizes things, there are a lot of blessings to living now, no matter who you are, where you are... statistically, you're going to live longer than your grandparents. Statistically, you'll be taller. You have access to better food. In your life, there probably has been handicap accessible stores. We have access to all kinds of information that is fairly easily accessible (on cell phones).
Dating is hard. Not necessarily because you're black, though I won't completely discount the possibility. But... Dating is tough on a lot of people. I have a hell of a time with it, and I'm white and middle class.
You might be surprised. It may BE quality over quantity in your case. It might not happen till later. If you meet the right person for you, that's still a success if it happened at 28 vs if it had happened at 21. Maybe you've just dodged a lot of bullets. I know some of the girls I thought I would have wanted to date in high school, if I had been successful with them, I might be a more messed up person. I know with one girl, I could have easily died in an accident (she drove drunk a lot). I didn't find out for yers that 1/2 of them lost their cuteness and lost their minds from the drugs and drinking and partying that they were able to hide behind the facade of being "a nice girl." But it caught up with them.
So, maybe you'll luck out. Maybe you are and you don't even know it now. Maybe it will happen in 10 years. Maybe a year. Maybe never. Just cultivate a life where you'll be attractive to the types you'd want to attract and who will give you the best chances of having a happy healthy life, even if it doesn't happen. Good luck.
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First off, shame on any and everyone that's insulting or putting the asker down- people like you are part of the problem! What if this question isn't a joke and she is serious? She's on here pouring her heart out, looking for sympathy and advice and some of you have the audacity to insult her? Wow.
Some of you really need to reevaluate your lives, and how what you say might affect others.
Asker: I empathize with you; I do. While I do think whitening your skin is VERY extreme and unnecessary, I get what you're saying to an extent. When I was younger, I used to wish I was white as well! To me, white girls were so pretty. I loved their hair compared to my nappy hair. Their eye colors (because how many black women do you know have naturally blue or green eyes?). And just their fairer complexion. Yeah, I envied them as a child.
Statistically speaking, black women are considered the least attractive ethnicity on all dating sites- and yes, there is plenty of data to back that up. Even on here when people ask questions regarding, "What race are you least attracted to?" or, "What race are you least likely to date?" Black women comes up as the majority response almost EVERY SINGLE TIME. Don't believe me? Do a search for those questions on here and see the results.
And yes, I realize that is not the case for all men! But dating for black women is not always easy. But not many people talk about that for whatever reason. We try dating black men- they don't always want us or put us down. Fine, let me try dating outside my race- that's iffy because not all men of other races want us either! It's like damned if we do, damned if we don't!!!
And don't get me started on all the negative stereotypes around black women. It's like no matter how educated, attractive, well rounded, or hard we strive to go against the negative, there are people out there that will still judge us based on our skin tone. And that's NOT FAIR.
Anon, I know it's hard and there will always be people out there looking down on you because of your race. Screw them. You are a gorgeous black woman and the fact that some people are too blind and ignorant to see that is THEIR fault, not yours! Don't go lightening your skin; that won't solve your problems. Superficially you might be lighter, but you will still be a black woman. Meaning any problems you face won't go away.
I don't know what to say other than I get it; I do. Being a black woman is hard sometimes. But you have to rise above it. There are people that appreciate and love us for who we are. However, you need to learn how to love and appreciate yourself first!
Everyone has discrimination and verbal attacks. I am Asian. An Indian girl (from Bengal) I have had my fair share of Xenophobic attacks from people of the same race (Asians). Admittedly, I have never experienced racism from other races however I have experienced prejudice from others of the same race. I have Marathi friends who have also experienced Xenophobia. Either directly experienced it or I have come across it at some point online or heard some prejudice/stereotyped remarks in real life or have had it narrated to me. It used to irk me but it never made me want to change.
I grew to love my culture more and more. I have such a rich culture. I love Rabindranath Tagore, I love durga puja and I love wearing saris - especially the traditional Bengali rape, more commonly known as the ‘Devdas drape.’ And I love seafood. I love Bengali desserts like roshgulla and sondesh. I love how I look: my dainty hourglass figure on my 5’6 frame and my lightly tanned skin with its olive undertones. I love my long full head of straight and soft dark brown hair owing to my background. I love my language and poetry and the fact that it has so much pure Sanskrit - more so than Hindi. I love that my culture means I can speak several languages, I can dance, I can watch films and soaps that I wouldn’t have known of if I were White.
People who are racist have serious issues and are actually so miserable. I pity them for how much hatred they have within them. They will only become consumed by their own hatred. I pity shade-ist people for their colonial mentality. I don’t want their toxicity anywhere near me and the great thing about life is that I choose who I associate with. I choose not to be on Instagram and other Social Media sites because they’re toxic. I choose to keep less friends because quality matters and frankly I’d rather be alone than around people who try to make me upset.
We can’t change toxic people or their views. We can only help ourselves so in order to be happy we have to shift out own thinking. We have to love ourselves. We have to remove toxic people and influences from our life.
To end this off: I would never want to be White or anything else. I am proud of my background. If I ever get a chance to come back to earth again I would wish for the same family, I would want to return as an Indian (preferably Bengali) and I would want to be born as a girl again. I would never want to give up the richness of my culture and heritage for anything or anyone.
I can't tell if you're trolling but if you’re not, lets not feed the trolls of GaG. So many here will laugh at your pain and few will sympathize. Being black is a beautiful thing. You jus have to get over the insecurities and carry yourself with confidence. As a black woman, i have not experienced what you have. Everyone has their insecurities and you just gotta try not to base it on the color of your skin. Many women and men look up to us believe it or not and plenty are influenced by the culture. You also have black entrepreneurs and celebs who are succeeding so let that inspire you as well. Keep whitening your skin and you’ll look like little Kim and MJ who i doubt died happy with the way he looked. You’re following the wrong influences so maybe walk your own path until you learn how to love yourself. White people are the majority and represent living “the American dream” but theyre not the norm. They also have issues especially in todays world and can't say much of an opinion without being called racist by someone. So really no race has it all atm. People think hispanics/latinos do but theyre stereotyped just like the rest of us. So chill out, learn to love yourself and stop feeding the GAG haters who are happy to see another self-hating black
This reminds me of Uncle Ruckus from The Boondocks who claimed he had "Re-vitiligo" and was born white. Not saying YOU'RE Uncle Ruckus or anything.
Look. I'm a black dude, and I kinda get it. Doubly so since my biggest insecurity is my height and I can't describe to you in words how weak I feel for being a little shrimp down here with all the other sub six footers. I wish I had some magical advice for you or something, but I don't have much.
All I can say is one thing I've learned by myself: EVERY insecurity, doubt, and fear we as humans manifest is a product of being in a wrong society and around the wrong people. 100% of them. What you may hate about yourself may not even be your genuine hatred. But merely, a reaction to too many bad people in your life.
Now, I seriously doubt any cops have ever attacked you or anything (that's media BS), but if you were BLM, you'd either love pretending you're proud of being black, or spend more time painting cops out to be evil because they won't let you rob and murder in peace. So I think it's the insecurity talking. Or hell; maybe you're just a troll looking to bait. I dunno.
But as I suggested, I think you're just insecure about everything. And I also am unsure if you can buy vitiligo anywhere on the internet. If all else fails, just don't vote for Joe Biden. He'll fix you right up to be melanin free in no time!
But yeah, PM me, if you. I kinda get where you're coming from, but it's not the right thought process.
Happiness for the most part doesn't come from being a certain race or being "beautiful". Happiness comes from your own thoughts, actions, and unfortunately influence from those around you. So if I was to make a very quick, uninformed judgement about you from what little you have posted, I would assume you struggle with one of the following: Either you have in the past faced racism and/or the experience white is better, and now your mind believes it Or you currently face that racism and/or the experience white is better, and you believe it. well, humans (of all races), really don't know sh*t. One of the solutions to either of these is to surround yourself with better and more intelligent/non racist people. If there is anyone in your life making you believe these things.. consider cutting them out. Black women are absolutely gorgeous, they haven't always fit the stereotypical beauty standards of the west, but this is slowly changing. Same with the general respect for, is starting to change, and the black lives movement that just happened is long overdue. I live in a small town in Canada, and the majority of the people I have met have been pro black lives. I see white girls wanting to look black, I see white men (respectfully) dating black women.
Its a slow battle but things are improving, and I wish I could just get it in your head that you are not less in anyway because of your skin color or culture.
You should embrace your skin color. You should be proud of it girl! God creates us how we're supposed to be. As someone who had self-esteem issues -and still struggles with them today-, I recognize you do as well. I used to be bullied because of my looks. There were these boys who called me ugly for no reason. So I used to think that "when I take my braces off and have straight teeth, I'll be beautiful and I'll be happy; when I stop my acne, I'll be beautiful and I'll be happy; if I was able to use foundation that matches my skin tone and apply makeup I'll be beautiful and I'll be happy (where I live we didn't have foundation for hella pale people. I'm 27 and this year was the first time in my life I was able to do so). So, long story short I was always thinking that if I did something for my appearance, it would be the solution. But I did them, and I kept finding things to change about myself, and I was never satisfied with my looks, and I was unhappy for years. I let the comments get to me, I'm not the prettiest girl but I'm not that bad looking, my mind made myself seem like I was hideous. It was all in MY mind. Now I look back at pictures of myself and am like: I was so bad on myself. I looked good! Nothing you do to yourself (physical) will stop making you feel unhappy, at least not permanently. My advice is you work on yourself and your mindset. It takes a lot of time, years, and it never stops. Ps. I'm so pale there are days I wish I was at least black or whatever shade that's darker than mine hahah
I was exactly like you except that I'm south east Asian (who live in South East asia as well) and I want to change my facial features as well. I realize that I have a serious inferiority complex. Being white is what I hope I can be although it's impossible. I assume that you live in the West and share common values with any other Westerners. For me, you must have the same values as the guys whom you're attracted with and that's enough.
I know that I have inferior complex (in terms of physical attractiveness and origin because I'm not a westerner) but I also know that it's wrong because people have NO REASON to look down on you. If they do, the world is messed up, not you.
If you feel that the influence is too heavy, go to places where you're most likely to not be influenced with such thinking that "white girls look the best". I recommend you to explore more of tbe world. It honestly helps. Explore more people and places and cultures, traditions around the globe and you will be mind blown by how much people in this world can be so different from the mainstream yet so unique.
Everyone experiences some type of discrimination and prejudice. It's easy to dream about the grass being greener elsewhere, but it generally leads to disappointment.
You talk about wanting to have long hair. All my life I've heard curly-haired females wish they had straight hair and straight-haired females wish they had curly hair. Life is challenging for all. We just assume others have it easier.
People tend to share a public face and a private face. Many of the people you believe are happy have just as many challenges and disappointments as you do, though they may be different, even when their public face appears beautiful to you.
You say you'll never date, marry or have kids. If that was true, where did all the black people come from? Obviously, other blacks continue to date, marry and have kids. You can play the victim or rise above it. I'm not saying you won't ever be challenged by those insecure people who feel they must push others down to raise themselves up a millimeter. There are plenty of black women, black couples and black families that have risen above the challenges they've faced and have become impressive role models. Don't give in to the media. Be the woman you can be proud of, and you'll attract people who are impressed with you.
Black girls and white girls may look different, but their beauty are both equal.
Black girls have the best lips in the world, and are queens of curves. Also their melanin is popping, darker skin tones are so beautiful please don’t wish to be white.
Whitening creams are dangerous, be proud of your melanin and stop harming yourself.
There isn’t any treatments to being white, but there treatments for being comfortable with the way you look. Look up beautiful black girls on Pinterest, TikTok, Instagram, anywhere. If you feel self conscious about your hair, if you haven’t already learn how to properly take care of it, if you have kinky hair it can be hard to take care of it, but when you do it will be all worth it.
Yes, there is a lot of discrimination and racism towards poc, which is incredibly cruel, and awful. But I think we might be I, proving, or improve in the future, just know black girls are beautiful they are actual goddesses and look stunning in the sun, they own sunlight. Also black girls suite every single colour it’s crazy
I'm white, and there's nothing wrong with being black. There is something wrong about hating yourself and the skin you're in. I'm not one of these people that think you should love yourself, but i do think you need to have a little balance with how you see yourself, and self-hatred is definitely not good.
Look, we all have preferences. I know one guy at work that really likes Asian girls, there's plenty of black guys that prefer white woman. If you prefer white men, there's plenty of them that prefer black girls, but they're not just gonna drop on your doorstep, especially if you're not currently taking care of yourself, mentally. If you hate the culture you're in, immigrate to another mostly white one that's more suited to your preferences. But more than anything, learn to start treating yourself like someone you're responsible for, and actually genuinely taking care of yourself. It really is not healthy to hate yourself. It's not healthy to love yourself either, but that's for a different reason. Learn how to like yourself and your skin colour, and you'll have more of a chance of finding a white guy that'll like like you for who you naturally are too.
Lol white people have there own problems, everybody thinks they look beautiful and chiseled by God's own hand but it's only few people of thousands that are better looking because of social media you don't actually see there problems.
Yes they different mindset and culture but it comes with there own baggage. Even for them life is not fully roses and sunshine most white people aren't even getting married now a days.
You just looked at the shiny part of moon, but it has its own dark phase behind its skin.
You might be unaware that white men are going for other race girls and its become global interracial world so some things are moving in positive direction lol.
And white girls havd lot of competition.
Coming to mental health as I have seen or spoke to people I think they are more insecure and depressed and in some tough zone I am not insulting anyone just saying what I have experienced I see lot of women doing self harm even though there are sexy as fuck so skin tone doesn't help.
You need to build strong mindset to face your problems changibg skin tone will not help you even slightly
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Stop. Seriously, end this line of thinking right the fuck now, and never pick it up again.
Be proud of your race. Be proud of your ancestor's faults and successes. Whether you're white, black, Asian, hispanic, middle eastern, sentinel, aboriginal, bushman or a T*rk, your ancestors fought and died bravely for you to exist at all. They were all warriors, explorers, mothers, and leaders. They gave a shit about you before you were born. They gave a shit before you or your parents were even a thought because they gave a shit about their people. And you know what? They still are your people, with their successes and failures, struggles, culture, and desires, they are yours. You are not lesser or inferior (and I'm a white nationalist. This is just the way it is). I do not wish I was black, but neither should you wish you were white.
Your future is not screwed on account of your race. Your future does not have the discrimination you were led to believe it does. You have hope. You have dating prospects. You can be happily married with a great guy who will wake up next to you and love your hair, love your skin, love your eyes, nose, mouth, and your soul, love you from your innermost depth to your outermost appearance. This is not only possible, but likely. You have hope in life.
I do think that black Americans should have their own country and whites should as well. I can't help you for the discrimination thing, but by affirmative action and the like, you're more likely to be discriminated towards by being given a job or getting into a college than a white person, and per police interaction, white people are far more likely to be shot, and have to deal with police power trips just as often.
That's neither here nor there, though, because you have a wonderful, beautiful race that you should and have plenty of reasons to be proud of.
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Either you are trolling or what you are wishing for is a very bad idea.
Look there are several physical aspects of body I wish was different: I wish had a smaller less nerdy looking nose, I was my skull was shaped differently, I wish I had a lower voice, I wish all the red hairs on my head would turn blonde, dark brown or black. I HATED being a part red head growing up. I also wish my skin was slightly browner/tan. I also wish several things about my personality would change. I’m sometimes too nice and I don’t even realize it until it’s too late.
But you know what. Their undesirable characteristics about myself are desirable in other people and never even realized it. It took me a very long time to accept that but finally in the last 2 years I’ve finally started to learn to love myself. The world doesn’t always judge my surface the way I fear it did.
About race. I will never truly understand your existence nor will you understand mine. But I can promise you that your life will NOT suddenly become easier if you got your wish (especially nowadays). Despite what you hear in the news white people really do have our own bullshit to deal with (we got higher suicide rates). It’s not a bed of roses.
I sure hope you’re not trolling just for the laughs. It’s quite unfortunate that you are unable to see the beauty in having a colour complexion. Minus the fact that people are exposing themselves to tanning beds to be were you are. I can’t say I’ve lived your struggle or know your pain because I’ve never experienced it. Truly I’m sorry you had/have to go through those situations. You can go ahead and bleach your skin but it’s not going to make you happy. It’ll allow you to achieve the complexion but that’s it. Girl, speak to a professional and get your mental head space together. If you aren’t able to truly love yourself, I can 100% guarantee others won’t be able to find beauty in you either. Your complexion is your identity, your blood line, your history and that never something to be ashamed of.
Lol really? White girls are going out of their way to look like you.
Look at Kim k and Kylie, Iggy Azalia catch me outside girl. Kylie jenner does the lip filler Even these fitness white women wanna get a booty now.
Before they were anorexic bulimic chicks wanna be skinny model type. They had tittys tho. I'll give them that
Look at the broads black fishing now. They trying to look bi-racial or mixed. Or even brown.
You need to get away from white people media. Which include a lot of black media owned by white people. They brainwash u to hate yourself. "Nappy is bad" "black is bad"
Nothing on this planet look better than a fit black woman.
Kinda sounds like your feeling sorry for yourself and blaming your skin colour for your issues. You will never achieve anything if you make excuses for yourself constantly.
there's plenty of black women who are happily married with children and have successful, happy lifes. Its just the white left wing society with its hidden racist agenda. Treat black people like they are victims so they don't think they are capable of achieving anything. Not everything is down to your skin colour and that's probably the real reason why you're struggling in relationships because you'd rather play victim and pitty yourself then look at the bigger picture and self develope yourself. How do you expect anyone to love you if you don't love yourself. We all have struggles and insecurities in life but you have to pick yourself up and own it and start taking responsibility instead of pointing the finger at the rest of the world
I've been spat at whilst waiting for a taxi and was called Becky by a black male for no reason at all. Did I think "oh is it because I'm white?" No because he's a idiot racist and I carried on with the rest of my day.
People of all races can be racially abused or be racist. Stupid racist people are with in every culture.
Also find it super ignorant but you assume white women have it easy as if we don't have issues are lifes are just prefect and we've never faced any kind of prejudices, discriminstion.
Maybe educate yourself and start talking to other people from other races and genders instead of being so in your own head. I'm sorry I know I'll get hate for this and probably called racist when I'm actually probably one of the least racist people you'll meet and that's why I get annoyed by this kind of stuff when people say I can't do this and that because of my race... last time I checked there was no laws saying you can't and do certain things based on your skin colour and if someone tells you no because of race you have to fight it not play the victim card that's letting the racists win.
I have plenty of black female friends are you telling me they will never be happy in there life because of the colour of their skin?
You should win the MHO. Well, I got some hatred for being a brown (actually wheatish) guy here. That didn't deter me from loving myself. I am proud of my colour and totally agree with you. :) There are nefarious people everywhere.
i’m sorry you feel this way u should love yourself, you are beautiful the way you are i’m a woman too i understand how hard it’s. Be proud of yourself because they only way to enjoy life is starting loving yourself, we women are beautiful the way we are!❤️ u probably feel like this because white people in the social media looks more successful. Don’t think “if i was white” please i’m sure it’s hard being woman and black but you can change this girl start loving yourself and that you are powerful! i really hope that u get better :)
Chances are, even if you find a way to change your skin, you'll still be unhappy because you haven't addressed the core of your trauma. Get a therapist, the sooner the better, and if the first one doesn't work out, try again.
Brush your teeth, take vitamins, and treat yourself with respect. Good luck
Anyone decent, i. e. anyone you would want to be dating even if you were white, would treat you respectfully regardless of your race and gender. No one worth dating, marrying, or having kids with would think any less of you for being female or black.
It sounds to me as though you've heard a lot about black people being victimized. I can only tell you that everyone struggles (including and especially those that appear outwardly perfect), and that you should never, ever let anyone tell you what you can and can't do. Of course you can have a happy ending. You only lose when you give up trying.
In terms of prejudices, discrimination, or worries about the police, just treat everyone around you (including yourself) with respect, and 99.9% of people will reciprocate.
Being white is not going to solve your problems. Being your best self can help.
I am assuming that you're not trolling. Which lets be honest, is a big assumption.
I think you're tunnel-visioning. Sure. Look at the typical media. Most white people get the dream life, or some version of it. But swap the colour filter and look up black people and you'll see the same thing. Accomplished. Successful. Smoking hot. It isn't really about skin. Sure there are differences. No need to deny it. But they are only as big as we let them be.
Realizing that bit, you can probably start making some real progress. Pointing at something and going "If I was..." is just another way of deciding you don't feel like fixing things. You can however always strive for improvement.
Your whole statement is not only prejudice towards darker skinned individuals, but also fare skinned individuals. Life isn't magical rainbows and peace based off skin color. Prejudice starts in your own heart and carries out in your actions. Skin color doesn't matter as it is but the husk that holds your eternal soul. Expecting your appearance to satisfy your soul will end ruin. Only God brings peace to the soul, but His peace is found at the cross. You must let go of your prejudices, hatred, sin, resistance. You acknowledge you are sinful and accept Christ' sacrifice and you will know God's peace. You can grow spiritual from the Bible, then you will see the beauty can has created in you.
Doesn’t matter who you are, black, white, red, brown, yellow. Sorry to anyone I forgot! Oh yea, male or female! If you are or can not be happy with who you are. Then there is something missing from your life. Whatever that issue is most certainly is not you! Perhaps another generations ideals were laid upon my upbringing? And there in lies the conflict. Don’t try to live up to a past of future! But live up to YOUR future and be yourself. ‘Not black, white, brown, red, yellow! Guess what? You have a first name so use it!
Okay.. I have a solution for you.. You won't become white but you will get everything you want!..
First I need to know the Nation and state in which you are right now!..
Don't give me you address or district or towns name..
All I need to know is your geolocation..
See I wanted a white girl.. I am crazy about British or Irish girls.. So I wanted my skin to be white... Later I realized that white girls are into Dark skin Guys.. 😂🤣
You don't need white skin you need to move to a location on globe where people admire dark skin and want tan in their skin like Finland or Ireland.. Etc
I’m so sorry you feel that way, as a black girl I feel your pain and have been threw all of it.
Tried to bleach my skin, relax my hair, etc. it sucks but just know that you’re gorgeous, literally every human on earth came from black women. You are the blue prints of the earth, don’t let anyone tell you any different. Your melanins a gift, your curls are coiled to perfection.
❤️❤️❤️Sending lots of love, from one melanated sister to another
I’m sorry you feel this way. Be proud of who you are and what you are. You are not ugly, less desireable, less loveable because you are black. You are worthy of everything. Black people are just as beautiful as white people. Don't try to become white somehow. Dating is hard as it is, whether you're black or white, of course being black can be harder, but don't be down in the dumps.
If you want success in dating, be an open and approachable person. Smile, make eye contact, give signals of interest, open body language and approach men no and then etc. A nice personality is key.
You should feel proud of yourself, but you aren't. Try to increase your self-esteem, self-confidence and love yourself (self compassion). Be patient, everything will be okay.
It may not be as bad as you think. Is marriage even necessary?
About three quarters of black children are born without their parents being married. And most of them grow up without their fathers because their fathers abandon them.
So as a black woman, you shouldn't feel at all left out or alone if you never get married. It seems to be the overwhelming norm in the black community.
Furthermore, more black Americans have been killed in abortions than there are black people living in the United States today. That's why the Democrats love abortion because it keeps the black population down. Blacks have made up the same 13% of the US population for decades, never increasing... just they way the Democrats want it.
So do you really need to have kids? The Democrats would prefer that you don't and most of your black neighbors seem to be fine with that because they keep voting for Democrats.
I may not have a particular preference for black women, but I do believe that I can make an exception for you even though you are in the generation after mine, and I am in the extended relationship type that I am in now as a 6 pointed star.
However, whatever you do, own your purpose for what God originally intended for you to do, and I am more than willing and able to accept the idea that you are a black woman.
The only thing that I ask is for you to do is to never get loud around me because I do not respond well to that at all no matter what someones ethnicity, gender, or age is, and I will more than let you know to what degree you did something wrong because I tell that to anybody that does that, and that includes elderly people that are hard of hearing, and children even if their parents are around.
Girl, there's totally nothing wrong with your skin color and appeareance. People who hate on you are the sick ones and trust me, you wouldn't like to be friends with such racist a**holes no matter what skin color you have. There's a lot of good people out there and I'm sure you can find your place in the world. If it's a really big issue to you and you feel hopeless - I strongly recommend therapy to help you feel better and deal with those feelings.
You don’t need to be white to be beautiful. My skin is tanned and for a while I was insecure but realized that I still got a pretty face. Anyway, looks aren’t everything. I see girls who are less than a guy’s league and I think it’s cause they won them over for having such a fun and loveable personality. I’m sad to hear that your experiences has caused you to look down on yourself. Embrace who you are. Maybe talking to other girls that look like you will help you to love yourself ❤️
Don't blame your skin color if things aren't working out the way you want. There are many colored people who do great in life and many white people who don't.
You're just in a rut right now and if you learn to accept who you are, you'll be happier.
I’m mixed.. not going to lie I used to feel this way. It helps to embrace yourself the way you are look at celebrities, influencers who are black too who you find beautiful and take tips from them. Learn to love yourself for the way god made you. Insecurity isn’t attractive, SELF LOVE is the first step to finding your happy ending. I promise.
This is actually really really sad. I advise you to go and talk to someone about this because this is a real disorder. I am a beautiful black girl and I love my skin and would never want to be white in any way shape or form. Please learn to love yourself, I’m sure you are beautiful.
Black women are beautiful. I remember one, particularly. She was a model in the music video la negra tiene tumbao from celia cruz. Her skin color was so beautiful and she had a great body and was beautiful. Probably one of the prettiest girls I have seen.
But pale skin looks much better especially when it's next to a dark skinned male. Many of us darker skinned men are embarrassed to be around whiter/pale skinned people especially women... also our genitals are way darker hence more embarrassing
@aieeazumui I know India has a skin bleaching problem In the end skin color doesn't matter much, I don't think. Aishwarya Rai has a medium color not pale and she is named as the most beautiful woman in the world because of her face and eyes
Oh gosh, I truly am sorry for the way racism has acted upon these years. You should love yourself, respect yourself! Black women are beautiful and just as amazing as every race out there. You especially. Don’t let the words of people who judge skin Color hurt you. Your amazing just the way you are. Okay? I am really sorry you feel this horrible about that.
How many black women do you know that are unhappy, have died alone, have never had kids or married? Because I don't know why you're equating happiness to skin colour?
You need to change your mindset and/or go to therapy, not invest in whitening cream.
I am white and I am still unhappy so being white or being black has nothing to do how people treat you. I bet you are pretty, you just don’t believe in it. That is also why people treat you bad. Know that if you see yourself as the hottest, others will too and if you see yourself as not well looking then they would too. So try to love yourself for who you are. ❤️❤️
I’m very saddened to see this. You shouldn’t feel the need to change your skin colour, and I’m sorry to say this but even if you do, those issues done go. White people do suffer these issues too, maybe not as much, but it’s not clean sailing.
I personally feel there is something worse bubbling under the surface. Like a kid saying “I want to run away” there is usually a reason. Is everything okay?
Talk to Michael Jackson's ex doctor which helped him turn white. I don't know if it would really be worth the trouble or expense to do this, but everyone has to decide that kind of thing for them self. Sometimes you think something is going to make you happy but it doesn't if underlying reasons for wanting something are not figured out first.
Girl, you have to make peace with who you are at this time in history. If you don't, you'll be miserable the rest of your life.
Please see a black therapist or counselor and work through these feelings of self hatred. I understand how they could come into being, but you need to deal with this and start to love yourself.
What? Oh man this is so sad. Say you "become white" you will still face some form of discrimination one way another. You aren't blond or you aren't brunetter. You don't have enough money or too much money.
As a black woman who has faced constant discrimination in public, in school and at work I wouldn't change it for the world. All of this hate comes from hidden envy. Be you unapologetically!
well you'll notice that it's not very helpfull to be white. doesn't feel great when people tell you that you only had it better cause of your skin color, not by virtue of your hard work and that you're basically at fault for anyone doing less well than you basically.
Girl, chill. The way you think is very negative and it's not good for you. If you want to be happy in life you need to shift the way you think start thinking that you deserve to be happy and that you deserve all the good things that life has to give and you shall receive it. Thoughts become things so be very careful what you wish for. Changing the way you look won't change anything either start by accepting who you are and learn how to love yourself.
You know there are ugly white girls? I've seen some good-looking black girls. My friend is one of them. She's also ambitious and strong-minded.
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Anonymous
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I find this very heartbreaking you feel that way. When I was younger I wanted to be black, I thought black women were the most beautiful (destinies child was my fav). I still think they are gorgeous, along with every other shade of skin. I hope you will get some professional help to heal your traumas. You most definitely can have marriage and family if you want them! Do not limit yourself.
Girl, do you not see other black girls getting married and being happy? You're just in the wrong circles. Find out from other black girls and be receptive. You're doing something wrong.
Changing your race isn't the solution. And rise above those things. A lot of how people treat you depends on the grace with which you carry yourself, speak, walk, dress etc. Fill your life with positive energies and try to stay way from racists and shitty people.
Awww. This is really sad. 😢. I'm sorry you feel that way, sweetie. I want you to know that black women are beautiful just as much as white women are. You should be proud and confident in your skin. Don't let anyone tell you that you're less than them.
Being white is overrated. Just the stupid societies makes it look special and the only skin color that’s desirable and beautiful and most wanted among other skin colors. Love yourself the way you are and don’t change yourself or harm your skin for something isn’t worth it. You can still date white guys, have a beautiful family and get a happy ending. See so many black women around you, stop watching negative stuff only. 💕✨
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Anonymous
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You don't want to be white, especially not a white person from the US. Most of us are assholes. If we weren't, you wouldn't feel the way you do. You'd be proud to be who you are.
Skin color doesn’t make you happy. You make yourself happy. No matter what color you are you supposed to go out there and put best effort into whatever you do if it doesn’t bring you joy leave it alone if it makes you smile keep doing it. You seem very young and there’s a lot Of life you have to live.
Yes you would enjoy it to be blamed for everything that goes wrong in this world on a daily basis, pay special taxes just because of your race, and no matter what you do to atone for your "privilege" still hear about it every day and be told that you must hate yourself, therefore you must yourself into extinction to eliminate oppression. Life is so easy when you're white.
This is as dumb as dumb comes. Seriously. Tons of black people around. And many whites don't dislike black women either. What are you even on about? Trying to gather pity for any reason? Stop it. It's annoying.
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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Everyone who is racist here is trying to make you happy now, it's really disturbing. I’m not black, but I’m a person exposed to racism. I understand you very well. Nobody is superior to you or me. First of all, you should value yourself. Finding someone who cares about you is your next job. Please realize how valuable you are.
I know plenty of black women who are in relationships and happily married. If you keep up that attitude and act like you have a chip over your shoulder like a victim then you're never going to find a man, You can find a man but, not as you are now. Clean up your attitude and work on yourself and you'll find someone.
You are correct that black people are beautiful and black lives have changed.
However you don’t know what this girl has experienced so don’t demand her to be happy. Likewise, don’t be borderline racist to white people. Respect should be given both sides.
@jamieloves you are too happy to hurl insults at me even though I defended the questioner, I have been racist, and you won’t answer a single question. Be a fucking man.
Based off of what you posted, it sounds like you need a therapist. I'm sorry you feel this way, but no one has a perfect life just because they are white or any other color. Being white isn't as hyped up as it's made out to be.
Im sorry you feel this way, people around the world have different melanin levels in their skin but they are all human beings. There are assholes with every race as well as nice souls. I am a white male, my skin is flawed it is full of blemishes, freckles and I burn after 15 minutes in normal sunlight. I have had skin cancer removed in my 20’s. Having white skin is nothing special. Please dont change your appearance.
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Anonymous
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White is not just the color of your skin its a culture & lifestyle.
Anyone can choose to live a certain way.
At the same time I wish people would stop thinking about race, I never did until the riots last year.
The more people are forced to think about race the more they become racist. As for me there is only one race, the human race.
It is just like you're saying that black women cannot be attractive or smart or whatever. Let's just say you are too lazy to build yourself up while lying to yourself blaming your race for it. There's nothing you can do about being black.
I hope that improves for everyone. As for the dating part, if you're attracted to white men you'll have a lot more to choose from. Interacial dating has become a preference for a lot of people, and beautiful women come in all shapes, sizes, and ethnicities.
Do not become white. Love who you are ! Read the Bible girl ! All skin color is beautiful! Just be you and love life ! Everyone is beautiful. The real true beauty is in the heart... not on the outside.
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