How has a lack of romantic experiences shaped you as a person?

[Anonymous]

I’m 19 and never dated or been approached by anybody. I know I’m still fairly young but still. I’m a darkskinned, fat (and not the aesthetically pleasing type) black woman so I’ve never been conventionally attractive in any sense. this has knocked my self esteem quite a bit and it doesn’t help that I also struggle with depression and anxiety. but, I’ve always thought that this will shape me as a person because I’ll be able to surround myself with more genuine people. anyway my question is to those who, like me, haven’t been in any sort of past relationship/entanglement. how do you think it will/how has it shaped you?

[btbc92]

To be honest, it helped me become a woman who is able to handle most things those who have those experiences, may have a problem doing if they didn't stay with their partner. What these experiences helped by the grace of God. Bear with me, it's a long read:

1. I learned to appreciate life every day. No day should be taken for granted. However, if you are struggling with mental health and are suffering from trauma, it get's harder.

2. You meet two types of people as a single person; those who support your decision, and those who don't. The ones who do may not always understand why you prefer to be not paired up. But they respect your decision nonetheless.

The ones who don't can be categorized into two sides; those who things you should out of concern you will be alone forever, and those who are threatened by your singleness. How they may respond to that threat can be a publicized one or an isolated one.

3. I gain more self-awareness of myself and of others. Without being alone, you are not able to see or face yourself. You rely on other people to basically feel good about yourself or to save you from yourself. But the truth is, if you don't deal with your own personal problems then it would be harder for you to handle other things that are harder.

4. It's a test to see what you can handle as opposed if you were with somebody else. Most people who started extremely young 8+ have a hard time fully grasping independence and discovering who they are as a person. Notice how so many people try to find another partner immediately after a breakup if they haven't already gained perspective mates like an instant supply immediately.

5. You learned that not every "single" is the same. Many say they're single, but what kind of single are they? It helps to learn that singleness is a time of growth, and many I have found out waste their singleness chasing people instead of using singleness to develop oneself. Then you have toxic singles. Now I am not talking about those who had poor experiences and can't find a way to be set free from the pain and heartache that was unfair to them. But more so those who are hellbent to hurt others for their amusement. It makes others not have a desire to be around them.

6. You gain a sense of purpose. You learn after a while that if it's meant to be, it would be. That doesn't mean things just get handed to you all the time. Unless by God's design that it be. But that without understanding your purpose you may find out that chasing after things that may not be for you right then or your life can leave you more miserable than learning this much sooner. I know so because I came to that realization growing up as a child. It was a bitter pill to swallow. And I'll explain why.

7. I learned that dating is not even dating. Romantic experiences are not even romance, love according to people is not the same love God calls for us to live by. Courting is not even the same anymore. If you weren't alone, you wouldn't be able to determine properly what is and isn't a date. Look at the crazy questions people ask.

8. I learned to have proper management of my own choices. I had to learn the importance of being responsible and accountable as an adult. It came to a realization that most people are toxic and unhealthy when they enter into these relationships because they were like this before they got in it. They think it will make them more mature, accepted, etc. And while they're not entirely wrong, they have no desire to change or go through the process that would make them better people. They come out of relationships that don't make it two ways: Either damaged where they can hardly function and or disruptive (more toxic than when they came in), or it forces them to change in ways they never imagined before.

[btbc92]

9. You live a different life than those who had many romantic experiences. The lie is that more is better, but how many people who had tons of relationships are actually happy? Not many. Many get into relationships because they want sex. They do it immediately unmarried and yet the majority are not happy or have more problems. With all of those sexual experiences and dating experiences is more taxing than if you have never done any of that stuff. I have had people and friends tell me they wish they were more like me. And I tell them as a reminder, they need to be themselves but they also need to change. My life is just as hard as they feel their life is hard. Everybody has some type of problems and challenges to some degree.

10. People see you differently. And you realize how different you are. It can be seen as a good thing or a bad thing. How you choose to handle it is entirely up to you. Singleness is never a bad thing. It is only perceived as bad if your only using this to run away from problems from the opposite sex and avoiding an experience that may be for you. The problem is that with so many poor choices in partners, more people are toxic and mentally unstable, premarital sex, porn, etc are everywhere, it is hard to feel confident in just picking anyone. Worse if you are forced to be involved with other people.

11. You get to gain insight if relationships are for you or not. Nearly 30 years of being single have taught me to remain faithful to God and stay true to myself. Others may be naysayers, but I understand that I have a lot to offer single since according to the world and men, I am seen as less than a human being. But the experiences of others who already went through relationship after relationship should already tell you if that is a risk worth taking.

[btbc92]

12. I learned that the risks today far outweigh the "benefits". Men porn addicted and watching it. Men liking women who slept around, men who expect you to sleep with them before marriage, men using marriage as a way to sleep with you because they couldn't before marrying you, risk of disease, being abandoned, robbed, killed, stuck in conditions you shouldn't be involved in. I have seen and witness abuse. That is way too much for somebody like me. Not all are bad men. But their desires at times are one to be questioned.

13. It keeps you innocent. You haven't been subjected to all of that drama, hurt and unnecessary stress. Mind you that HEALTHY romantic relationships don't have all of that mess! So anybody who tries to tell you that it is NORMAL, RUN. They are LYING. There is nothing normal about all of that. They would work hard to not produce negative things in your relationship and care about your welfare.

14. You are FREE to find that 1 person who desires to share that with you and you, them. Without a past with all of those romantic experiences, you can focus on that 1 relationship with a person who equally desires to make it work with you as long as they have similar desires and experiences. As it may be harder for those who have plenty of romantic experiences to not treat you as if you don't know what you're doing when it has nothing to do with you. But the person who chose to have those experiences and are now judging you for your lack of experiences. This will just breed more heartache when it's bad enough many are not satisfied because of those experiences.

[Lacerationnn]

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[modelUN242]

It made me wiser, I don’t end up broken like those girls who had hookups or whatever.

[Daviddd5412]

Ah, why do you put yourself down so much? There's nothing unattractive about being dark-skinned or black and being overweight doesn't automatically make you unattractive either. I'm sure you're really not as bad as you think you are.

To answer your question though, I really don't think that my lack of dating experience has shaped me as a person - but instead, it's who I am as a person that has shaped my dating experience. I think a lot of it has to do with anxiety, which hasn't just affected my romantic but also my social life in general. I'm trying to do better though.

[ohshee]

Why not a better question how am I not going to let it change me who do I want to become what do I want to feel I wish you'd let me be your coach for 1 week and let me try to explain something to you and teach you something and I guarantee it will change your life for the best

[K-I-S-S]

Are you happy to be overweight?

It brings your attractiveness down, as for everyone.
And a lot of times feeds the low self worth.

If you want to change it, you can. It's easy, consume less calories than you burn, workout a bit to tone the "shape". The consistency is the hard part.

For you question, it has made me get used to being alone. Even now with girlfriend, tons of "friends", pretty popular etc etc. I don't spend time with people, mostly alone doing my thing.

I guess i feel like people probably have better things to do and i have nothing to talk about, so i never ask them to anything. Even if they hint that they would like to hang out and i avoid the people that i like even more.

[Drumlin2001]

I didn't have a relationship till I was 35 (hadn't done anything, no kiss, nothing). It affected me a lot, made me rather cold inside, I put distance between me and family as I was embarrassed. I've been on quite a transition in the past 4 years. I now have a son, a daughter due in a couple of months. You're young, don't let it bother you so much. Relax, the more you stress the greater a challenge it becomes to get over. Takes little, manageable steps at a pace you're comfortable with

[7771999]

It's made me more lonely in one sense. But I have also managed to stay away from all the teenage drama that so many of my friends have had.

At least most of it. Lol


I think I've realised the importance of choosing the right partner.

[The_Maphio]

This defeatist behvious is one of the reasons I'd never approach you.
I need somebody able to support me, not somebody who keeps crying about themselves.
And I used "me" as a placeholder, since that's true of everyone wanting a romantic relationship.

[btbc92]

Egotistical much? That is not true of everyone. That is just true of you. Really. If you can't even keep that one relationship yourself, I don't think you can judge.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Which relationship are you talking about? I'm engaged to a magnificent lady since almost two decades now. Either way, if you sound like more hassle than anything, you can bet your ass nobody's going to approach you for anything but asking what time is it.

[btbc92]

2 decades? Why you wasting time but judging this young lady who done nothing to you? I think you need to ask yourself why are you wasting this "magnificent lady's" time if you wanted her so badly? Like really. I don't expect men to approach me if they don't want to. If they to judge me like how you want to try to say I wouldn't want them anyway. I am not hasstle. I am myself. Sounds like your sexist as hell and this lady needs to find a better partner before she has a marriage of hell.

[btbc92]

Did you not think you sound like a drama queen? She should have left you ages ago. Not wasting 2 decades. You know damn well this isn't going to last long with this. Stop wasting this woman's time, fooling around. Either you want her or another man is going to get her. You're a red flag.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Oh my god another enemy of critique. Gonna do great in life, keep going.

[btbc92]

Another enemy of critique? No, this is just facts, and your really being disrespectful to not only to the Asker but to whom you claim you want to be with. That's not doing great. That's selfishness. I would not tolerate being lead on and being used. Because I can tell you I am doing great in life so far, it's not easy or perfects the way how I would like to, but it is the way how God allowed and helped me go from point A to B, and the rest is in his hands. Not this egotistical attitude you got with your pride as if you are better than her. People like yourself are the problem, but you want to say "another". So you know what that means, you know the answer. And you know what you are doing is wrong.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Oh lord, another God enthusiast.

[btbc92]

Your really selfish and your entire posts and replies are proof of that. You need somebody to support YOU, How YOU would never approach her, and somebody who keeps crying? You're a jerk. And you're full of crap. Whoever is that is engaged to you as I said before, once she entered in a legal marriage, PROBLEMS. I see it already. What you really need to say is your selfish and you need a doormat to support your selfish behaviors and endeavors. Sounds like you are really insecure so you want to target the Asker to dump that on. So it's a good thing not to approach because your too selfish. There are other men who would very much appreciate her and treat her right. She just needs to focus on herself as I focused on myself. Truth is, nobody in their right mind would settle for you, so you found somebody who chose to give everything for less. 2 decades and no marriage. But premarital sex is obviously there. Red flag. I would be shocked if no sex was involved and you have this attitude. This is how divorce happens. Ladies take note. This is how divorce eventually happens in less than 5 years. Because, unlike covid, you have had no excuse. You just scared of marriage and making somebody else suffer. And just goes to show you know zip about me, I reject strangers anyway. I don't date strangers. Thank you very much because guys like you are not worth the drama and disappointment because of your baggage.

[btbc92]

You say that, but the proof is in the pudding. What are you getting supposedly married for? You need to just be honest with yourself instead of wasting somebody's time because you're selfish. Not a real man.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 You done spouting bullshit? Try turning your brain on or leave the bottle on the table.

[btbc92]

I think you need to take your own advice because the one spewing BS is you. Where is your common sense? Because from what I am hearing, you really don't have any. My brain has been on and working thank God, which is why guys like you are avoidable. You can't judge her yet you again have 2 decades, no marriage. That's all we need to know.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Marriage is not convenient. Living together is more than enough. She's gonna give me a child in about 7 months, too. Guess why? She isn't a self loathing human dreg like the OP or an annoying bitch like you.
Men die earlier than women. One of the reasons are women like you, who make their unfortunate partner want to die earlier.

[btbc92]

By the way. I don't drink either. So again, take your own advice, have your brain turn on, and leave YOUR bottle on the table. If you can't speak to me as a man to me as a woman instead of being prideful and a jerk, again, it's why whoever may have said what they said about you or your situation is being said. That is very sad and embarrassing of you to take the nonsense your spewing. You want to talk about somebody sounding like a hassle, look at yourself. Like anybody cares about being approached. You sound abusive, are a jerk, selfish, and many negative things that don't add up to your story at all. The only was is unless somebody is being lied to about your character. No good woman would want to personally marry or stick with you with that attitude. How you treated the Asker was disrespectful. How you talked to me is asinine and an embarrassment for a man. None of you know who I am and therefore that is your issue because you can't control somebody instead of having love, kindness, compassion, honor, and respect. Something or qualities you sound like you don't possess. Your being a jerk and this young lady doesn't sound like anything you accuse her of or even try to indirectly accuse me of. So it really makes me question if your story is even true, not that anybody would care. But since you bring it up and you reveal your true character, I would be embarrassed to show you to my family or friends or any acquaintance if that is your behavior that is toxic. If you as a man feel you have to HANDLE a woman, that is a problem. You sound as what you accuse any of us as. A HASSLE. Women don't men who are a hassle either. She has done nothing wrong for you to be so nasty.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Too long, didn't read.
Instead of just taking my words and turning them around, learn to be synthetic and mind your own business.
And maybe leave the internet for a while. Your statistics tell me the amount of time you waste on here is borderline pathetic.
Don't go around telling others to get a life if you don't have one of your own. Sheesh, what a bitch.

[btbc92]

You are selfish, ruining this woman's life and telling her lies like you want to say here. That's why your calling me a bitch because you hate the truth about yourself. No, what it is is that men like youare naturally not deseriable because you have baggage, negativity and problems. There is only one reason why she is having your child because she either has low self-esteem and doesn't have much for herself which has nothing to do with what you're saying because your abusive and controlling. That's all. Marriage is about loving and caring for each other while you have an illegal marriage before God to do your dirty work and hurt others. If marriage was not convenient why are you having premarital sex and a child out of wedlock? Sex is a marriage and marriage is all about having sex. Hypocrite. Men do not die earlier than women. That's BULL. Because good men do not feel that way about women or me. It's just bad and poor partners like you who can't handle a woman like me because we would make sure you get off your butt and do your duty. And hold you to it. In fact, if a woman has to tell you what to do, that's a problem. I am not dating a guy like you anyway and I rejected plenty. Your red flags. And thanks for proving my point. I would never put myself and my children in your kind of care. You will cause your family hell.

[btbc92]

"@btbc92 Too long, didn't read.
Instead of just taking my words and turning them around, learn to be synthetic and mind your own business.
And maybe leave the internet for a while. Your statistics tell me the amount of time you waste on here is borderline pathetic.
Don't go around telling others to get a life if you don't have one of your own. Sheesh, what a bitch." Wow, boyfriend and dad of the year. A child having a child. You can't read anything I say, call me a bitch, calling out other women, but a woman is having your child. I feel sorry for her and that child. I don't have to take anything from you, won't because your not somebody to be taken seriously and you want to call somebody pathetic? This is pathetic. What you need to do is mind your own business and stop targeting somebody like the Asker when you have a family to take care of.

[btbc92]

No. I find time because I have good time management being an online student and focusing on myself. My statistics tell me to warn other people AVOID men like yourself and other young men to avoid becoming what you are. Somebody who is just going to repeat what my father became. Abusive. I know abuse because I grew up in it. And you, sire, are abusive. She should NOT marry you. Instead, you take care of equal responsibility for your child and she needs to go elsewhere away from you while you get therapy before you damage that unborn child.

[btbc92]

I have a life of my own GETTING AWAY from abusive, toxic, negative, controlling, disrespectful, energy vampires and dysfunctional people like yourself. Thank God as a virgin I never dated or messed with a man. Thank God for avoiding guys like you because you would have dragged me down into your hellhole along with you. That woman deserves better.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Last words of advice. Find a man, have sex and do something different than wasting your time online when not (allegedly) studying.
The stress you'll lose by doing that will make you less of a pain in the ass. Provided you can find one that can take you for more than a week. Have a good day now.

[The_Maphio]

lol. Online student. Here's another unemployed harlot that's going to end her existence alone surrounded by cat's piss.
Please don't sound high and mighty when your life story is a failure from the get go.

[btbc92]

I don't need to find a man, have sex or do any of that stuff, hurting myself and hurting my children or others, and thanks to your miserable self your proving why because guys like you call me stress. As an honors student, I have more than enough time and thank God I got most of my work done weeks in advance I was less than 2 weeks done. Shows what you know. It's people like you who are drama-filled, leeches, and toxic as hell. YOU cause stress and you stress yourself. When I am away from people like you I AM AT PEACE. I help people and many appreciate my help. That is what wisdom is for. People like you forsake that wisdom and then want to drag others down with you and complain the way you do. I don't do that to people. I'm a pain in your so-called ass is because I LOVE YOU as a human being as any woman would. The reason you think otherwise is because you have no love in your heart and how you speak to me is proof of that. Let any man call me a bitch. I'm leaving and am not tolerating getting abused. Period.

[btbc92]

Excuse me? I am a virgin, I am no harlot, I am a full-time caregiver, been working since I got out of high school, took care of my parent who died of cancer and you call me an unemployed harlot? My life being an failure? Your a a*hole. You give a damn about nobody but yourself. I was on campus until covid it. Jerkoff! I was taking care of my mother for years until she died and still taking care of my home with a senior, dogs, and helping my parents as I always have and you call me a HARLOT? As abusive my father was he wouldn't even stand for you calling me that. At least I didn't open up my legs! And ain't. So you better go somewhere with your miserable self!

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Yeah yeah, keep flapping your gums, soon to be unemployed "honor student"
Ahahah! What a waste of air!
One thing is sure: god or not god, you're hardly ever going to reproduce, much to humanity advantage.
By the by, your nervous writing makes you type such walls of text that I'll never waste time reading.
But seems like wasting time and effort is all you can do. Including this tirade you did completely unwarranted.

[btbc92]

Nervous writing? Go curse yourself, your not cursing me. My career is already set which would more than enough take care of me, not needing a man like yourself to do it unless it is a man who is more than willing, loving, and isn't abusive like yourself. All you do is talking crap out of your butt. I deal with guys like you on a daily basis. Nothing too threatening about you. Ain't going to be unemployed, already have people asking for me to work for them. Please go somewhere.

[The_Maphio]

Oh, and cry me a river. Dead parents. Abusive dad. Hard life.
I call bullshit on everything and more. If you really were in such a hard situation, you'd be doing something for yourself instead of unloading your pent up bitch juice at random and being an "online honor student".
Please. Of all the women who are strong, you only act as one who is. There's an emotional wreckage with no life and a whole lot of jealousy behind that screen. I feel pity for you.

[btbc92]

I ain't worried about this materialistic nonsense or to reproduce. It is GOD's benefit of what is His will for my life. He is in control. Not you. You are not God or a god to control and tell what I will can, and cannot do. I know what kind of man if anything to have a family with and a stable home with. Not somebody like you, that's for sure. You too busy cursing people and having hatred for women. My offspring would not be used as cattle either. They deserve to be happy and have a life I didn't have. I at least think about other people. Not being selfish like yourself. I put off my life to take care of other people. You wouldn't be able to do a nurse or caregiver's job so young. At your age, I was out about working and taking care of my mother with cancer and disabilities, pneumonia and all, and you call me a bitch and harlot? PLEASE! Somebody like you would not help me or ensure I had an education. Ihad to stop what I had to do to do what was hard while selfish people like yourself would tell me to put my own parent who gave birth to me in somebody else hands. But you're talking about me? Unlike you, I am not selfish nor being stupid enough to get a man just o have sex. If sex was so much my priority and I didn't me THEN you can call me a harlot. So no, the harlot is you. I didn't have sex before marriage. I still have mine. Sex is not important as is a man. If I encounter a man and if it was my desire, my priority is to love that man. Not sex. I would never abuse or hurt a man, ever. Guys like you make it difficult to love because you don't want to change and you attack anybody who does or tries unless they allow you to control them. Fear drives you. So stop. I'm selfless, but I am no longer somebody's doormat. I learned early to put a stop to somebody like you long ago before 18.

[The_Maphio]

And to finalize the rant you got me into, you're not virgin for choice.
You're going through with a shitty job that nobody does willingly, because you couldn't find anything better with your general incompetence. You're studying online to try and make a living out of something barely less sad, but I can tell you before time that online schools are frowned upon, and as usual you're wasting time and effort. Lots of people don't have parents anymore, I lost one of the two too, yet I'm not crying about it online to gather sympathy. Sort yourself out, bitch, or you're seriously going to live a sad, useless existence.
A man with a lovely sentimental life who's going to be a father and is decently loaded is telling you this. Whether you like it or not, the way you're wasting your life right now is never gonna get you nowhere near my level. Now go bitch somewhere else, "influencer". Nobody has nothing to learn from you.

[btbc92]

Jealousy? Do you even HEAR the crap that comes out of your mouth! I do not CARE if you find my life believable or not. I am not selfish like you! I don't need our pity and I don't want it. "If you really were in such a hard situation, you'd be doing something for yourself instead of unloading your pent up bitch juice at random and being an "online honor student"." No, that's just you because that is what you think of yourself. You just pissed because you know I am right and I am not that kind of person. I have nothing to prove to you. I am a human being and it is only natural for a human being to express that. It is you who act inhuman and is being a monster. No matter how hard my life is I always find time to love and help others. There is no excuse why I cannot which is how I got here. I have no time for people like you. But nearly 30 years of being in an argumentive home have taught me well how to deal with people like you. You think everybody is like you, that's why you are where you at, a woman pregnant, no ring 2 decades. Nonsense. All that says is once the baby comes, more problems brewing. And it won't be the baby's fault. It will be yours.

[btbc92]

"And to finalize the rant you got me into, you're not virgin for choice.
You're going through with a shitty job that nobody does willingly, because you couldn't find anything better with your general incompetence. You're studying online to try and make a living out of something barely less sad, but I can tell you before time that online schools are frowned upon, and as usual you're wasting time and effort. Lots of people don't have parents anymore, I lost one of the two too, yet I'm not crying about it online to gather sympathy. Sort yourself out, bitch, or you're seriously going to live a sad, useless existence.
A man with a lovely sentimental life who's going to be a father and is decently loaded is telling you this. Whether you like it or not, the way you're wasting your life right now is never gonna get you nowhere near my level. Now go bitch somewhere else, "influencer". Nobody has nothing to learn from you."

1000% BS. Buddy, you've even below my level so what fantasy are you talking about? I'm just going to blow you out and your goint to look really stupid than your being right now. Low IQ on top of that.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 What the fuck do you even know about selfishness?
This girl came up as weak and shot down as they come. She needs to build confidence and it's not by holding her hand that she will build any spine for herself. Yet here you come, bitching at full blast, talking about selfishness as a complete incoherent moron who doesn't know even what her own name is. But what should I expect from someone who is an unexistent bearded man's fangirl.
You're a failure. Keep hiding behind a screen, for I don't really see you being successful in nothing but posting idiocy on a second rate message board.

[btbc92]

“And to finalize the rant you got me into, you're not virgin for choice.” I’ll tell you what I should have told the planned parenthood jerk off trying to force me to sign for abortion rights for women telling me I will lose my rights. I AM A VIRGIN BY CHOICE. Everything in LIFE is a CHOICE. Be it through circumstances or out of your own will. I had to stop and thin for my self and that what I had to learn to do. So you are just talking garbage.

“You're going through with a shitty job that nobody does willingly, because you couldn't find anything better with your general incompetence.”General incompetence? So your not only shaming me, your shaming everybody else who is struggling to find work? I have you know many places would have hired me but didn’t because I didn’t have a college degree even though I always wanted to go to college. Who the HELL are you to judge!

[btbc92]

“You're studying online to try and make a living out of something barely less sad, but I can tell you before time that online schools are frowned upon, and as usual you're wasting time and effort.” Now you are really just being dumb. You don’t know WHAT I am majoring in, NOR am I in an online SCHOOL! Unless your hard of hearing, I already told you I WAS ON CAMPUS UNTIL COVID HIT! ALL ON SITE SCHOOLS had to move to online to prevent the spread of getting COVID. Are you that dumb! Must be, because unless you lived under a rock we are still in the middle of a pandemic! My school is reopening all campuses by this FALL.

“ Lots of people don't have parents anymore, I lost one of the two too, yet I'm not crying about it online to gather sympathy.” While that’s how heartless you are, most not be loved much because you sound rejected as a person. I am not heartless like other people.

“Sort yourself out, bitch, or you're seriously going to live a sad, useless existence.” Keep calling me that and cursing me, God doesn’t like ugly. I am way sorting myself out being away from sickos like yourself.

[The_Maphio]

lol, me below your level? That'd be dogs and swines, dear.
I make about 130k euro per year, she makes about 70k, so we are superior to you in terms of economical well being.
We are in love, you are alone, which makes us better than you in terms of relationships and overall love situation.
We are successful, you are an "online school honor student" and caregiver, thing that partly does you honour, and partly reeks of failure and desperation.

Please. My life is shiny as Sirius by comparison. You passed from full on assault to a whiny, pathetic defense position. You realized you fucked up by insulting me. Get out of this comment section, complete nobody. You'll never amount to anything.

[btbc92]

“A man with a lovely sentimental life who's going to be a father and is decently loaded is telling you this.” Dude, your full of s***, and your money don’t mean jack. Only a fool would fall for what you naturally lack which is why you throwing up having money and getting somebody pregnant. Your that mad. Doesn’t sound like a quality man to me.

"Whether you like it or not, the way you're wasting your life right now is never gonna get you nowhere near my level." You are nowhere near my level which is above you mentally, and psychologically. The job that I am soon to secure will get my benefits, a good pension, and making over 6 figures long before my education with a double major is finished. So I honestly do not know what crap your spewing. Whatever that decent pay is, I am pretty sure my father made way more than you as a city worker.

[btbc92]

"Now go bitch somewhere else, "influencer". Nobody has nothing to learn from you." RIGHTTTT. Thank God I can ignore people like yourself who sounds jealous and unhappy. The one who is actually B*tching is you. Sounding like a dramatic woman for somebody to take pity on.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Clueless is the best word to define you. 6 figures from a job from an online school, admitting that you'll never get one. The more we spew shit at each other, the more I think I should leave before the cringe you're causing me is going to make me chip a tooth.
You're nobody, you're never going to be somebody. You'll die alone, and believe you me, it won't be by choice. And of course my money doesn't count for nothing. It's not something you can ever dream to achieve. Enjoy living a miserable life, convinced to be a relatable person instead of a useless dreg with no future.
And seriously, you believe you're going to get a great job from a degree gotten from an online school, who nobody owning a company would ever consider seriously? Please. You're full of it, but you're trying to hold yourself up to not collapse upon yourself.

[btbc92]

"lol, me below your level? That'd be dogs and swines, dear.
I make about 130k euro per year, she makes about 70k, so we are superior to you in terms of economical well being." Only a low-class person sounds like that. I bet many people would avoid you like the plague for you to think all of that even matters. Like really. Your embarrassing her what I bet is nothing like you. So what if you make over 130K, my father made more than that and I know rich people and family members who are millionaires. Like really.

"We are in love, you are alone, which makes us better than you in terms of relationships and overall love situation." No, you are not better than me. Your IN-LOVE, which means sooner or later your going to fall out of love. That's not love. And I know what love is. Love isn't a competition and that doesn't make you better than me or anybody else. And no. Healthy relationships and love is not what you have going on. That's you trying to prove something that others should avoid with your toxicity. Signs for problems and divorce in the future. I have friends who married much younger than you and have families. They are nothing like you and are happy.

[btbc92]

"We are successful, you are an "online school honor student" and caregiver, thing that partly does you honour, and partly reeks of failure and desperation." No, it does not. That is me gaining things that wasn't within my ability at the time and I am making progress as everybody knew and felt I could do. s I told you I am NOT an online school honor student. I am a regular non traditional who had to move online. My school is not an online SCHOOL, they just over online classes and I had to move to online. I will be back on campus once this covid dies down.

"Please. My life is shiny as Sirius by comparison." I don't care. I am pretty sure nobody else does either, you just seek attention. "You passed from full on assault to a whiny, pathetic defense position." Uh, no. You offended me, disrespected me, judged me and insult me. You know what you did and you thought I was going to tolerate it. You thought wrong.

"You realized you fucked up by insulting me. Get out of this comment section, complete nobody. You'll never amount to anything." No, man, You f*ed up when you thought I was going to coward down and tolerate your abuse. Your the one who is nothing talking crap online. You what people would call a s*tty person with a crappy personality. Money and all. Sounds like you don't have many people wanting you.

[The_Maphio]

@btbc92 Oi bitch "Uh, no. You offended me, disrespected me, judged me and insult me. "
What did you do since the very first message you came to lay down, unwarranted? At the very least don't be an hypocritical bitch.
If there's somebody who's not wanted, that'd be the single harlot who doesn't have a life outside of her room or the one they give care at. Everything you said about me is very much a self-descriptive term, I feel. I feel dumber for not having flipped you the bird before losing my temper.
But what should I expect from a god fearing bimbo? Actual life and actual work are waiting for me. You keep being a good for nothing church girl with nothing to show for herself. Ciao.

[btbc92]

You not only sound like you lack basic comprehension skills, you need to see a psychotherapist. Look at what your writing and how you sound. What normal human being sounds like you? None. But a miserable person. Everything you say of me is what you think of yourself, which is why you hide behind this woman and your money. You're weak. Your a weak man and you don't see you embarrassing yourself and cursing your family and yourself. I got news for you. I don't accept your curses that fall on you. I have seen, know, and spoken to plenty of professionals. It is not what you do, it's who you know. And they don't care about where you get your education, but can you be reliable to do the job. For somebody who claims to be above me and is more successful, you sound misinformed and very dumb but you from Europe. I'm from America. I highly doubt somebody who is a professional hearing and having you type what you typically would want to associate with somebody of your caliber which is a major embarrassment. If anything I can assess what kind of personality and person you are. Somebody who have the competency to get anything done, but as far as communication goes, they rather not deal with you. Please dude. Please. Your talking s***, I can back it up. I don't speak out my ass. I walk the walk and actually do. Not waste time talking about it. I just don't have the finances. That doesn't make me incompetent or incapable. I just don't have the finances right now. That's life. Which is why so many is shocked that I never attended college until now. All that says is that you must lack natural skills which is why you speak so negatively at me because somebody who abused you told YOU that.

[btbc92]

I know reverse psychology. Anything negative word you speak to me is what somebody else told YOU. So YOU believe that about yourself, and now you want to try to curse me with it because you see POTENTIAL that you don't naturally have. I'm not stupid. So if you are accidentally almost chipping your tooth, guess what? That's on you. That's not on me.

[btbc92]

First of all, you disrespect other people, and you're a narcissist! Your mad because I called you egotistic, you're mad because I called you out? That wasn't me spewing insults. You did that to the Asker which was wrong. That is not being a hypocrite. That's you. I ain't accepting your curses, you're arguing with me because you chose to. So enough. Your talking about yourself. I can back it up. You however cannot.

[btbc92]

I would NEVER EVER in my life say the NASTY words you have out of your mouth or typing. That is NASTY. I really pray for your child (daughter/son) to NEVER become anything like their father. Disgusting. You sound so miserable.

[Anonymous]

You have tits and a pussy so zip it. Do you know how many guys are in their 20's 30's that haven't dated? You can go on any dating app and get a match or whatever in a day some guys go on and wait months for 1 match and its some 40-50 year old woman a landwhale or a butt ugly girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Even if your fat a shit there's plenty of guys willing to fuck your fat folds.

[Asker]

relationships aren’t just about sex. also your response was extremely vulgar and it seems you have some internal problems you need to fix yourself. good luck to you.

[Matthew2222]

I know you are going to get tons of morons telling you to change yourself to get a guy, but my advice would be to embrace it.
And there are lots of guys that like "fat" girls too, so don't worry about that one.

[Matthew2222]

I might ask how "fat" is fat to you or what you look like that way but I understand that can be a difficult question. I am just thinking you are probabally being much more self critical than required here.

[cth96190]

Lose weight.
Be feminine and demure.
Do not be the loud, mouthy, angry, stereotypical black woman.
You might be surprised how many young black men will take an interest in you.

[Asker]

this response is possibly the worst one here, congrats

[cth96190]

@Asker
That is why you are single.

[Anonymous]

You should work on yourself than care about relationships because every single black man wants a white woman and I've seen this happening with my own eyes, even I feel bad when some white girl wants to date a one of us just to be 'woke' and against 'racism' they don't see us as individuals but as a social statement, it's a sad truth that your chances are gonna get lower in the future but if you focus on entertaining and working for yourself and being an independent woman you'd be more happy.

[MahdiA]

We have something in common! I’m 19 too and haven’t dated anyone. I just look at other people and laugh at how they struggle to go without sex for a couple of days. Like that’s the easiest thing for me rn 😂

[Anonymous]

Its a numbers game.. Say hi to guys more.. But be careful.. Lots of dangerous guys, I see it on news and crime tv everyday.. Lots of guys don't care about your weight just look at them guys who have girls on street that are large... It will sink in.. But really its a numbers game.. I get rejected all the time. And accepted every now and then..

[Anonymous]

I dont blame you for your current health but you have got to lose weight.

Listen, if you're slim in todays day and age, you're sexy. Just get slim.

[Anonymous]

It made me a better killer.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I’ve never had a negative update.