If my boyfriend has another girl as his bestest friend on snapchat?

[Anonymous]

If my boyfriend has another girl as a best friend on snapchat, is... my relationship about to be over? We were best friends with the pink hearts... until this morning; for months. He's been busy studying and says that he'll visit when he's not busy. Does this mean maybe he doesn't feel the same about me anymore and going to dump me soon?

[Anonymous]

Honestly I don’t have a good experience with this boyfriend’s best female friend (he ended up telling me he had a crush on her after he was with me for nine months) but the thing is I’m with him now and I’m really happy with the relationship but everyday I think if I go back I will be more careful about these stuff.
Wait till his test is over and in the mean time try to focus on your personal life. always reassuring someone is boring but being insecure is annoying too. Neither of you have to do all the work alone to fix this. He has to do his part as well. If you really feel he’s trying then that’s a good sign but if you think and feel he’s becoming distant be careful and don’t make the same mistake that I did.

[Gabboo]

yeah.. the fact he has abother girl as a "friend" and acting too busy is huge red flags to me, just my honest opinions though, you should talk to him about it

[johnsmithjs]

It sure does, when a guy pays more attention to another female then you have been put into the "black book".

Good luck though.

[Joshua0213]

Ask him maybe?

[Asker]

I'm afraid to because I do get anxious and he's tired of always reassuring me on things. Even though most of it comes from his study focus and he usually says that's why he doesn't want to see me. His big test is coming up soon. I don't want to cause another issue if it legit is my silly anxiety.

[In_Trance]

You should dump him

[Asker]

Why?

[In_Trance]

they're not friends. No guy wants to be friends; girls don't either. They want options

[Asker]

So is he cheating on me or am I the option?

[In_Trance]

you're an option in my opinion. I don't think you wanna be an option

[Asker]

I just don't know what happened. We were great until this week. We were best friends until this morning.

[In_Trance]

Have you had the face-to-face conversation with him? Maybe this is only your perception

[Asker]

We have and I know that he is studying for a very big test, which is why he doesn't want to see me. He says that it takes him days to get over our visits before he can study hard again. He did call me yesterday. Maybe it is just me. Things were well until earlier this week, I thought he was asking for even more space and less messaging. He told me that it's not what he meant. We had our first argument because of that. We've been together 3 months. He's canceled dates a few times throughout those months because his dad pressuring him about this test. I'm hoping that it's family or a friend in the same field studying or something. I accidentally requested his location yesterday when I was trying to relook at a picture he sent me after our conversation. I told him that it was an accident. He's saved my sweet messages since but he doesn't always, and I told him that I don't always expect him to reply.

[Asker]

he's told me that he wants to marry me and told his dad that. Just... this has been a bad week, at least on my end.

[In_Trance]

Maybe have another conversation before you decide

[Asker]

I'm not sure how to without coming off as dramatic. I don't want my anxiety to destroy a good relationship, if we have one. He told me that he can't reassure me all the time. So... I'm trying to stop freaking out for a while. I'm just hoping that it's in my head. The time our talking streak dropped, he picked it back up on his own... maybe if he notices that we lost our bff or whatever streak, he'll do it on his own accord too. I'm trying to remember that he has his own free will and that it's legit possible he just got into a heavy snap spam or something. Because he does talk a lot later at night but I go to sleep early. We also don't do more than a few snaps a day. I guess I can see how it could have fallen off.

[In_Trance]

Obviously I don't know you or your personality so I can't tell you what to say or how to say it. The best advice I can give you is to say it to him the way you would want him to say it to you. Just stick to the facts. For yourself I wouldn't be concerned about a friendship afterwards. If it goes that way not everyone is meant to move forward in life with you. Besides what you envision there is exactly what's happening now and it's driving you crazy.