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Why does the relationship last longer when the man is the provider?
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3.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Relationships last longer when both people take responsibility for their share of the load, and appreciate the hard work their partner does to be responsible for THEIR share.
However you want to divide up the authority and responsibility (the two go together) is up to the two of you, but you'd better sit down and have some in-depth discussions about what each person is responsible for (and, thus, in charge of), which things you want to do together, and make sure that each person's load is reasonably balanced compared to the other.
Now, I *do* think that most women would prefer their man be the provider, or at least, the primary provider. While women may love their careers in their 20s and even 30s, a LOT of women get to their mid/late 30s, and when they realize that they have 30 more years of work in their future, they realize it's not as fulfilling as they used to think it was. This is especially true if those women don't have families - because women are biologically programmed to find fulfillment in relationships and families and children.
Of course, there will be a few exceptions - like all generalizations, it's not going to apply to everyone. And for women who know they don't want children, it's certainly easier to divide the work load/"providing" equally. I'm not discounting any of that - as always, it's up to each couple to find their own balance.
But keep in mind (both sexes!) that the decisions you make when you are younger, in this area especially, are going to have long-term consequences for your lives, so make sure you really think about where those decisions are going to put you 5, 10, 20, 30, even 40 years down the road. Make sure you are investing for your retirement. Here's some math: if you retire at 65, and you live to 85, then you need to have saved 20 years worth of income. And if you can live on $50,000 a year (and this would have to be able to pay for medical care, long-term care if you have serious physical or mental health issues when you're older, etc.), then you need $1M of retirement savings. Of course, 20 years from now, $50,000/year would be like making $20,000/year today, so you'll need far more than $1M. The sooner you start saving, and letting compound interest help you out, the better off you'll both be.
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Lots of opinions. Mine? Women want to have a strong man control them. A confident, capable, hot man that can and will control the life around them and provide a good safe happy life. It sounds bad but think about it. We give government the ability to tell us what to do why? We give our freedom to others because we realize it’s necessary to have limits. Suffering, hardship, pain, effort... these are annoying limits but overcoming them is fulfilling.
Don’t get me wrong they don’t want to be owned and controlled. They want to just let go and feel safe and comfortable. A relationship is a balance between this. Your freedom from stress and danger and “life” comes at the cost of your free will. Everyone is willing to give up some of their free will for security.
I’m curious. Would you rather work as hard as say I work hard physical labor 12 hour shifts 5-7 days a week or be a homemaker? You can’t always find a good paying job that isn’t shitty in some way the hours, effort involved, people... as a homemaker you get all the benefit of his effort and work without the workplace stress. This comes at cost that many women today arnt willing to pay. It’s such a bad thing to take care of your man who takes care of you.
362 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Studies show that if the woman is the breadwinner, she's usually still the one doing most of the housework.
So those relationships don't last for obvious reasons. Women don't like working all day and then coming home to do all the housework and childcare on top of it.
- 3.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
I think a lot of men like being the woman’s hero, whether that is providing for her or protecting her or helping her carry groceries or holding her when she is scared. And woman love men who make them feel valued and cared for.
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I believe it's more to the point that there is order and not chaos in the relationship. When a man provides he obviously also LEADS. This tends to to give a good flow and harmony to the relationship as both move toward their goals.
1.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Its cause men need to feel helpful. Once they no longer have that they feel useless in a relationship.
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Another thing that is skewing the statistics is the fact that many women don’t really have any place to go without their man. They don’t have a degree or any understanding of how to operate in modern times. They have become dependent on them and must stay, especially if they have kids that they don’t want to lose because they can’t afford to house them. Women have become more independent in recent times, and many places around the world still have them dependent on the male, especially on the Indian subcontinent that I come from. In fact, the wife comes to America and becomes totally dependent on the husband, not even able to fully speak the language. Also, many men get flack for not being the bread winner, and they become insecure and leave the relationship. Additionally, since female bread winners are so few, smaller number of cases are needed to skew the statistics. The real question should be if both parties in the relationship are happy, which can only happen if they both full fill each other’s individual needs. A relationship that lasts a long time might have both people hating each other, with the women never showing concern for the man and only seeing him as a wallet she can opportunistically use and the man never feeling empathy for the woman and seeing her as his sex object and personal punching bag to dump his frustrations on.
Just curious but is there anything to support that? It is well established that women are the most frequent gender to seek divorce.
It is also currently believed that one of the main reasons is a shift in the power equilibrium in which the man due to the traditions of marriage, being less affected by age and typically having higher earnings end up in a more attractive position. This shift then causes the other partner who perceive their own relative self-worth to have declined to feel stuck. Of course things like women often being the main caretaker also go here.
All in all though if we look at current research it stands to reason most relationships might last longer if the woman was the main provider or, of course, if the levels of income were fairly even.-
It doesn't. Me and my oldest sister bouth earn more money than are boyfriends and we are both extremely happy in are relationships and are boyfriends aren't lesser for it.
My boyfriend runs his own business and that's why he earns less because he has to make sacrifices to keep the company going especially in the not so busy seasons I don't mind helping out hear and there because I support and love him. I want him to know whatever happens he can always rely on me to help him get back up again and but there's no shame in asking for help either.
Money shouldn't mean power in a relationship it should mean safely and stability. If either one of us falls down we got each other to help back up again. Whats mine is his.
It's very common now a days for women to earn more as men are more likely to take risks than a woman like start up a business etc. a lot of Women like stability so are more likely to go into a stable job were the money and hours are decent. 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Because women resent providing for a man. Once they take on the provider role, they begin to "feel like the man", which reduces their attraction for the guy they're with and they begin to question whether they can do better. Then hypergamy kicks in and they swing for a higher branch.
Women love the idea of being taken care of financially. It unburdens them of responsibility and allows them to go through life with less stress than they otherwise would have if they had to provide. And less stress means happier, longer-lasting relationships.Depends. Sometimes it's because that's what she's into, him leading and her following. That works for some people. And other times it's because the women has nowhere else to go because she decided to get married before getting her education or any sort of career. That's where my mother fucked up. She got married young, had kids and then realized she was stuck because she had nothing to fall back on. I'm not at all saying it's my dad's fault, she made her choice and it bit her in the ass because she didn't think about her future.
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It mainly has to do with the couple,
I have found out that women like the security that they are not living on edge of financial ruin. A man that is a provider makes her feel like she's not going to be without the basics in life. She wom't need to stress if she loses her job and has no home, food, or essentials. Risk os easier to take at a young age, what if she has dreams? She can depend on her SO for her to try and not worried where her next meal or a roof over her head. If the guy is a terrible man he won't empower her. I like strong independent women, it keeps me always trying to be my better self. Also, if she is always growing I believe she will be happy spiritually. In a word... Hypergamy. Not all women will seek out better safety/protection and resources, but they have a bilogical imperative to have access to both. It's not a conscious need.
It's also at a specific period for a woman. When she is young she is less hypergamous, but she will become more and more as she intends to mate and have offspring.
Right now, many women feel more financially and personally safe. The government can help ease her concerns before and during children. Her reliance is less, so the need is not overly understood well.
Hypothetically speaking, if women were unable to get additional resources from the government, if they had little to no access to the workforce/income and there was little laws to protect them, hypergamy would be very pronounced.I can only speak for myself. I think it would last longer as women in my experience seem to do a lot in the relationship. So in my opinion it would be a huge contribution. All the guys I've been in a relationship with are pretty lazy and or don't look after themselves and I tend to be automatically the leader of the relationship. Which like yeah I can but it doesn't mean I want to. I'd like a man with vision and to look after me and my son as long as it wasn't a point for control and more so because he loves and care for us. Even though us women are pretty capable of a lot doesn't always mean we want to do everything. That's just my opinion on the matter
Because men are dogs to their women that appease their laziness.
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I don't know how many times I have written about this. 99% of the questions on this site involving male and female roles can be understood by simply looking at nature and evolution. Nature designed the family unit to be the foundational building block of the human species. Nature and evolution designed men both physically and mentally to be the providers and protectors of the family and women to bear and raise the children and nurture the family. Men are protectors and providers, women are child bearers and nurturers. If this wasn't true we wouldn't be here today. Once you realize this is so, all of the mystery of these questions disappears.
Knowing this the answer to this question is easy. When a male and female are living their natural roles, there is harmony in the family because that's the way nature designed them. 2.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. FOR THE SAME EXACT REASON THAT YOU DON'T QUIT THE JOB THAT YOU HATE:
YOU NEED TO SURVIVE.
A woman with no job with the husband being the sole supporter is a woman who, in a bad marriage, lives in fear. Fear that if she goes on her own (and possibly have to support kids as well), she will have to start over from scratch.
This is why lots of women wait to divorce their husbands the moment the last kid graduates high school and becomes a legal adult.574 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Haven't heard of that before,
But with my best friends parents, her mom stayed with her dad even though he was an alcoholic who hit them because without his money they'd have no where to go🤷♂️
I've seen it a lot where the women aren't financially secure so they stay with their husband since they don't thunk they'd be able to make it on their own.- 838 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Because evolution doesn't stop at the neck. We evolved to fulfill certain behavioral patterns, and while we can choose to defy them on an individual basis, we can't on a mass level- and those who do will find that fighting their instincts is difficult and feels unnatural. Few will stick with it- some, but few.
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Because this is a mans world. Man are intimidated by providing women because they feel pressure and shame from other men that are providers around them. If men had judgement free zone they'd probably feel less threatened to leave and seek someone below them. It's pride too
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Guys, don't come at me this is just an opinion. I feel like men have a natural instinct and need to provide. So maybe when the woman is the provider, the man feels jealous or insecure. Not because there's anything wrong with them but maybe they don't feel like they're doing enough, and it causes problems in the relationship.
Probably because they are gold diggers and can't support themselves and need male approval. Good women who work can support themselves and don't need no man to do so, but obviously having an extra income in a house does help but if the woman is relying solely on his income thats bad
1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Because that's what men were suppose to do. We were suppose to be the providers. men would work for women because they love her. They wanted her to be happy, they wanted her to not have to work like they do. He wants to see her in a pretty outfit, so that he has a reason to work. That's why gender roles were invented and they work. Today tho that's not the case and that's why so many relationships aren't working out. Because the gender roles that work are no longer their.
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Biological Fundamentalism. Men Protect and provide for a woman for exclusive mating rights. Been that way since the dawn of time, and still is in most of the world.
Which makes me beleive that women not be able to respect a man she provides for.
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