Have you ever been damaged by someone? How did you get over it?

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And how did you get over it?

I still think I’m deeply emotionally damaged from someone in the past. I can see it in all aspects of my other relationships and I just don’t know how to fix it... wondering if anyone has a similar experience.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Stay strong Alyssa, it's normal to feel like this and you will get through it when you meet the right person.

You're smart, Ambitious, and have your unique mood.

Don't let people affect.

I know that you think about the past a lot and that your friends aren't there for you most of the time.

But guess what, you don't need them because you're independent woman and people around don't get that.

You work hard and good, you take of yourself and you love your family.

You should be proud of yourself to an extent that you should be selfish and to not care about the past.

You're a one in a million.

As for men, sometimes it needs a bit more work because you're not living in a Muslim country but you will get what God wrote for you be patient.

That_Incel_Dude · Accepted Answer

Do You see all the love on this question for you, that should cover the damages of the person who did you wrong.

mrfoox · Answer

Absolutely. Been damaged by my family to such a deep level it have shaped me as a person and ruined my view of myself and the world.

I'm sure I can go deeply into this, but I'll try to keep it short.

I've been mentally and physically abused by my older brothers (6 + 11 years older than me) from as early as 3-4 til about 10. Before I even was able to form an own image of myself and who I was, I was told I was stupid, ugly, fat and useless. And being told that over and over as early as you can remember really damages your self worth.

Doesn't help that I can't really blame my brothers either. Because we all shared an emotionally absent father and no good male role model around us. They just used me as an punching bag for their pent up emotions and our mother (who I love, very much) just saw this as friendly sibling fighting. Even though it was always me crying and never fighting back. I don't think she understood how much it damaged me and probably think nothing of it.

So this whole situation have also given me bad trust issues, especially when it comes to men. I have worked on this and have definitely improved but I still and probably won't ever stop being on guard and always ready for an unknown man to want me something bad

So that's i guess my bad story on the topic. It's sad so many people have been hurt badly by others. But for whatever bad one get from things, I think it also brings some good. Helps us grow in ways. Still, I hope you can find some healing from your past damaging relationships, you deserve to be treated well ♥

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I had a lot of verbal abuse from both family members and it’s led to all kinds of mental problems and emotional scarring. I had histrionic personality disorder for over over 20 years which is a disorder where you constantly need and require attention from others. I’m lucky that God helped me recover from a lot of my issues, including my histrionic disorder. My goal now is to go to Heaven after I die and to have enough money to eat healthy meals and keep my home clean and in working order and enough time to socialize with people.

Angelina25 · Answer

Emotionally I find myself incapable of ever trusting into having a best friend. I guess the word has lost its meaning for me. I had one in high school. We were best friends for 4 years and then that went down into the drain so now yeah I don't have one. Even if someone calls me their best friend I can never trust them enough for them to be mine. You get me?

ohshee · Answer

Of course so, but only one time I refuse to be hurt by somebody and then dwell on it carried around with me it hurt everyday I refuse to it would hurt me one time. If you think about it it's our choice on how long you want to hurt. If you think about what has happened to you you hurt you hurt each and every day until the day you accepted once you accept it and start moving on things change for you well it is what it is it sounds called but it is what it is I accepted and I'm not going to let that person keep hurting me and if you think about it you're just hurting yourself by allowing it to stay inside your body inside your heart so I refuse it I find the most positive out of it and the most negative out of it and I accept them both and I move on it doesn't mean that I start thinking about it or anything like that but I just refused that hurt I refuse the pain of it that is my choice on how long I wanted to hurt all except the pain the first time that's it it's over moving on learn my lesson makes me stronger and better in the long run because now I understand it better

Lliam · Answer

1) My parents. They weren't at all abusive or anything. They were wonderful and did the best they could. But there are things from my teens that still trigger me when I think about them.

2) One kid in grammar school was a little shit. I don't think he was a truly bad person. I think he emulated his older brothers and was just kind of wild. He would do mean things to other kids, including me. Even though I wasn't one of his main targets and I wasn't bullied in school, I was sort of terrorized by him even though we got along most of the time. He sort of caused me to be meaner, myself, thinking that it would make me more alpha.

3) There were a couple of incidents in high school and in my 20s that hurt my feelings badly. They entailed feeling betrayed by people who were very, very good friends.

4) There have been other things in my life. I suppose everything I've experienced has contributed to shaping my personality and behavior to some extent. I learned from everything, though, and I'm still learning. It all made me a better person in the long run.

Leavesbound · Answer

Yes and unlikely to ever happen. I dated a woman for three years. Her Mom, sister and best friend all told me she was impatient for a proposal. I made engagement rings for Tiffany & Co. at the time so I made her one with a near perfect one ct diamond. I did everything in the most romantic way possible. Everything from taking her to a romantic Broadway show she desperately wanted to see to taking her to her favorite four star restaurant, three dozen long stemmed red roses (it was Valentine's Day), a card I made with a poem I wrote. I got down on one knee under an Aurora Borealis that lit up the sky with a multi colored light show AND there were shooting stars all around us. I could not have planned it better. She took the ring, put it on her finger then laughed at me and walked out of my life. I'd have jumped in front of a bullet for her. I was totally scammed by her and her mother and sister and best friend. I'd spent thousands of dollars on Christmas presents for her in December and more for her birthday in January. She was the 5th woman I'd proposed to and was turned down by in thirty years. That was 11 years ago and I've not dated anyone or had any contact with women since. Apparently there is something wrong with me that makes me unsuitable for marriage. My own theory would be DPD (Defective Personality Disorder) but considering how stupid I probably am to think any woman would actually want to be with me I defer to my experiences.

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

Yes, by foster parents who were (are), I think, both transgender.
Still busy recovering/repairing the damage. It isn't easy because they still meddle with my life and feelings (with no ability to comprehend a straight single cis male - they used to fake sexual prowess and almost an open relationship but neither could conceive a child so sex was no connection with another human being you then stay with - like I find necessary/crave for)
Not a general problem, I guess (or maybe it is - where's the 'stolen children raised by transsexual parents anonymous' group?
On the bright side, I am completely emotionally and biologically functional and quite well off, just taught to avoid the moment someone female cis I fancy/like is interested and available (which seems to ruin it - I don't know if women don't give second chances or whether people think a connection started cannot be continued unless you act on all of it right away - it is as if any th8nking is disallowed, what I still find bizzare)

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Yes I have been. I got over it by loving myself more. For example I always wanted to have a spa day money wise could never afford without saving then Id save and think about all the groceries I could get with that money instead... but I took myself to the spa day got a massage, pedicure, manicure and my hair done.. first time for getting my nails done ever professionally.. then id do things that I wanted to do without the need of checking with someone else freedom.. a friend wanted to sleep with me we were both single.. I told him upfront that id love sex but I only have sex when im in a relationship and I have no interest in being in a relationship with you... dont get me wrong your a great person... your like the center of attention im already leaving the room when things get too loud.. night abd day different so it would never work.. but we can use each others bodies to satisfy ourselves im open to trying... do things you enjoy if you want an extra piece of cake take it cause no amount of weight can't be worked off without exercising. Dont allow anyone to tell you what you should be doing or not doing... do what feels right to you! Allow yourself to feel and investigate how you feel.. instead of thinking how could he? Think about the events that led up to it.. think about things he could have been thinking to make that seem like a good idea.. doesn't make it right at all.. but gives you more understanding so you can forgive, forget and move on with your life... not forgetting only hurts you cause the person that hurt you probably forgot the next week.. its your life feel the freedom in that.. you dont need anyone to complete you.. you are a complete person on your own look for someone that complements your life that adds to it without taking anything away!

Anonymous · Answer

1- parents: Abusive father with alcohol problems. Divorced 3 years ago. Family who all chose his side and just decided to abandon us. mother who reflected all her issues on us by swearing every day, throwing with stuff and started drinking. Leaving me and my siblings with the problems by having a (divorced) abusive father, mother with issues and no family to go to anymore.

2- school bullies: This is a minor thing which still grove a big scar in me mentally since this went on from class 1 till high school.

3- girl using me for entertainment: I once was so in love with a girl i met at university. we hang out a lot together and she helped me with getting used to the "university life". I was blind for every red flag people warned me about. But they didn't warned me about sonething else, which I will tell you later this story. Apparently she knew about this since she used this to her adventage. Playing with my feelings, manipulating me and sharing everything about it with her friends on social media. Not even once someone thought about telling me this till this went on for almost 3 - 4 months, when I found out myself because someone showed it by accident. (instagram showed next story which was from her about me). This left a big scar on me and made me distrust everyone. Since everyone knew about it but didn't thought about telling me about this.

4- Death: this is a kinda fresh but harsh one. I lost both my niece and best friend due to various reasons. One due to suicide and the other due to Leukemia. including some personal problems myself.

Lynx122 · Answer

The way I do it is stopping anyone from hurting me again, by being very careful and only putting myself in situations where I'm comfortable if another person reacts in a way that I wasn't expecting. I think I could losen up more and be fine because the worst case scenario will not happen but my mind refuses. I can't just let go every situation needs to be planned for. Because I'm not good at dealing with change and uncertainty (unless it's a life or death situation then I can throw my concerns for the future out the window and really focus on the here and now) I need to think ahead and know what I'll do if every possibility happens so I won't be reeling. I think the autism and the trauma kinda combined to create this defense mechanism and it's effective but it's quite slow to move forward in this construct.

I try to slowly expand my comfort zone but it's hard, it takes A LOT of patience. When I was 29 I felt like the most underdeveloped part of me was still 14 , that's one of the reasons being an independent adult was hard for me. When I got diagnosed and I got free time my emotional development exploded for a while I went from 14 to 16 in about 6 months and then even further but now the progress has slowed down again to normal speeds and I feel a bit frustrated. I do wish I could just relax more and be more adventurous and and carefree.

Definitely get therapy.

You might make faster progress because you don't have additional mental issues that complicate things but it will probably take patience no matter what. In the end we are kind of just dependent on how much the part of ourself we can't control can handle. We can push ourselves and organize our thoughts through therapy so we have a better understanding of our situation but there's a limit to how much you can improve the speed of your recovery once you're close to that limit all you can do is wait for it to take effect. And try and live life as best you can while you're waiting :D

msbrightness · Answer

You have to get yourself a) exposed to people who function in a healthy environment/healthy ways, to get that awareness of the obviousness of it existing (and being nice and healthy and feeling good without much effort/weird string attached) and b) untangle yourself from the people who hurt you/who encourage it (parents/siblings etc). It is very hard (and unpopular) to even start to believe someone close could hurt you, and to then find the healthier ground and the people who wouldn't.
The emotional wounds are kind of obvious and tend to attract the same type of bullies since you have that dent in confidence they look for.
It is very good, if you can, perhaps compulsory, to earn your own money and to do sports/exercise that make you look good (and thus feel good/be high enough value for the sane/healthy folk to be interested in you.
There are huge numbers of angry a-holes there, so those who are decent have a limited opportunity to pull you out without you first getting to grips with the reality of your situation.
Do stay calm and skip, even ignore, moments of feeling down - that is almost always just the weight of your (PTSD) memories, not of the morning that is coming after the dawn.

Best of luck.

Crazybeeguy · Answer

No, I ask for respect in the begining of a relationship. I find it better to parts ways if either is unhappy. I do give proper closure. On the other hand healing is my speciality. You will have to find someone who wants a relationship with you or can just be your friend. They will have to help you work through what caused the damage. They will also have to make you feel like they won't hurt you the same way, so open communication and commitment. A guy worth his value will help you heal. Just don't let it stop you from meeting new people. Learn that not everyone and every relationship is perfect. I have had damaged Girlfriends in the past, that past relationships really did a number on them. Remember not all guys are like that guy.

Good luck

Azura_88 · Answer

Yes, I have trust issues.
Feeling that no matter who the hell i am, (i will be a unique one whom they will remember) BUT SOMEHOW, I'll still end up getting replaced because only thing constant in life is "change". All of the people who love changes scare me and make me feel like I'm the only one who avoids progress. But in relationships there's no need to change partners because you're simply bored or couldn't keep up with promises.
Fear of betrayal and always wondering their hidden agendas, small changes in their energy and overanalyzing them that how they said a certain thing or their facial expression.

abc3643 · Answer

Have you ever been damaged by someone?
YES.

And how did you get over it?
NO. 29+ years - over half my life - and counting. I will never get over that and I will be (*) until the day I die.
If God has any mercy,
1) that will be soon enough
2) there won't be any afterlife so I can stop being tortured over this forever.

(*) I originally wrote "bitter", but I am not sure that's the right answer because it's a complexity of emotions including bitter, defeated, sad, resigned, victimized, anger, hatred [which is extremely rare in me]. I feel like a cow in line at the slaughterhouse and know what is about to happen and it all happened because someone I knew, loved, and trusted, put me there and it's too late to be rescued - even by her. My life is coming to a shitty end and pretty much accomplished nothing.

libsaretards · Answer

Losing my first true love really damaged me. We were so deeply in love. One day she suddenly broke up with me and never told me why. When I tried to contact her to try to get clarity, she treated me as her worst enemy and I never understood why. Any innocence I had left was gone that day. Before the day we broke up, I could ALWAYS see the good in life and ALWAYS knew I could get through any rough patch in life. From the day she left me until even today, my confidence has never been back to normal and I've had some level of depression each and everyday since.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Yes, I have and it was for the same thing you are damaged over as we've chatted about that before and I am not sure I've gotten over it... buried memories, and just moving ahead and making new better memories with someone else.

I think the term is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder for us, even if it isn't as major as say others, say a soldier returning from war.

My head doctor after the divorce said its similar in how the body reacts to it. When someone betrays our trust that badly, on that level.

michael1469 · Answer

Yes, i was place in adoption at 4 or 5... i prolly personally sabotage all my relationships til i was 30. From 15 to 30 they all lasted about 4 to 5 years... ao it was either push her away before i got pushed away.

In my 30s i litterally was just there for the sex. I could careless about a relationship or not.

At 40, i meet my second wife, she was 30. Was totally head over heels... come to find out she only really wanted my baby batter. We divorced because i didn't want (more) kids 10 years later i am still crushed. However, as usual i would excell in my job and now business instead. If she would have stuck around, i would have been glad to have a child with her.

The point i wanted to make was achieve the goals of house have a nest egg first... so 3yrs after our divorce, i accomplished that... she one the other hand, got married, knocked up, he cheated, he did drugs, stole 14k... now she lives at home with her mother...

Gray-Wisp · Answer

Some people call it damaged. I call it... this is me now. This is who I am. If you lose a finger you don't grow it back. This is you now. You get used to it just like any big change. If I were to look back at myself when I was younger I guess I was a better person but a lot more naive. I am stronger in my principles but I feel like in many situations you almost have to be the bad guy so that some good people have the opportunity to be good and I don't mean that you're their adversary. I mean that sometimes you have to do what is necessary to keep society from getting fucked by the same type of people that damaged you.

As I keep saying... most people are degenerates these days, you can trust no one.
You cannot fix a scar. You look at it and draw a conclusion.

Grape-Soda · Answer

I wouldn't say damaged but I dated a girl when I was 25 who changed the way I feel about relationships. Before I dater her I just didn't make any commitments to women and I never had a problem meeting the next attractive woman. I was very tall and good looking but lacked self confidence (I grew up in a very abusive family and was on my own at 16, never finished high school and didn't make much money). I had a pretty cocky attitude to make up for my insecurity and was the loud fun life of the party guy. But falling for this girl and her having the same feelings taught me what how meaningless and hollow my life was in casual dating.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

No one can fix it in you miss alyssa rapunzel except a new man who will enter your heart, he's the one who will pull off all your fears and and will fix what's damaged from the past and you will become brand new again 😊

For example i've been hurt in the past and my pain never went away and now it's hard for me to ever believe a girl again... etc

I know one thing that only a new love in my life will be the only one to be able to fix what was damaged through her acts with me and ofc through time...

belle_kai · Answer

Can I ask a question and im not prying just coming from experience. Is there someone before your ex that hurt you very much that this was just another one? A family member or experience from your childhood? What I mean by that is sometimes we are so deeply hurt because its connected to an experience you may have already had. If that makes sense. In therapy if you unravelled this all it would make sense, usually things do go back to our childhood, may not be the case with you.

thathonestman · Answer

I have been damaged by several different people. I have also had relationships with severely damaged people. You don't ever get over it. Eventually, it just has less and less of an effect on you.

However, it changes your outlook on things, mostly for the worse. Things will always inevitably arise that remind you of that damage and it conjures up more negative emotions. It manifests itself negatively in future relationships. It makes you more cynical and less trusting. In some cases, it can make you resentful, paranoid and even angry.

This all matches what you mentioned how you see the aspects in new relationships. I'm not sure what happened to you and I feel sympathy towards you, but I really hate to say this - it's not going to ever go away. You simply have to learn how to navigate around it and the person (s) you are with are simply going to have to live with it.

loveslongnails · Answer

I'd wager my mortgage that you weren't damaged by the other "person" so much as you hate that you allowed yourself to accept it. I'm not saying someone is blameless for doing bad things to you, or manipulating you in a harmful way, but at some point you knew what was going on, didn't you? And you should have stopped it or got out? I'm also not saying "it's all your fault", ok? Not saying that at all. Obviously, you trusted someone and they abused it, but again... at some point you knew it was bad?

Maybe you have to forgive yourself more than the other person? I don't know your details, but I've seen this often. I'm just offering you something to think about.

legalboxers · Answer

my 1st ex.. from 2002.. and the last ex.. basically destroyed me. I am afraid to love, I am afraid to fall in love. Im afraid to do anything. I can't focus on what I need to do. I can't do a damn thing. I just want to sit in my back yard on a lawn chair and just stare at the clouds. Or sit on the beach.. listen to the waves.. smell the sea air... I dont know anymore..

he-takes-a-part · Answer

1. It takes time
2. If you can still meet the person. Thats cool, punch it and fix it, if trouble today is 90% will drastically reduce to 20 or something
3. But if no whereabouts then just try analysing of what didn't go well what the person was thinking and trying to convey and what was your stance. This makes you go clear with the situation and to deal with such incidents in future and be alert.
4. Keep sharing it wherever possible this also solves.
5. Ask views of your closed ones on it.
6. Go to the problems deepest of what is really troubling you if the person has been bad for no reason coming out of you then that shouldn't trouble much i guess.
Yes i have a similar story

MrCommodore · Answer

Yes, damaged or deeply hurt by the loss of someone when she died unexpectedly. Life moves on... eventually, but it definitely made me more guarded from developing feelings for other girls for years afterwards.

Anonymous · Answer

People wanted me to suicide my entire adolescence.
Now I can afford therapy, doctors, coaches, etc.
It on my way. I already broke some of their future predictions of myself. Now I'm going for the social ones, I'm going to have a good level of fun when I avchieve them. I have the money, science baked advice
and help to get there.
Me getting fully over it will be seeing I am well over them in all life elements, and having enough power to do whatever I want with them but choose to not do it.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I'm just trying to find a way forward in life in general. Finding another woman is a low priority. I'm in too much pain from the past, from chronic work injuries, from bad joints, and from battling GAD and OCD to be gambling with potentially more drama. If I can't heal, I'm in no shape to take on a woman. And I'd feel embarrassed if one tried to marry out of charity. Which I doubt will ever happen anyway.

Novacane · Answer

I don't know maybe it's because of where I was raised but many times I was taught to just work on myself and get over it and tell myself "it be like that sometimes" and keep pushing. Sometimes that depression is a big motivator. That pushed me to get in the gym and to work on myself. You don't have to do the gym exactly but find something that takes your time and can help you in the long run.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes very much so, something things you don’t get over ever.

other things you lean to live with and learn to cope.

you then face things like counselling, journals and other stuff.

the bits such as nightmares, keeping dream journals, just become part of your life.

You learn to move on, learn to avoid certain situations

time is not really a great healer, it just lets us learn new ways to cope and manage shit lol.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes I have. I have an over-protective mum what turned me into a mum´s boy. It got better over time but at the beginning I really had problem making decisions because there was no need for me to decide because either my mum or sis made the decision.
It´s a kind of "toxic feminity", because caring is considered rather a female characteristic.
It wasn´t abusive don´t get me wrong it made me feel comfortable, it was just too comfortable.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel a little confused as two days ago you posted a question you are very confident outgoing woman and you don’t have complexes when saying to a guy you like him out front. Just wondering what was that then that you recover from, especially if you said it deeply traumatised you. Even so, I hope you get better soon as time heals wounds and I can see you’re on the good track.

nojokecarmichael · Answer

I don't really know completely, I'm going through the healing process right now... Reflect, get outside in nature to a quiet place to think, cry, scream. Vent, write it all out, go to therapy. Actively find ways to fix whatever it was and check your frame of thinking.

You can still think of what someone did to you but dont go into the next relationship assuming that person will do it to you too. Just be cautious.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Yes and I got over it with time and focusing on myself. It wouldn't make any sense to get into another relationship or start dating up until I completely healed and had my head on straight. It's nothing to be ashamed of by being single for that reason. It's gonna do you a big favor when you no longer have that emotional baggage.

RealMarek · Answer

Yes, by a manipulative ex from a long relationship. I intentionally spent a few years on my own (no dating) to recover, learn as much as I could from what happened, and how to avoid that sort of person in the future. Therapy helped, mainly to get a neutral outside perspective.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I don't know if I'd say "damaged", but it left some emotional scar tissue upon learning certain things my ex did while we were dating. I kinda worked through it by carefully laying out a mental account of the 5 W's: WHAT happened, WHY it happened, WHO was involved, WHEN it started and finished etc. And finally, looking inwards to give verbal form to all my feelings about it, no matter how contradictory or confused they might've been.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and I just came to terms with that recently. I got emotionally abused for 4 years and it started with one girl. I ended up dating her best friend and after she moved in with her best friend I started to get emotionally abused from her too. Then her best friend’s “friend group” were complacent or either laughed at things that happened. Then people who I thought were friends sold me out to side with my abusers and in turn became abusers too. It’s a lot to deal with and I’ve gotten support from some people and then I realized I’m actually stronger than my abusers and last I checked it was about 7-8 of them abusing me

jerdanro · Answer

My heart was broken in September of last year. I have worked through it and am okay most days, but sometimes it still haunts me. I want to meet someone new, but somedays I still don't feel completely over my last relationship and that isn't fair to anyone new that I would be with.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Two ex fiancés the first time I got into power lifting and became unreasonably strong. The second I got into boxing and went from 0 experience to beating competing amateurs in my gym. Ended up moving across the country, started building cars and motorcycles, and now I’ve become so isolated from everyone to the extent that the only human interaction I have is the baristas at my coffee shop and the guy I work with.

Better_off_here · Answer

We all have been there before and it hurts a lot. i guess for me i never fully recovered but i just try to not think of it, and i have been used and lied to and cheated on and i just know that i am not gonna let those people control me. you take it one day at a time and one day you feel a little less hurt by it.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Yes. My family members and relatives. I am working on getting past it. Perhaps you’ll need to see a doctor to talk it through and learn how to cope. You should get a diagnostic assessment to be sure your mental health is all fine.

SandandWaves · Answer

Hugs to you, Alyssa11... sorry and it sucks how and what you're going through, please don't say you're damaged though, don't let other (s) win...

FreyaRed · Answer

Nope, I've never been in such situation. I have needs like others but deep inside I know it's childish and pointless to believe someone will ever love me for something more than appearance.

CuteLingsAppreciator · Answer

I do have similar experiences and I'm currently doing intensive therapy to heal from it. Unfortunately, therapy isn't accessible to all and I know no other way.

Biancae · Answer

Same story for me, it takes time and. Willingness to learn from the mistakes you make out of defensiveness. It's not fun, but it gets better. Therapy is probably a good way to speed up the process.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Yes i have. And had a 2 yr depression because of it and years of heartache.

moviedude714 · Answer

This reminds me that I still get depressed and bitter when I hear of couples in their teens and early 20s

es20490446e · Answer

How I got over it? I realized the situation was shit, and the person likely too. So discard it, and look for something worth it.

MrDaley35 · Answer

yes i had a bad experience sexually when i was young and it haunted me until i saw someone to help deal with it also taking to someone who's is a good trustworthy friend.

AK478 · Answer

We are used to hurt by different people. Some damage can be fixed by us but some of them fall apart which cannot be easily fixed. The closer a person is, the deeper the damage. We have to get used to it. Only time can fix them

lakotabebebe · Answer

My ex girlfriend cheated, stole from me, intoxicated me for sex, and gaslighted me. I'm still not healed after it all.

_no_one_ · Answer

It was actually my friends who kinnda did me dirty back in high school but like now idc anymore and that shit changed me a lot so the damage was worth it.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Yes got cheated on so since then find it very hard to trust or even be in a relationship

cth96190 · Answer

The first two females with whom I had relationships damaged me so deeply that I have not healed. I will never heal.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! I've had a somewhat difficult childhood to say the least and I guess you never really get over it... you just somehow adapt and deal with it in order to lessen the pain next time around...

JohnGarcia · Answer

My mom and I had a fight months ago, it was agonizing. Until now we don't talk. I feel your pain as I've been there done that. It's okay to feel weak, just don't forget to love yourself.

sp33d · Answer

Sure, but I've done damage, myself so it's balanced :) How I get over anything? I just do something else. I've learned not to be stuck on one bad experience.

Asianguy123 · Answer

yeah.. my life is destroyed by my parents but I wish them well. I mean.. time heals wounds. I just have to put my hopes in high. I wish they live long. I can't live without my parents. I mean I need their love.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap. Never got over it, it broke me. But I manage enough not to let the cracks get much worse.

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