Should I try a secret relationship with my childhood friend?

[Rosebuzz]

Woke up feeling so sad because I have no idea I am in tear 🥺☹️ I am feeling guilty for rejected him a long time ago because I know he did in the past and now he decided to let me reflect his feeing exactly what I’m going through right now. I finally understood why he chased me all these years hoping I’ll say yes but I denied him so I thought about how he truly felt at that time all he wanted to find someone he can have fun with and who know what more we can have. He is an amazing good friend who is always there to make sure I’m okay and is now a very busy man and I know he disinterested in me now. I truly believe he is in love with me secretly and I’m the same way like I told him to his face then he knew how much I love and care about him a great deal that’s why he kept being my friend for now on because he admitted to me that he definitely care about me as a friend and don’t have a feeling for me but said he is complicate man and is easily confused so I already knew that because he is Pisces and I’m myself Sagittarius lol that bond is unbreakable ! I’ll forever love and care about him since he became the love of my life. Help me out y’all what should I do?

[caring__1]

Unfortunately, when we spend years pushing someone away, they eventually let go. There are consequences to our choices, and sometimes the door is locked when it is finally closed. Look at the reasons you didn't want to get close to him in the past and the reasons you want to get close now. Have any of these reasons changed over time? It will be hard for him to trust that this is anything more than selfish desires. Once you feel in control again, you may lose interest again. You talk about trying a secret relationship. If you keep it a secret, he won't trust that it is real. He'll feel you are embarrassed of him and don't want anyone to know you are connected with him.

The first step in creating any relationship is to start out by learning how the other person sees a relationship, what that person is seeking and what that person brings to the relationship. Open up communication. Define terminology, so you both understand what the other means when specific words are used. Find out what each of you have learned from past experiences and how that influences your choices today. If communication is challenging, find a professional who can teach the two of you how to communicate effectively.

[Rosebuzz]

Thank you and you’re right absolutely right about that

[caring__1]

You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

Give it a try

[Rosebuzz]

We did but unfortunately it didn’t workout