Am I weird for wanting hugs from my guy pal at wok?

[Anonymous]

I basically initiated hugs 2 x now. He did it the first time we ever hugged though. So basically i hugged hugged him cuz it was his bday. Then recently i felt sad cuz he told me 'todays my last daym ill be gone for two months then ill be back'. Lmao i got sad! I am a toucher person so my first instinct is ok I WANT A HUG. xD. I don't know i mean he came up to me saying 'todays my last day' sooo it was almost lile he wanted affection of SOME sort. he's an outgoing guy in general though so maybe im reading into it. But yeah. HE WANTED ME TO KNOW IT WAS HIS LAST DAY.

Come on tell me im not crazy for asking for a hug from him?
I knew i was gonna miss him. which is ironic cuz there's been weeks gone by that i have ignored him at work cuz he made me hurt. But now its like 2 months just seems like forever and i felt closer to him lately. Oh by the way he has a girlfriend but i am not trying to steal him or do any cheating so dont come at me with that angle. I just felt sad he's gonna be gone. HE PROBABLY MADE ME FEEL SAD BY STOPPING ME TO TELL ME ITS HIS LAST DAY. IF HE didn't DO THAT AND REMIND ME ITS HIS LAST DAY, I PROBABLY wouldn't HAVE NEEDED A HUG OR WALKED AWAY SECRETLY IN TEARS.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm not judging you, but you really do have it bad for him don't ya! You have to try and fight these emotions. No good will come of them.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

How do you do that? And umm i control myself. I dont throe myself at him or anything if thats what ur thinking. Im not desperate.

[TommyMountainFigure]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 There is obviously a misunderstanding here. I am not for one second saying you throw yourself at him, or anyone. I'm saying you have strong feelings for him. That comes across to everyone who reads it.
How do you fight your feelings for him? You keep telling yourself that he is no good for you.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Oh... Okay... I do that but maybe have to try more. Its hard cause he's here almost every day. Maybe his vacation will help a bit.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Thanks lol

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 mhm. I kinda do that same thing. But it’s not weird because we’ve known each other all our lives

[supercutebutt]

You should hug his swollen peen with your moist sniz :)

[Shah11]

You're cute.
You just need friend. You're emotional girl.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Yes thank you for understanding

[NoLookingAtSoleil]

Why would you think affection is crazy?
We all require it.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Ok good. I don't know. I guess cause when we first hugged a long time ago he asked me for a hug so maybe he thinks its special to hug someone

[NoLookingAtSoleil]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 But it is. And it isn't 'I have married you just now'. It is 'I like you and I miss you being close to me' - there is an assumption it is sexual, or a big deal, when in reality it is the human need for warmth, which comes before the need for sex, so it means how it feels.

[spartan55]

He has a girlfriend wtf are you even doing?

[Browneye57]

Guys love it when you hang your tits on them. Yep.

[In_Trance]

It's called being a cock tease

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Hugging?

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

I GIVE SIDE HUGS...

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

NAH but ur right cuz i think it is still kinda titillating even if its a side hug if you are attracted to someone.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

So how do i stop being emotionally attached to a guy therefore causing me to be a tease?

[In_Trance]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 Most likely, this is a more complex issue as to why you are this way. The simple answer is to create healthy boundaries. Trouble is, you think you're doing that now.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Yeah but to b fair he is the one that flirted HARD first. He was all over me (not physically except the first hug) but he was pursuing me

[In_Trance]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 healthy boundaries at work is to not do that at all. Don't fuck co workers. It'll never work out the way you hope for

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

At first when he started flirting sexually i told him i dont like that. He never listened and kept making sexual topics come up. I am a shy person. He just does whatever he wants. I dont have sex before marriage.

[In_Trance]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 You told him you don't like that... but then proceed to hug him. That's a mixed message; no boundary. You need to be clear in thoughts, actions and words.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

He hasn't talked so sexually in a long time.

[Babygirlsweetheart1]

Im not trasing him. I mean dont regular people hug each other especially side hugs? If he thinks im teasing then he can say no to my hugs or set a boundary himself

[In_Trance]

@Babygirlsweetheart1 He's not gonna do that. Why would he? In his mind, it's one step closer to smashing you