I think you should let go. It's obvious that you love her very much, hence the breaking up and getting back together, but at the same time the way you describe the relationship, you don't feel completely fulfilled and also frustrated/disappointed. You also mention about wasting 5 years of your life...I wouldn't necessary call it a waste, but a good life and learning experience. However, to the point that you said "waste" of 5 years or feel that way, then why would you want to invest more time and energy into the relationship...do you want to waste another year or two or wait another five years for her?
Also, she has said to you that your guys are "two different" people. That in itself sounds like she doesn't want to be with you anymore and that your differences are inreconcilable. You're also making yourself too available to her and makes her take advantage and de-value you. You break up with her but always chase her back...has she ever begged you to get back with her? Quite honestly, this relationship sounds a little one sided, you're doing all the giving and effort, but she is not giving the equal share back. If you've broken up three times in one year, that in itself is telling you something. Stop being blinded by your love for her and open your eyes and look at the relationship for what it is.
Anyway, you should try and do what your heart tells you, sometimes it is hard we want to hold onto something, when we know there is nothing there and it is not the same again, but we should let go if we feel that is the best thing to do. What does your heart tell you? Can you see yourself having a future with her? Do you think things will change? Of has things just deteriorated even more eahc time you break up?
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Sometime you have to realize that love just isn't enough. It seems like your values, ideals, and plans clash a lot; if it's going to work, there has to be sacrifices -- from both people.
If I were you, I'd try to move on and stop contacting her. Also watch out for the feeling like you miss her; a lot of the time that feeling is just plain loneliness, not actually her that you miss.
"The problem with romance is there are no second chances." But who knows, maybe by growing apart that you two will end up wanting each other again. Note that I didn't say what you had because you can't go back to what it was, but can make it into something better.
Good luck and be strong :)
If you really love her, then this is obviously going to be a very hard thing to do, but you need to let her go. No one deserves to be treated that like that. Also, if you wanted to really marry her, then I would say fight for her, but then again, why would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that? You seem like such a good person, and she definitely does not. I say you should move on and let time take its course. When the time is right, you will heal from all the pain she has inflicted into your life, and you will find some else, someone who you would acyually want to spend the rest of your life with. Good luck!
Leave her worthless ass, you can do so much better than her bro,I agree with you, you have asted 5 years of your life on her. She makes women look bad, don't waste anymore time, energy, or money on her. YOU can do better than her, not the other way around.
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Leave her alone.She obviously doesn't love and appreciated you as much as you do for her. relationships are about giving and taking. It seems like all she's been doing is taking you for granted. You've waited for her for so long, she thinks your always going to be there. So get up and leave, avoid her and don't go back. there's someone better out there who will love you equally and unconditionally but that girl does not sound like the one.
Let go.
it will be better for u, and beside if she said your two different people just show you she doesn't think you're a good match For her.
Also an on and off relationship is from the beginning a problem, and never work out in the end.don't think she's worth fighting for.
HELL NO, If I could I would slap you right now.
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