What was the best relationship advice you ever got?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Focus more on hearing and understanding the other rather than being heard.

Be observant in choosing a partner... see what is rather than what you want to see.

If you want depth in a relationship, make sure the other person always feels safe.

Before you go to bed at night, ask yourself what you've done today to show your partner that he/she is special. If you haven't done anything, do something before going to bed.

Communicate when there is a disagreement. Arguing prevents communication.

The ideal relationship is where both partners are student and teacher... prioritizing learning all they can about the other while sharing clearly and concisely their inner essence.

Knowledge comes from learning and observing. We consciously acquire knowledge; we're not born with it.

Focus on your role in creating and maintaining patterns... not the other person's role.

Jaumet · Accepted Answer

The best relationship advice that I have been given is:

Long term relationships are not for the faint of heart. It takes having both putting in their all to maintain it. Think about getting married, do you just think about it as just a piece of paper? So is money and yet you get up every morning and work for it.

All that hard work that you both put in will result in the deepest love for each other that can never be experienced in any other way. The hardest part to do and become comfortable is in communication and that is key... If you both get in the habit of just telling each other everything you feel, did, or experienced... nothing is hidden and the other good stuff just falls into place.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

My friend said, nothing comes for free and another guy said, marriage is a lot of work, because unlike your family, your husband will not want to take care of you, you will have to share your load equally with him instead of viewing him as your provider or saviour.

A_Bell · Accepted Answer

Don't be or act desperate. It is unattractive to desirable people but attractive to abusers.

oldawg · Answer

Thinking about that advice now that I got back when I was younger I realize how true it is and the guy that told me it where my age now and they were told by guys that were my age and that is enjoy yourself while you're young and the Run you're having lasts because you'll wake up one day and it is like someone turned the switch off, I laughed at that but now I should have paid attention because it was exactly like that and I'd like to pass it on to others. A lot of you won't understand or think I'm nuts but you will find just like I did lol you know if I had a listened maybe I could have prepared a little bit LOL

Anonymous · Answer

It's a movie quote, but "we accept the love we think we deserve." You see people all the time questioning why they are still in a relationship with so and so because they do this and that, and cheat, and ignore them, and are stressing them out---but you can walk away and find someone who doesn't do those things at any time, but if you chose to stay there in that mess, you are accepting that that is what you think you deserve out of a relationship or you think that's what love is---being miserable. When you really think about that, it should open your eyes to what you think you are worth in a relationship.

natured · Answer

Once my mom told me
"Give him freedom, allow him to be himself because he is doing the same and you're not even thankful"
THIS OPENED MY EYES YEARS AGO and I'm so thankful that she gave me this input. Sometimes us humans don't see our flaws until we don't get it thrown in our face, and learn obv.

J2ohhhhh · Answer

I usually got shit relationship advices. Like guys who talk to their women with a gay accent and answer "yes dear" to everything and agreeable as hell, and whipped are the ones who say that "you have to be a man", "you have to be dominant", "you have to tell them bitchez what's up". Men in relationship often feel castrated and compensate for their perceived lost manhood. My best relationship advice is a quote on my cover photo. This time I let you stalk it.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Hummm... I'm trying to think about this... I'm not sure that I've EVER got any good relationship advice... LOL...

Oh maybe one thing... If you're dating and the woman "pulls back" a bit, just let her and don't make a big deal of it. Give her her space and let her re-group. Odds are she'll be back but if not, just move on.

Anonymous · Answer

No sex before marriage. Too many guys will tell you what you want to hear until they get you into bed. Then you find out that they don't love you and they are totally a different person. No guy has gone so far to get sex that he is willing to marry you. So if he does marry you you can be sure that he loves you.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't beat around the bush with your SO. Be upfront and direct with them and don't be afraid to voice concerns. The worst thing that you can do is let resentment or bottled up feelings build up overtime for, a lot of the time, a trivial problem in the grand scheme of things. You can't ever over stress the importance of communication in a relationship; it's like the engine that allows a car to run properly. Without the engine, all you have is a hollow shell.

little_rose · Answer

My cousins and my aunts advise against getting married. They said and I quote: "Get a boyfriend, live with him, do whatever you want but don't get married. Things change when you get married."

I'm almost sure that I'm taking their advice.

Just_call_me_Levi · Answer

Always make her feel loved, think of small things you can do to make her feel special once in awhile.

(My dad talked about how, on occasion, he buys my mum flowers... Even the shopkeep asked him: "What did you do?" That's where we are now, people only do nice things when it's beneficial to them, rather than wanting to let people know you love them.)

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

The best relationships always start with a friendship, so all that you do in making a new friend is exactly what you need in a successful relationship. This advice came from my stepfather who this past February celebrated 50 years of marriage to my mom. As a caviot they are still best friends too.🌹

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

"There is a soulmate out there for everyone. A man for every woman and a woman for every man." -My grandfather

"It's not about what's on the outside (your body), it's about what's on the inside (your heart). Don't ever lose hope!" - My dad

ohshee · Answer

Never Lie never give your partner a reason to not trust you never yell communicate look into each other's eyes as you talk do something nice for your partner everyday.

I don't really think anybody ever gave me any advice but that's just some things that I feel that are necessary and a relationship you have to work at if you want it to be the best you have to make it the best by working at it

TheorionMage · Answer

Treat EVERYONE respectfully... UNTIL they merit otherwise~
(Pre-emptive hostility , overt or otherwise,
is a sign of emotional immaturity
UN-spoken words CANNOT be misunderstood,
and require NO apologies! )

djmzes · Answer

Simple

YOLOIFIC · Answer

My first day as a server at a restaurant I got a comment card from a customer that said “keep your pimp hand strong”

I think that’s the only “advice” that’s close to relationship advice I’ve ever gotten

McKellar · Answer

Even if you don't lie nor hide anything from your woman,... she doesn't necessarily need to know EVERYTHING.

Unfortunately I had learned this valuable lesson unfortunately too late. The cost was too high & unfortunately I still live with this.

scentoflavender · Answer

Is this issue you're having a matter of pride or a matter of principle?

WolfKvlt · Answer

Actions speak louder than words. Don't believe what your "partner" says, their actions will prove to you everything you need to know.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

"Never judge another guy based on an exes behavior and personality "

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Don't lie to yourself, if you're not happy, it's time to move on.

Haru_chan · Answer

Support your partner and be with him through his tough time and learn to respect and love each other so your relationship will last.

jj-bnobb · Answer

"Every woman in this world is a whore except my mom and yours! and they just like to screw" from a older ladies man.

livolivia · Answer

love yourself before you can love someone else - ru paul

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Don't go to bed angry. It wasn't given just heard but yea truth to it!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

"As long as you are on the same page with your partner, you can work through almost anything"

Lucifer_01 · Answer

Don't let your partner share his/her personal problems to anybody else than you...  'shoulder to cry on, is a di*k to ride on'

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Don’t take dating advice from women. If you’re male they have no insight to provide you; if you’re female they don’t benefit from helping their competition.

higheredge274884 · Answer

Don’t go out of your way too much at the beginning, make sure they’re putting in as much effort as you, effort needs to be equal

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

Best relationship advice I ever got was to never take relationship advice from a woman.

Huldusonur · Answer

Don't look for a partner in a time of stress. Your feelings can become amplified in a way and seem like more than they really are because of that stress.

Starwitch23 · Answer

When someone shows who they are, believe them. Love is not firework but fireplace.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Find a hobby you can do even as you grow old together.

Qdbrown · Answer

There is one born every minute. So don't be that married guy...

RoyalGuy_PRO · Answer

Go ahead and express your feelings to those you love, it will never make things worse, and if it does, they dont deserve you in their life

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Dont listen to women they either dont know what they want or they lie. They have weird ass motivations. Listen to men instead for relationship advice.

MCheetah · Answer

I've never gotten any good relationship advice, before. The WORST I've gotten is "be yourself."

Pummel · Answer

Don't put your faith in man by: They only begotten of the Father Jesus Christ

mobiusforniner · Answer

It's like sand, the more you try to squeeze and hold on, the more it'll fall apart.

exitseven · Answer

I do not think anyone ever gave me relationship advice.

ODC2112 · Answer

Love ends if people don't have their own spaces. Marriage is not the tomb of love, coexistence is, because people don't have their own spaces.

es20490446e · Answer

Run like the turtle, not the hare. Know the person well before starting dating them.

EnviousKatt · Answer

If your partner does not care equally for you as you you do for him/her, go away.. that won't end well... And someone will get hurt.

Anonymous · Answer

I would say pay attention when something goes wrong and where there's arguments at those time people show True personality that time you can see red flags if it shows up then have escape plan before it's too late

rienna888 · Answer

lol umm "you'll know if they like you versus trying to get into your pants"?

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Don’t settle….. which is why I’m breaking up with my boyfriend soon

Tel86 · Answer

For a relationship 2 work u have 2 make sure u put each other first. It won't work with people sticking their noses in

monstertruckgamer393 · Answer

dont worry about her. its just your turn ' jk XD

WalkingBassist · Answer

"Don't be an idiot. "  Whenever I am about to do something, I think-"would an idiot do this?"  If the answer is yes, then I do not do that thing.

kevyhanma · Answer

Girls are like buses miss one  next 15 one coming  “Gucci Mane”

OurManFlint · Answer

"Make sure you know what you're signing up for."  I still think of it and use it.

crazy8000 · Answer

More a general one. If it doesn't sute how I am it isn't me they are after.

jimmy2 · Answer

To always have clear communication abd always forgive

Omario2049 · Answer

Stop being so nice because u like her. The more u like her the more u act like an asshole to her.

Reinforcement · Answer

Relationships are terrible, it's good that you didn't have them and it's better not to. Look at yourself, take care of yourself.

darkcloud1945 · Answer

Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see!

Anonymous · Answer

Don't be afraid to be single. If you're with the wrong person better to break up so you are free when the right person comes along.

Asianguy123 · Answer

America is sodom and Gomorrah. I shouldn't do what they do.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Don't get married, and never let a bitch shit-test you.

Nathaley · Answer

It's either you trust the person your dating or you leave them

Anonymous · Answer

Before seeking the perfect partner, make sure you are a perfect partner yourself.

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