Focus more on hearing and understanding the other rather than being heard.
Be observant in choosing a partner... see what is rather than what you want to see.
If you want depth in a relationship, make sure the other person always feels safe.
Before you go to bed at night, ask yourself what you've done today to show your partner that he/she is special. If you haven't done anything, do something before going to bed.
Communicate when there is a disagreement. Arguing prevents communication.
The ideal relationship is where both partners are student and teacher... prioritizing learning all they can about the other while sharing clearly and concisely their inner essence.
Knowledge comes from learning and observing. We consciously acquire knowledge; we're not born with it.
Focus on your role in creating and maintaining patterns... not the other person's role.
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The best relationship advice that I have been given is:
Long term relationships are not for the faint of heart. It takes having both putting in their all to maintain it. Think about getting married, do you just think about it as just a piece of paper? So is money and yet you get up every morning and work for it.
All that hard work that you both put in will result in the deepest love for each other that can never be experienced in any other way. The hardest part to do and become comfortable is in communication and that is key... If you both get in the habit of just telling each other everything you feel, did, or experienced... nothing is hidden and the other good stuff just falls into place.
My friend said, nothing comes for free and another guy said, marriage is a lot of work, because unlike your family, your husband will not want to take care of you, you will have to share your load equally with him instead of viewing him as your provider or saviour.
Don't be or act desperate. It is unattractive to desirable people but attractive to abusers.
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Thinking about that advice now that I got back when I was younger I realize how true it is and the guy that told me it where my age now and they were told by guys that were my age and that is enjoy yourself while you're young and the Run you're having lasts because you'll wake up one day and it is like someone turned the switch off, I laughed at that but now I should have paid attention because it was exactly like that and I'd like to pass it on to others. A lot of you won't understand or think I'm nuts but you will find just like I did lol you know if I had a listened maybe I could have prepared a little bit LOL
It's a movie quote, but "we accept the love we think we deserve." You see people all the time questioning why they are still in a relationship with so and so because they do this and that, and cheat, and ignore them, and are stressing them out---but you can walk away and find someone who doesn't do those things at any time, but if you chose to stay there in that mess, you are accepting that that is what you think you deserve out of a relationship or you think that's what love is---being miserable. When you really think about that, it should open your eyes to what you think you are worth in a relationship.
Once my mom told me
"Give him freedom, allow him to be himself because he is doing the same and you're not even thankful"
THIS OPENED MY EYES YEARS AGO and I'm so thankful that she gave me this input. Sometimes us humans don't see our flaws until we don't get it thrown in our face, and learn obv.I usually got shit relationship advices. Like guys who talk to their women with a gay accent and answer "yes dear" to everything and agreeable as hell, and whipped are the ones who say that "you have to be a man", "you have to be dominant", "you have to tell them bitchez what's up". Men in relationship often feel castrated and compensate for their perceived lost manhood. My best relationship advice is a quote on my cover photo. This time I let you stalk it.
Hummm... I'm trying to think about this... I'm not sure that I've EVER got any good relationship advice... LOL...
Oh maybe one thing... If you're dating and the woman "pulls back" a bit, just let her and don't make a big deal of it. Give her her space and let her re-group. Odds are she'll be back but if not, just move on.No sex before marriage. Too many guys will tell you what you want to hear until they get you into bed. Then you find out that they don't love you and they are totally a different person. No guy has gone so far to get sex that he is willing to marry you. So if he does marry you you can be sure that he loves you.
Don't beat around the bush with your SO. Be upfront and direct with them and don't be afraid to voice concerns. The worst thing that you can do is let resentment or bottled up feelings build up overtime for, a lot of the time, a trivial problem in the grand scheme of things. You can't ever over stress the importance of communication in a relationship; it's like the engine that allows a car to run properly. Without the engine, all you have is a hollow shell.
My cousins and my aunts advise against getting married. They said and I quote: "Get a boyfriend, live with him, do whatever you want but don't get married. Things change when you get married."
I'm almost sure that I'm taking their advice.Always make her feel loved, think of small things you can do to make her feel special once in awhile.
(My dad talked about how, on occasion, he buys my mum flowers... Even the shopkeep asked him: "What did you do?" That's where we are now, people only do nice things when it's beneficial to them, rather than wanting to let people know you love them.)The best relationships always start with a friendship, so all that you do in making a new friend is exactly what you need in a successful relationship. This advice came from my stepfather who this past February celebrated 50 years of marriage to my mom. As a caviot they are still best friends too.🌹
"There is a soulmate out there for everyone. A man for every woman and a woman for every man." -My grandfather
"It's not about what's on the outside (your body), it's about what's on the inside (your heart). Don't ever lose hope!" - My dadNever Lie never give your partner a reason to not trust you never yell communicate look into each other's eyes as you talk do something nice for your partner everyday.
I don't really think anybody ever gave me any advice but that's just some things that I feel that are necessary and a relationship you have to work at if you want it to be the best you have to make it the best by working at itTreat EVERYONE respectfully... UNTIL they merit otherwise~
(Pre-emptive hostility , overt or otherwise,
is a sign of emotional immaturity
UN-spoken words CANNOT be misunderstood,
and require NO apologies! )Simple
My first day as a server at a restaurant I got a comment card from a customer that said “keep your pimp hand strong”
I think that’s the only “advice” that’s close to relationship advice I’ve ever gottenEven if you don't lie nor hide anything from your woman,... she doesn't necessarily need to know EVERYTHING.
Unfortunately I had learned this valuable lesson unfortunately too late. The cost was too high & unfortunately I still live with this.Is this issue you're having a matter of pride or a matter of principle?
Actions speak louder than words. Don't believe what your "partner" says, their actions will prove to you everything you need to know.
"Never judge another guy based on an exes behavior and personality "
Don't lie to yourself, if you're not happy, it's time to move on.
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