I've actually been in a similar situation myself. I met a guy through mutual work friends. He started messaging me all the time and hard core flirting. We met in person and everything just seemed so amazing. He seemed genuinely into me as a person. His idea of making the first move was randomly kissing my cheek mid-sentence. Everything about it seemed like a fairytale.
Fast forward a couple weeks. I had sex with him... amazing sex. Probably the best I'd ever had in my life. For a while, on the days I didn't see him, he'd text me all the time, send me cute little gifs or jokes to make me laugh, some nights he'd even call me and we'd talk on the phone for 2 hrs straight.
I fell hard. He was all I could think about, and like you, I didn't even really know him that well. And of the parts I did know about him, a lot of it, I didn't like. For example, he hunts. I'm a huge animal lover, and never in my life would I have considered dating a hunter. But I overlooked it because I was head over heels.
Long story short, my thing crashed and burned. He played me big time, and I was heartbroken. But to answer your question... why do I think you or I was obsessed about this guy we barely know? I think a lot of it has to do with having amazing sex. I think another part of it is that we romanticize the entire situation. We tell ourselves this has never happened to us, we've never felt like this before, etc. etc., and all we're doing is building everything up in our head. The guy obviously plays into this whole thing too. They make us feel special. They seem SO into you. They say all the right things. I learned the hard way that more often than not, that's the mark of a player. I'm not saying your guy is, and I really hope he's not, but just be careful and know that it is a possibility.
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You really don't know if he has a girl.. so girl, why not ask him what you guys are, like is he ready to push things forward or you guys are just friends with benefit as they say.. so just ask him.. you don't know if it's "no strings attached" to him
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When you give it up like that you just make yourself look bad with a new body count
Cus you have nothing better to do? What are your hobbies?
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The guy you are obsessing over has a girlfriend.
Learn some humility. Your self assessment of your looks is off putting.
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