What am I feeling? long distance boyfriend or new coworker?

[Anonymous]

I am getting right on it: I am in a long distance relationship for over 2 years (online, have yet to meet up) I am happy with him, we trust each other. Can tell each other everything and he makes/made me feel some type of way (as much as you can do it online/ text, facetime etc.) I've met a guy at work who is very outgoing and friendly to me. I haven't had that much attention like that in forever. It's weird cause this is in person. It's not that I am feeling in love with that guy but I am really looking forward to talking to him. He makes me laugh. (we just met, worked together for a week) This (long-distance) relationship is my first ever. We both invested hella lot into this. I suspect I just feel that way with my coworker cause that guy is in front of me and my boyfriend is so far away and it tricks my mind that one is better or more exciting than the other relationship. I am rarely hanging out in public places where I interact with both sexes and that in my age, so that's why this is also new to me. Is it something I should mention to my boyfriend. How am I supposed to deal with it? I already asked myself what if that coworker is interested in me, how would I react? I sometimes miss this physical face to face with my boyfriend. Especially since we never met. We never experienced certain things yet like just being in front of each other and talk and stare at each other... I don't know. I'm in my 20s by the way.

[Veronica21]

Ask yourself whom do you feel loved and whom do you feel infatuated with? I think the trust you built with your boyfriend is sacred and it would be great to respect that... But the guy you work with... Do you trust him? If he goes in far place from you, will you be able to work with that and trust him... The way i see it... If you have that level of trust with your boyfriend when you guys are away from each other i think your bond will be even stronger when you're together face to face... Because trust and bonds take a lot of time to build... So choose wisely and consider if what you feel for your coworker is love or infatuation

[Cassietrigett17358]

Try to meet up with you online boyfriend as soon as possible before you do anything. Then after that you can compare which guy really will make you happier. Otherwise you could just be taking your boyfriend for granted and regret things afterwards

[devilman666]

Relationship of 2 years or a one night stand with a stranger (that's what he is, you've known him a week lmao, expecting anything more than a one night stand or thinking of him as more than a stranger would be ridiculous). Lmao I guess it depends on how important sex is to you, some people can't live without it, apparently.

[devilman666]

You probably should tell your boyfriend about it, he deserves to know. If he had some woman at his work flirting with him, how would you want him to respond? Would you prefer to have him tell you about it or hide it from you?

[devilman666]

Also, stop being childish and just say the words you mean. You mention this guy is outgoing and friendly, but what you mean is that he flirts with you and you like it. Staring into each others eyes? You wanna make out and fuck, stop holding back and just admit that, at least to yourself.

I would suggest that you decide what you want and either break up with your boyfriend, or stop talking to the new guy. Whatever your decision is, try to make it within the next couple weeks, stringing multiple people along is never okay.

[devilman666]

Also, clearly you aren't happy if you are this quick to consider jumping out of the relationship. Nobody who is happy thinks about breaking up so they can be with someone they just met.