Fuck no. This is stupid if it's for the purpose of strengthening the relationship (and generally stupid in my opinion)
Why: First of all, there are much better ways to strengthen the relationship, like working out your issues, taking courses in being a better partner, learning new ways to please your partner, being kind to each other, doing activities together, setting and accomplishing goals together, spending time together, etc.
Secondly, getting a tattoo of your partner's name is like a statement of ownership, possessiveness, control or domination. All of these things can be fun in a different kind of sexual context, but the basis of your actual relationship is doomed to inauthenticity if it is based on principles like these. This is a problem because if your relationship is about owning and controling your partner, it can be very hard for either of you to be honest, bring up problems, assert healthy boundaries and many other things that are crucial in a relationship. It kind of just tries to forcibly bond you two together instead of making the space of the relationship such that you want to be together and you have good reasons to.
Getting a tattoo of your partner's name to "help" the relationship is a bad idea for the same reason having a baby for the sake of your relationship is; your relationship is struggling and you aren't addressing the real issues that are causing the friction. You're just making the penalty waaaaay worse if your relationship doesn't work out. If your relationship is struggling in the first place, maybe it's because you have some problems to work out or even that you shouldn't be together in the first place.
If you split (which is likely because having a baby/tattoo is like putting a Band-Aid over the issues instead of healing them), now you're just left with this baby. And now you and the baby have to endure the bad situation.
If you split, now you're just left with a tattoo of some guys name. And now you have to endure all the awkwardness that this will bring you in future relationships.
I agree with you in many ways. But i didn’t think about getting a tattoo because i’m having relationship problems, but to please my boyfriend. And even if we part with him, the tattoo can be removed without any problems.
I don't think tattoos are strong enough when it comes to true relationship couples. I mean you can get a tattoo with your girlfriend's name or your boyfriend's name, but how long you think that tattoo is going to last relationship if the couples eventually break up with each other? I don't think people are going to pay $1,000 just to remove it after breaking up with your girlfriend or boyfriend. I prefer people do it the extreme way, take a hot branding iron with your name or her name on it, stick it in the fire for a few minutes, then place it somewhere on his or her body to make sure the name sticks permanently. That's how you can tell the relationship would always stay there together because well you know.
No, all the more reason not to get a tattoo of your SO's name. Why do you feel the need to 'strengthen' your relationship? Is it not strong then? Also, you can never predict the future. A couple may seem happy in the start, but who knows what may happen 10 years down the lane? What if you and your SO break up? Removal of tattoos using laser is very expensive and painful. The tattoo would be like a constant remainder or what the couple had.. the memories and so on. How would the current partner feel if I had a tattoo with my ex's name? It would suck
Worst plan ever seeing as breakups occur with even the ones you think are made for each other. These people keep tattoo removal clinics in business. Be smart, don't go toe Tat Mart.
I have 22 tattoos across my body as-is and don't intend to stop anytime soon. The heart with a banner on my breast I got specifically so that I can one day put my paramour's name in it after she arrives and steals my heart. That and my purity ring are the greatest gifts I can give her.
Nooooooooo do not even get it for that reason. Look if you having a bad time in your relationship you need to find out the reason and fix that that's the only thing that's going to strengthen your relationship be honest with each other and communicate what the problem is I need to fix it or walk away do not get a tattoo taking that is going to save your relationship the odds are the next day when you get home from getting a tattoo he will be gone
Never, Never get someone else's name tatted, if things don't work out, which stats show it most likely won't work then you will either have to cover it with something else. I would say the best option is to get a tattoo of something that means a lot to both of you, that way if things don't work out then you are able to keep it and it will still mean something to you.
I would not. While I don't have tattoos and if I ever got one it would have to be important or have symbolism to me personally, I would not get one that was a name of my girlfriend/wife or lover. Otherwise if you two don't work out it is a reminder of a failure. Forget that. Last thing I want to see is the name of a lover stuck on my body.
It does the opposite. It doesn't strengthen a relationship, it just puts extra pressure on the two individuals. "I have their name tattooed on me... guess we have to stay together forever now".
I personally know two people who had their partners' names tattooed on their bodies. Both ended up breaking up with their significant others several months later.
Firstly, I do not need to get his name tattooed on my body for him to know how much I love him. Secondly, I wouldn't date him in the first place if he seemed like the kind of person who'd need something as stupid and pointless as a tattoo to know he's loved.
No unless you have been married for a while. People change and relationships don’t work. I know more people with names of ex’s than ones with names that they are stilll dating. 1 in 8 partners don’t work out and 1/3 marriages end in divorce so the odds your going to go through a painful laser removal is high
If I have the same girlfriend that I have now, I was thinking about getting a tattoo of a girl in a bikini with my mom’s name above her head and my girl’s name below her feet. Or I could get two snakes kissing and having the snakes tails curling around to spell out my girl’s name.
I'd get a symbol of my HUSBAND as a tattoo, assuming he'd be getting a matching/ complementary one of me :) Tattoos are a lifelong commitment that I believe should be reserved for if you are in a lifelong commitment.
No, because if we broke up or something it'd be there forever, unless I got it removed with laser treatments but I don't really wanna do that. A handmade bracelet with their name on it sounds nice enough to me.
I don’t have a single tattoo on my body and it’s going to stay that way. I’m not going to agree to do anything that I think is stupid. I break up with her or she breaks up with me. Then what? I’ll be walking around with a girl’s name tatted on me that I’m not even dating anymore
Never. You could get divorced or break up, and then you're stuck with their name on you. My cousin and her boyfriend did that before breaking up. His name was Chris and her's is Nisha. It was pretty easy for her to change it to Christ, but not so easy for him to fix her name on him.
No, I wouldn't get a a tattoo at all in the first place. What if they leave you, then it will be pointless. I've heard tattoos generally are done to remind you of something you faced or accomplished in life.
Good God, no! Why would you do that to yourself? If he dump you tomorrow or cheated on you, or you wake up one morning and decided you don't want to be in the relationship anymore, would you really want his name anywhere on your body?
Yeah of course, Just in a way that it can be changed very easily. Probably try to make in Kanji so then i can just change it by a flick and bam a whole knew meaning. Since Kanji be like that.
Hell no. If we break up. I need to get rid of it. I know a girl who wore a necklace with her boyfriend name on it in her senior pics. They are no longer together, but those pics will always have his name in it
