Is sex is off the table after having a child?

[Anonymous]

Our child is now 2 years old and I don't need to take my socks off to count how many times we have had sex in the past 24 months.

The last year had been worse than the first year, only happening 3 times.

I try talking about it with my partner but she always brushes it off or provides an excuse.

Am I just a sexual deviant for wanting sex more than every 4 months? 😀
Or is this normal in some instances.

She did suffer postnatal depression and had huge lows; however, she would not see anyone about it or acknowledge it for a long time

[OlderAndWiser]

Sounds like she is still depressed. Does she have a best female friend? Perhaps you could enlist her help in trying to get your wife to see someone for a psychological evaluation.

[Asker]

That is a very good point and great suggestion too.
Thank you

[Nightroads]

It happens, especially in cases with postpartum depression. Just give it time and hope the drive comes back. Maybe look into therapy is it persists.

[Asker]

Thanks, I think you're right; additional help is a good idea

[Gwenhwyfar]

Postnatal depression kills your sex drive plus kids are exhausting

[Asker]

Very true on kids draining you 😀

I did not know about the link with sex drive and post natal depression.
Very helpful, thank you

[Gwenhwyfar]

You’re welcome

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks 😊

[KrakenAttackin]

This is the bullshit game women play. They won't have sex with you, but you can't have sex with anyone else.

She will give you a line like "I need to feel connected to want to have sex"... which means you have to be even more of a man slave, buy her stuff, appease her, ...

This is how men end up HATING women.

[DarkWinterNights]

Men don’t require much in a relationship, but the little we do is very important. This is what leads men to seek it elsewhere.

[Jlegacy]

Sex isn't everything. Try taking her out. Try buying her things. Do chores. Take the baby off her hands for weeks.

You'd discover her all over again.

[EnglishEuropean]

Damn, 2 years is a long time without nookie. How was it before the baby?

[Asker]

There have been a few times since bit only a couple this year.

It used to be pretty regular

[Anonymous]

Nope sounds like she just doesn't care about you. My condolences

[Hangry06]

In some extreme cases, it happens

[TheSpaceGnome]

should be twice a day

[Iron_Man]

That’s awful what happened to you guys