Do you think that women have higher standards when choosing a significant other?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Interestingly, no--and I don't think they can (as a group anyway) either. The reason is that for the most part, girls aren't doing the asking. That means they can only get guys as good as ask them out. The upside for them is that they don't have to deal with as much "in your face" rejection, but the downside is that eventually they have to accept the offer of a guy who asks them out or resign themselves to being alone.

For most guys on the other hand, you start with the girl you're most interested in and (very likely) get rejected, and keep working your way down your "wish list" until you end up with a girl who accepts you. But this is the best that guy could feasibly do since all his more preferred pics turned him down.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I would like to think yes in most cases. But I also think relationships are changing it seems to me that friendships are getting stronger and relationships are being taken up just for convenience in a roundabout way. But for me I I've always looked at women as having a higher standard because in so many different ways when they are just a little bit deeper than guys they think way ahead you're always looking into the future where guys are looking glassy-eyed and at the moment

Raphtaila · Accepted Answer

I think having high standards is important I went threw phase where I needed and craved attention which caused me to make mistakes by sending things I shouldn’t have I learned from my mistakes but now I’m paying for it by having the past thrown in my face from time to time my boyfriend that I love so much of three months but we always get through it.
And my standards were real low before him and even if he throughs my past in my face we got through it together bc I believe there’s potential and if two fight and don’t give up might have a shot he hasn’t thrown my past in my face in a while maybe he’s getting over it finally

NicoletteXO · Accepted Answer

Yes, but they also hold themselves to higher standards too. A lot of men would be happy with a very mediocre relationship. Most women would not.

Obviously this is a generalized statement - there are some men with high standards, and some women with low standards. I'm just talking in general here.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

While woman are more likely to consider marriage and babies and lifelong companionship while men are more likely to consider a one night stand.

Finchie40 · Answer

Nowadays yes, with the way social media labels people and brainwashes people to believe you have to be a certain way to be accepted , Most girl’s live on their phones and constantly compare there lives to others , Most girl’s are attracted to status , if he has a good job drives a nice car takes care of himself , dresses nice , and other’s look up to him etc, She will be attracted to that , so her list of preferences becomes a lot higher , Where a guy is just attracted to her beauty and her personality he doesn’t really care about her status what so ever , just as long as she is loyal and loving and makes he feel wanted and adored he will fall for her , But Girl’s nowadays have a list of things that he needs to get her interested , social media has played a big part of destroying how people label each other , sad world we live in

SofiSin667 · Answer

Umm, some females (not all) are very demanding and have very little to offer. Guys on the other hand are more willing to work around certain things they wouldn’t usually prefer.

RealMarek · Answer

Dating apps prove that women are more selective than men. It is hard-wired into humans by evolution. The stone age was rough especially when population levels would reach what the land could sustain, and attaching herself to the most physically robust and smart man possible was a woman’s best bet for survival. When civilizations began to emerge, monogamy evolved as a way to reduce the level of violence that resulted from large numbers of single men (think of it as a prehistoric radical incel problem). The more monogamy is practiced, the more apt men are to find a mate. The rise of hook-up sites and the decrease in people who are monogamous is part of the reason why the percentage of men in their 20s who are not sexually active has skyrocketed during the past ten years.

dowser19 · Answer

Women are all about one extreme or the other-no in between. On the one hand, you've got many who turn their nose up at any guy who isn't on the fast track to being rich and famous-and those types are everywhere now. So you'd think this is the case... but then you see a LOT of females, who, looks wise, you'd think would have high standards and COULD get those caliber of guys... but they're flooding your local Walmart as 19 yr old single baby mama's instead😳. So they're one far extreme or the other. Very rarely anything in between.

Sarahr123 · Answer

No, not all. Some do. But it’s the same for men. Probably some men are easy for sex and some dumb ones will marry anything but both men and women settle for anything sometimes. Standards vary by individual and doesn’t seem to correlate much with sex/gender.

Thatasianlove16 · Answer

I think we have to. For safety reasons and even financial. I don’t really care financially you just have to have a job. But I’m not gonna be with a man that can’t stick up for himself or me. I love sticking up for my man. But I have a life where I have an abusive step father and i like to think of you can’t stand up for me when and when that situation goes down you’re not right for me cause authorities have done nothing for us so it’s just been us women standing up to him

hahahmm · Answer

Yes but it's way harder for most people to tell because a woman could be in a relationship that looks serious to outsiders and even to her clueless boyfriend but she doesn't take it seriously. I think this happens more often than the reverse case where he's playing her because she has way more checkboxes she needs to check before she really takes it seriously.

meetkitty123 · Answer

I don't really know I have to be on here for so long I've read so much about what women want what men want interestingly it seems like we both want similar things but we ask for it or explain it differently. Or we simply maybe asking for the same things but her man certain areas might be more important and for women it may be less important.

HighValue · Answer

They have unrealistic standards because they sleep around and party and then have high standards when they want an SO. Then they get upset when a good man like me rejects them for their past. Many end up with a low quality mate because they have become low quality themselves by their past choices. Or they wait too long and pass 30 so most good men that want to create a family have no interest in them anymore.

VanillaSalt · Answer

I think men’s standards for picking a life partner are much higher and women don’t like it meanwhile women’s standards are higher when choosing who their willing to interact intimately with.

Basically women’s standards are higher in the first interaction and men’s are higher when making the decision of commitment.

Novacane · Answer

Of course, they do, but that's obviously due to biology since they are only able to mate with one person while men don't deal with that, so its only right for them to make sure they pick the right one, hence why they will have a list of expectations/standards which usually ends up taking out most men. Its a fact that women only find 20% of men attractive so they usually are all going for the same kind of guys

Lionman95 · Answer

Yeah I think so though also guys have pretty high standards especially if they are looking for a long term relationship that isn't an open relationship.
I understand that it's necessary for women to do so because they have higher risks that to deal with.
At the same time it's the one thing I struggled most with when I had been looking for a relationship.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Hmm if that was true a woman wouldn't be a girlfriend to guy who knowingly and did get eaten by a bear on purpose.
Nor would a woman date a man who cheated on them still.
Nor would a woman stay around when a guy hits her.

There is just people, some people have high standards and some have too little and some have just enough.

Kaamraj · Answer

Most definitely women have a higher standard of choosing a mate than men, because the cost of reproduction is much more for women than it is for men. Women's mate choice is a classical example of the pareto principle in economics where 90% of women are attracted to the same 10% of the man, or 90% of men are invisible to 90% of women, in short the average man is invisible to the average woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Women don’t have higher standarts. Women want love and sex. Men want just sex. If they want just sex, they don’t have any standarts and it is their problem. We know that many men who write us also writes and talks every women. So why should we talk with everyone. Besides, if any woman who has low standarts, they see them as a whore.

ToastyOats · Answer

Not at all. I have much higher standards, but Ia am also willing to settle for the good of my people. Most women I meet seem much more to be dating just for themselves, they do not veiw forming a family as a service they make to create a better world in the way I do and they certainly do not have any sense of urgency about it either.

gag2021 · Answer

Yes, most women, especially if they are at least reasonably attractive. In the online dating sites, I have seen several single women post a long list of requirements they want, and say 'if you meet all those requirements', I MIGHT like you. Good luck with that.

Guanfei · Answer

After spending a lot of time on most dating apps, clearly women are much more demanding and much less ready to make any concession.
I'd say around 70% of the profile I've seen were basically like "I want all of this (followed by a list), I don't want that and if you don't like it you can leave"
It was just a grocery list.

Sure dating apps don't necessarily show exactly the same as what you'd find outside, but I doubt that it's really different.

ODC2112 · Answer

No I don't think they have high standards. I think they have standards of pure fantasy.
These standards are often not oriented to the person, but to the social context of reference. Then of course they end up choosing the person they will divorce from.
Furthermore, most women think they are what they were at 23, that is, at the moment of maximum attractiveness, which is not the case in the years to come.

Adam1978 · Answer

I would say more unrealistic. Because in the end those standards are thrown away when it suits her. Men tend to have lower but they stick to them. It's not an on/off switch.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Alpha men are highest in demand and have highest standards
Attractive younger women have high demand and high standards
Ugly women have low demand and high standards
Beta men have no demand and low standards

Something about like that anyways.

Lj0011 · Answer

I think everyone has high standards however a lot more men throw themselves at women rather than the other way around (however if you look like Brad pitt maybe you would get attention from more women 😅) so the women have more choice ( you have twice as many female ancestors than male) so it probably seems like women have higher standards when in reality everyone has high standards.

qwert1234 · Answer

Yes.
Reality-wise, it takes only a few things to please a man (barring sexual stuff). Women, on the other hand has list of items you need to become or be doing. And I am not saying that as a bad thing. It's just the way our brains are wired.

CaliSixx · Answer

I feel like no one wins in this situation. Men don't want fat girls that don't care about themselves
Women want men that are tall

Everyone has standards. No matter what you do. People have certain likes and dislikes. No way to avoid it

Anonymous · Answer

Both men and women have the highest standards they can afford to have while still being able to attract a mate. With that said, he answer depends on age. In the 20s women have higher standards than men... because they can. After about age 30 men begin to have higher standards than women... because they can.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Why do you think so many women end up as cat ranchers? Being "picky" well beyond your peak years almost guarantees a woman ending up alone.

jasco · Answer

I think today a lot of women need high standards depending on age. A lot of guys are just dumbass and deadbeats. Of course their are guys who are actually trying to make a lives fir themselves and I salute you.

Buterflybaby · Answer

I think they do. I think girls are more selective and careful with who they date.

t-8900 · Answer

based on what Tik Tok thots say, yes based on what Female Gagers say, no based on me: I'm totally lost at this point.

ColoradoKid · Answer

Ya... I am sub par... How do I know this? I am still single. I don't yell at women.. I don't hit them.. I am confused.. is that what I am doing wrong?

Toldol2 · Answer

Not at all unfortunately. We rather say yes to jerks rather than staying single a bit more

FatherJack · Answer

Compared to men , probably , as women have far more male options , if she so choses. Most men have few , if any , female options.

exitseven · Answer

No, it is about the same. Sometimes I see who some girls end up with and just shake my head.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Honestly I think the majority have impossible standards.

TonyV · Answer

Yes women are very picky and also willing to hold out till unrealistic standards fall into their lap

Medhat-M · Answer

Yes.. but most of them give up and settle down with very " meh " guys eventually.. most of them don't live up to their so called standards.. It's actually funny sometimes

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

They don't. They just pretend to hide the fact they prefer to bang their brothers (those who have them). Or to hide they are lesbian. You declare some unrealistic expectation and you hide the truth.

anykayd · Answer

i don't think so. It might just seem so on dating apps but this is just because men out number women 2:1. There are twice as many men on the dating apps as women. So of course women have more options to pick from than men.

nickaboy · Answer

No , they Just have wrong standards wich makes them pick a bunch off assholes.

Because they rather try to fix someone wich never works out, then that they go for someone that allready is the guy they are looking for.

boxxie2002 · Answer

Not as they get older.
I think they do when they are younger, but as their values and ideals change, so do the amount of qualities they look for / things they can look past or compromise on in a partner

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

This was me...

cloudspy · Answer

Going by friends, family and past experience I'd say not.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

You would think so, but they all go chasing after all the guys that beat the shit out of them instead of the good guys!

humpbackjack · Answer

I’d say they for sure have they have different standards than most men but it would probably depend on who you asked on who’s standards are higher

Andres77 · Answer

Fuck no! Women SETTLE and grow to secretly resent their husbands and suffer through their prison sentence... That's The norm...

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

In my experience no, but most people in general have such low standards that they cause their own breakups by picking people they can't relate to.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

You need to have high standards hopefully then you won't be disappointed

DiegoO · Answer

Nah, only different standards. Unfortunately lot of people leave their standard for the "feeling". They don't match both, they only go for what they feel, and not "think" (carefully).

YesICan · Answer

Yes.

moviedude714 · Answer

I figure it only makes sense evolutionary wise, yes we have advanced birth control now, but that doesn't change thousands or millions of years of the human psyche

dragoblack · Answer

Depends on where you live. I've seen many go to so many toxic, abusive, & manipulative men because they don't know how to function with a healthy relationship

AydenHazor · Answer

I think it depends on the man and the woman. I'm general, I would probably say yes though, considering how many "nice guys" most girls have to beat away

fit_and_feminine · Answer

I turned down a few guys before finally accept a date

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

Not at all. Many talk like they do but at the end of the day, they'd settle for who is available and try to come up for an excuse for his faults, generally speaking that is.

spy4in · Answer

Here in indian contrast, mostly girl gets higher standard male & it's much easier for her to achieve it

Ninjazzed · Answer

We have to. For our sake. I mean. Men are shitbags and players.

es20490446e · Answer

I suspect that women are picky only because everything is given at a low prize.

RJ880 · Answer

I mean maybe but it usually just comes down to the person.

worldscolide · Answer

On dating sites? Yes definitely.. In real life? No.

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