What behaviors in a relationship or from a partner do you consider "Too possessive"?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

The main one would be wanting passwords to my devices. Why would she want that? To spy? If she's afraid that I'm chasing other women on-line, then there is no trust in our relationship. She don't know me at all.
Plus spying is sneaky. Sneaky is not only creepy but also dishonest.

Nobody OWNS anybody. You can't keep someone faithful by following them around or keeping them on a leash. Clingy, insecure people and narcissists do that.

My wife and I share what we did during the day with each other. We talk about anything interesting that happened. That's it. There is no suspicion involved.

Honestly, I don't even have a password on my phone because I don't use it to access apps or whatever. I talk, text and take photos. My texts are boring. I can't imagine my wife scrolling through them to see if I was doing something behind her back.

I know her phone password, but only in case of emergency. I could give a fuck what she texts and to whom.

Both of us have passwords on our laptops. We have passwords on apps and sites, too. It's mainly for hacking protection. Again, neither of us has any interest in seeing what the other is doing on their computer.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Telling me I can't spend time with my friends/relatives... when you're spending time with yours. Basically claiming I have to do anything that you don't do yourself is going too far. But I totally disagree with people who claim it's their right to have opposite sex best friends.. they just have to have secret/alone meetings with. Nah, that just means you're not into me as much as you claim to be in my book. And if you say I'm free to have some hot female best friends it just tells me again, you ain't that into me. I'd just leave the relationship. We all have a right to boundaries/expectations & if you don't agree then we're not compatible.

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

Not to long ago me and my boyfriend were on holiday in Scotland. We went this place were you could get a sea food platter to share between us on the opposite side of the table there was another young couples and the boyfriend was making me feel super uncomfortable with his girlfriend. She was trying to eat a prawn sandwich and he kept cuddling and kissing her at the same time. At some points I wasn't sure if he was trying to seal the food out her mouth. I'd couldn't find something more annoying then my boyfriend hassling me for attention at every second especially whilst eating.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Oh the list is Legion! But I think things like “checking up“ is a great blanket term to describe the worst of the behavior! The type of guy who has to look at his girlfriend’s phone, just to make sure she’s not cheating! Or if she says she’s gonna be late because she’s at her friends house, consoling her over her latest break -up, and he drives past the friends house to make sure her car is there! I mean dude… If you have that little faith in your girlfriend, just end it and move on! Find someone you CAN trust!

coachTanthony · Answer

They get offended when you want to go out with your friends and they themselves never make plans of their own. Huge red flag when people stop having friendships and putting it all on their partner for love and entertainment all the time.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I used to date a guy who was jealous I had male best friends before I met him even though I did not date those friends - it was super weird.

Siren777 · Answer

I've always been independent and doing my own thing for as long as I can remember.
When in a relationship - some healthy space is good to have to do somethings on your own too.
Wanting to know my whereabouts 24/7.
You cannot see your friends anymore.
Deciding everything in the relationship - I'd like to see a man tell me what to do🙄 Never going to happen.
Watching my every move. Keeping track of me. Checking my phone all the time. No trust. Calling all my family and friends to see where I am and if I am really with them. Following me around. Believe me this has happened so I would know.

confusedperson2002 · Answer

I feel like I am pretty independent when it comes to relationships. I have never felt pressured to be in a relationship, however recently I was dating and the guy would not stop texting me ALL day asking about me and also wanting to be in a committed relationship after one date. It felt like a red flag, maybe not in a dangerous way, but definitely felt weird that he was trying to move so fast.

DonkeyDan · Answer

If they never want to have their own time and constantly want to be by your side. I value my time for me, I think a healthy relationship should have alone time for each partner, whether that be spending time on their own or with other people like their freinds.

Anonymous · Answer

There are so many things, however some people tend to be very subtle with their possessiveness, they do it in a way, that you like it, but when you also do the same to them, they tend to draw a line.
One of the many things, my boyfriend does his forcing hickeys despite telling him it looks unprofessional. But I gave one to him, and he told me not to do it again but he said it with a laugh so that I don’t feel offended but whenever he’s hanging out with our common friends then he tends to show it off a lot. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Never felt this way, no one made me feel this way...

If i was in this situation than we will have a discussion about it and fix things up!

After marriage miss brains muffins, a person can't keep his same identity cause they simply can, some things have to change because we aren't alone anymore and the mentality of the solo player would vanish and becomes a team work... etc

I'll keep my identity the same when it comes to being honest, stick to my promises and being good to others but i just wouldn't be able to live the same way that i used to be before marriage!

Before marriage ain't nothing like after marriage!

You know this well spongy forehead 😁

anon1903 · Answer

- getting touchy feely in public
- obnoxiously telling someone off because they think I'm being hit on- glaring at me when I attain somebody else for few minutes- checking call history- recording my calls- forcing their name tattoo on me- forcing hickeys on me- not letting me wear even sleeveless dress because only they can see me in "sexy outfits"- mind numbing amount of calls and messages- threatening that if I cheat they'd kill me

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

My last ex-girlfriend got mad when we ran into my Mom ( late) in the City Park
all cause my mom would yell at us kids sometimes but we have to ask ourselves moms have their ways with us kids, I know when it snowed she wouldn't let us go to school cause of the roads cause we had to go on school buses also I got to skip school a few times

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I had a girlfriend who would be waiting for me in her car in my driveway before I even got home from work. That was a bit much.

007kingifrit · Answer

i was fine when she chained me up in the basement but when she told me i had to choose between pringles and chex mix when i was given a reward for not trying to escape that was when i draw the line.

i need both so i can make little snack tacos

Citizenkirk · Answer

You just can't make this stuff up 💣💥👀

Purplemonkey242 · Answer

Can't fall asleep on the couch without them blowing shit out of proportion and thinking im leaving or fucking around. Text me all day cool but don't get pissy when I can't be around every minute or answer right away

Miristheiss · Answer

I don't know.  Give me a list and I'll say yes or no. I can't really think of anything.  I guess expecting them to never do anything else but to just be with them. Spending all your time together.

TrueConfection · Answer

My husband checks up on me throughout the day. It gets on my nerves, but I can live with it because he doesn't act jealous when we're out.

Jayplays900 · Answer

I personally do not have a limit. The feeling of a person desiring me at all times makes me feel special and whole.

Though I do understand why people wouldn't like that, I guess I just like the caring feeling more and desire it often.

AndrewMG · Answer

Removing milk bottles from the house. I mean I'm a laid back guy but that's a step too far when I wind down with a beverage at the end of the night!

Laura456 · Answer

When you're with a group of other people, and they watch your eyes trying to catch you looking at other people, yeah that makes me uncomfortable and I think that is obsessive and possessive.

Fireguy17 · Answer

constant calls, texting, finding out she put a tracker on my phone, accusing me of being with someone or somewhere I wasn't.
trust is a really big thing, and if she doesn't trust me it is time to move on.

PiinkFalls · Answer

Going through someone’s phone, trying to rip someone from their friends or family, and having to know exact whereabouts at all times are all red flags.

t-8900 · Answer

When I need to be alone to clear my head if they upset me. Just give me time and space and I can work through it

sattii2607 · Answer

Spying on who they are talking to, not letting opposite gender connect a lot or even of same gender of they spend a lot of time which he/she might spend with you otherwise is being too possessive bordereing on insecurity

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I like possessive women, the kind who are clingy and bubbly and give the evil eye to girls trying to flirt with me.

sheikalana · Answer

Impatience. Upset when you take a bit more to answer his calls/text messages because you're busy. Constantly doubting you. Lack of trust.

MTC29 · Answer

No outside interests, so they want to monopolize every minute of your time.

JohnE_62 · Answer

Always wanting to change you into what they want you to be instead of accepting you for who you are. Or, always finding fault with you, nit-picking everything you say or do. Controlling the money and giving you an allowance. These are BIG! No No's with me.

pickedcrisps · Answer

She never gives me space. That would be top of my list if had a woman.

Wiredone · Answer

Getting upset when I want to do something fun for myself.

Massageman · Answer

Having to know whereabouts 24/7. Approving purchases before they are made. Only going to places the controller wants to go.

Mark987 · Answer

Some who is too controlling.. who let you go see you friends... or tries to control what you do

krin_m · Answer

Constantly asking "what are you doing?, Why? Can you help me regardless of what you are dealing with? ... blah blah blah!"

Lonely888 · Answer

Spying on phone, demanding attention all the time, not letting you see friends and family

Nazgol · Answer

Controlling communication & not giving them alone time

JosyJosy · Answer

"I don't like it when you talk to your guy friends, could you like not do that anymore?"

exitseven · Answer

Making it harder to visit your family or friends.

Slim57 · Answer

Not letting you hang out with friends from time to time or have alone time

loveslongnails · Answer

Tapping my keystrokes would be too far. LOL

scooogy · Answer

Deciding for me what to do together.

lonelyguyintheworld · Answer

Going through my wallet.

Weasel1983 · Answer

Telling me what l am going to do or not do

tomtom05131 · Answer

Wanting to know where I am every minute.

noohair · Answer

The question, What are you doing?

TheAfrikan · Answer

Personal time and space should not be posessed.

Zygum · Answer

There must be some limits, not too possessive

EaterPeter · Answer

The one shown in bw pic.

Jouth · Answer

killing your wife if she acknowledges another man

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Being overly jealous

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