Hey!😀... it's the weird girl with the cat! (weird in a good way). I have actually been thinking about you since I read you last question about how you moved so often, and didn't really feel like you had roots or "your people" in any one spot (not like thinking about you... this whole time... but thinking about you at non-creepy intervals, periodically, since you posted that question).
You see, my experience has been very much the opposite. I have lived in the same city (and surrounding suburbs) my entire life, with the exception of living in a small college town about an hour away when I was in University.
So as soon as I read that question, I have been trying to imagine what it would be like to have a life so different from my own. Personally, I don't think I would trade. I do however, really admire you for being able to just "pick up and try somewhere new" because the thought of doing so is one that genuinely frightens me.
Your other question seemed to be coming from someone who wasn't particularly unhappy about living such a nomadic life. You had seemed to be coming from more of a "meh... this is just how I roll" sort-of-mind-set.
I am distressed to see that, you in fact aren't the happy hippy wandering around the US that I took you for at first. (in my mind you're a like a nerdy-hippy, not the nose-ring and unshaved armpits variety).
It does make more sense to me that you feel this way about moving so much. It's more in-line with how I think I would feel if I were moving so much myself.
What is so painful to hear is that you've never had a boyfriend, and can't seem to meet a decent guy. I have to say, that you're definitely not the first girl who's said something along those lines. That sort of thing blows my mind.
I have been single for a very long time myself, and can very much sympathize with the feeling of "how am I supposed to meet someone... when I NEVER get a chance to cross paths with a potential mate now that I'm not in school anymore". I work with a bunch of guys. There are almost no women, and the few that exist there are either married, or rougher-around-the-edges than I am.
I have also known a whole lot of women who (through no fault of their own) have found online dating to yield no results.
I do feel like I should mention something here, that I otherwise would keep to myself. I don't hit on people on GAG. It's just not what I'm here looking for, and it's incongruent with the (often) rather serious personal shit I end up discussing with people I meet on GAG. So I do feel kind of weird mentioning this. That is especially true because; well... I don't know you at all, and I'm not really basing this on a whole lot...
As a single guy... you are someone who actually DID give me a little spark of romantic interest. Like I said, thinking "well... this girl seems like the type I'd be interested in talking to" on any romantic level... is just not something I end up thinking very often on GAG. You were one of the VERY few people who DID make that initial impression on me. My mind is just so far removed from 'looking for women' when I'm on GAG that it really does take something unique to make me notice you that way.
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The unfortunate fact is, you're just exactly the kind of woman some guy would love to have as his girlfriend. You are 29 though, in all honesty, you may be better off looking for guys NOT your own age. Guys tend to start looking for women much younger than themselves after age 30 or so. You might find you have a lot in common with a guy 10 or more years older than you and still be very attracted. But the unfortunate truth is, very few guys in their 30s want to date a girl in her 30s. Even in their 40s most guys will really look differently at a 30-year-old than someone younger. If you really want to maximize your chances of finding someone that actually makes you happy rather than fitting some numbers together arbitrarily, you might want to loosen some of your standards now while you're still young enough to find love and start a family and the whole 9 yards.
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Join a local church - I'm sure there are good guys your age out there.
love yourself and focus on succes , be great and stay positive , positive energy brings positive people...
Are you saying you're 29 and never had a boyfriend?
I think the problem here might be, a goal.
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