Does rejection really cure limerence?

[Anonymous]

I am very prone to limerence (imagining a relationship with someone and misinterpreting their normal behavior as reciprocation). I had an intense crush on someone for 6 years and I didn’t do anything. It was really painful.
I read up so much about limerence and it seems like a direct rejection is the way to end.

Fast forward, I developed another crush but this time I confessed! But he rejected me, saying he wants to be friends. It hurts but the limerence in my brain didn’t die off. It seems to be constantly hopeful? It is really kind of strange I wonder if I am mental.

I don’t know if it is because he didn’t say he doesn’t like me, so my brain managed to draw a conclusion that maybe he does like me and he needs more time?

But then again, knowing how ridiculous my brain is, if he were to say to me directly i do not like you and I never will, I feel my brain can bypass that as well.

[RichSD]

Well at least you're self-aware enough to know your brain is just fooling you. It's hard dealing with mental issues that are so realistic, but at least it's not a completely crippling one because your logical mind can kick in to help out. You should actively seek a romantic partner and be up front about it from the get-go, and not settle for vague maybes from anyone. You're not young anymore, you can't afford to put off your happiness.