Do you use your knowledge about the opposite sex in your new relationship based on your experiences with your exes?

[marish01]

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes and no.

first off, everyone is different, what worked with a previous person, may have opposite impact on latest etc.

for me it’s mainly using experience of being in a relationship, not repeating those times when you fuck up, recognising certain situations, how they are heading.

using previous experience as a confidence booster, this means you can more readily sit down and talk to your partner.

when first starting you have zero or limited experience, a few more in to it, you get used to just sitting chatting about everything.

learning about Respect and consent are really important and building on them as you have relationships.

[PrettyPriya]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ

[ChrisMaster69]

@PrettyPriya 😂

[TheorionMage]

WITHIN limits... while the physical equipment is somewhat 'generic'
the female Psyche inhabiting and controlling it offers near infinite uniqueness---
Often unpartnered folks subconsciously prefer and seek out a certain 'type' of love interest
over and over again. "Its the same ol' song, but with a different meaning since you've been gone."

[nice-girl]

No, as the relationship I am now is very long compared to the previous relationship, so that one never arrived at this stage. But I used the knowledge that I gained in my previous relationship when choosing a partner, as I analyzed what didn't work in my previous relationship.

[Ninani]

Yes, I use all past experience with people to understand patterns and work on my own communication and coping skills as well as understanding others and reading their signals. Would be silly not to learn from past experience, but still be open to new impressions as well.

[TruthBringer]

YES.
I use my knowledge in both attracting and maintaining my relationship. Not only would I be wiser and more experienced, but I also make sure I do not repeat mistakes I've made in the relationships with my exes. This has worked very well so far.

[Caramalkisses23]

I agree. I’m only replying because I’m piggy backing off what u said. You learn what did and didn’t work and You learn what to accept and what not accept. Without using the experience of the last relationship, it’s almost like you aren’t learning anything. In order to make a relationship work, u have to put in the effort and use every experience to your advantage. A person who walks into a new relationship and completely starting over without using past mistakes- then it’s almost like they’re completing the same cycle.

[marish01]

@Caramalkisses23 I know many women who are happily married to their first boyfriends

[Caramalkisses23]

I’ve only had one boyfriend and we are still together, despite the many issues we’ve had. However, you learn from certain experiences and you change certain things to make it work. If something goes wrong and you aren’t changing what’s wrong- the relationship will not work. In those relationships that have lasted- they are most likely, communicating, compromising, and working together for the best of their relationship.

[marish01]

@Caramalkisses23 they have good communication skills, have strong family values and lack emotional baggage.

[Caramalkisses23]

Right. Trust me, a perfect relationship doesn’t come easy. You learn from everything.

[Dragonpurple]

Yes, I use knowledge from past experiences, if not I'd still be a bumbling fool who doesn't even know how to ask someone out without looking like an idiot.

Everything would be horrible, I wouldn't know how to kiss or anything.

Now I will say, sexually I try to not so much. Just cause a girl liked something, doesn't mean the next will. Like how she is touched and played with, what an ex loved current may not.

[The_Maphio]

That's what experiences are for. You learn from mistakes and events you lived and went through, so to make sure you avoid fuckups and bad takes. To throw away past experiences, is to wanting to repeat stuff all over again and hope for different outcomes. Definition of insanity.

[Zenpanda]

I only use what I learned about myself.
Using previous knowledge about women or men on others is useless because everyone is so different.
You learn to know a new person, there is no guide to it.

[humpbackjack]

I’m sure everyone does too some degree. I would say yes but ultimately I know that everyone is different and they handle things different so you need to keep past experience’s in the back of your mind to be alert so as not to let it happen again while at the front of your mind remember to treat them as the individual they are

[Anonymous]

always. i now know what to avoid and when to leave if a new guy starts treating me like my ex did.
My type of men are all kinda the same lol, so they have similar personalities and hobbies. Based on my past relationship, I know what the guy im talking to kinda likes and how to make him happy.

[grega239]

My last relationship left me paranoid , untrusting and always on guard.
Any nice things a woman says to me, i treat with suspicion and as an attempt to soften me up for easier manipulation.

I should probably get therapy for that, but then why get my confidence back so someone can ruin it again

[ShadezMcgee]

That is what you should do when you enter a new relationship. Use your knowledge of what worked and what didn't to make your new one better and make adjustments based on observation and how your current partner acts and communicates.

[ohshee]

Each person is different each scenario is different but a lot of things could be the same so I would be a fool if I didn't use everything I had everything I've learned to make the best relationship possible

[Aerissa_Jade]

Yup, otherwise I'd touch a penis like it was going to break. I thought they were so fragile at first.

[marish01]

I want all possible bad experiences be with the man I love. Lol

[cookiecrusher]

That's pretty funny😅

[Aerissa_Jade]

@cookiecrusher I know right, but now I know I can squeeze as hard as I can and I don't have the strength to break them at all. Live and learn, also learned not to accidently dig my nails in.

See something else, guys don't like long nails accident dug in.

[KrisPW]

Well, yes. You can't start over with a blank slate of knowledge every time. I think we certainly learn things from our past relationships. Things to say, or not to say.

[Heartache0405]

All of my knowledge from my past relationships as well as the ones I didn’t even get a chance to have just made me not want to try anymore. I don’t date and I don’t do relationships.

[Lliam]

Absolutely. The more experience I've had in relationships, the more I have learned about women and about human behavior in general. I've learned about myself, as well.

[RobT312]

Yes to the extent of learning from experience. However every person and relationship is unique so not everything learned can be applied to the new relationship.

[Sarahr123]

Everyone is different. Experiences teach you things but it is never enough because every person comes with their own baggage.

[Abinav08]

He who tries to use his knowledge over a past relation is technically a cultural idiot!
Needless to say, a wise man has no ex.. no more updates in life

[Wester1967]

Yes. I would be stupid not to use knowledge of imprinting, dual mating strategy, manipulative tactics and vulgar shameless female cynicism.

[CandaceSims201]

some of my ex boyfriend only hasn't help with any thinking about new relationship. only has some bad experience with some ex boyfriend.

[Fireguy17]

I would try to correct the mistakes from the last relationship going forward in a new one.

[exitseven]

You can fit all the knowledge I have about the opposite sex into a thimble so probably not.

[Better_off_here]

yes, we all learn things from our past and that includes relationships. we take what we did and how we may change things and we try to make it better with the next person.

[loveslongnails]

That, and all the information I know about women from observation and listening.

[Redstang88]

Of course, what are you doing if you’re not learning and growing from your experience?

[Shawn411]

What you really want to say is have you matured enough during the break up to enter a new one because everyone needs time and space.

[007kingifrit]

what kind of a question is this its like "do you learn from past experiences"

[CaptainLegal]

Yeah of course, my ex was bi sexual and I learned a lot of stuff from her.

[msg999]

People should use their experiences in all areas of life including relationships.

[Smartman5]

I've never had a girlfriend. but if there was I would use what I learned earlier.

[StLeppy45]

I just pay attention to/for red flags that I've had in previous relationships. Other than that, I see it as a new adventure.

[winterskyismyname]

Yes but as a generalization that I keep in the back of my head

[Julious0202]

Kind of I think m…. but not always …everyone is different

[Anonymous]

Everyone is different but you learn from past experience about yourself and others.

[DaveJord]

I try not to... but its human nature.

[AviatorTom]

I try, but sometimes my "knowledge" is flawed.

[Jamie05rhs]

A little bit, yeah, unfortunately.

[WowwGirl]

No he's way better than them to compare behaviors

[princeofromance]

No, I do not. That leads to bad things.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes absolutely you live and learn

[Anonymous]

Of course! All knowledge is useful.

[Toldol2]

Definitely

[DailyConfusion]

Yes I do

[AmeerX]

Obviously

[dudeinohio]

To a degree, yes.

[MJtheCoach]

I use a screwdriver

[Hanrej]

Yes, ofcourse.

[EaterPeter]

I tried

[Hulk30]

no i dont

[Adam-94]

Always