Is this normal (I’ve never gotten flowers from a guy before and I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years)?

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Should I expect flowers? On Valentine’s day my boyfriend took me out to dinner but didn’t give me anything else no chocolates or anything even though I love chocolates my family called him cheap for that was that cheap? I told him this Sunday that I’ve never gotten flowers from a guy before and he said “oh really?” maybe it’s my fault that I never got any flowers because I told him that I like them but they die too fast. He also has a mother that hates flowers. I’m 20 not 21 by the way

Hellothere543212 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I think you have a very romanticised perception of relationships.

Obviously in the past, chivalry was deemed normal social etiquette. This has since changed.

As a female myself, I have no interest in a man buying me flowers or chocolates - or anything for that matter. If I want these things I will get them myself. I’m not saying this because I am against chivalry as an act of feminism or anything like that.

This behaviour is simply not the social norm anymore and therefore he is not being cheap, he simply doesn’t value these ideals and sentiments.

I personally appreciate being able to spend time with the person rather than them spending money!

Razp_Sorbet · Accepted Answer

The only time I've received flowers from a boyfriend was for a pathetic apology that he gaslighted me and stressed me out about. So I'm not that keen on them. Though I'd appreciate flowers my cat would just eat them lol. If you want flowers drop hints about it or straight up ask.

Hairylegs222 · Accepted Answer

When it comes to love, relationship, marriage, etc, if you expect gifts from your partner then I'm sorry to say you don't appreciate your partner's love and company. That's focusing more on materialistic things then love. I don't care at all about gifts. Only to see and be with the woman I'm focusing on. Flowers are a nice sweet gift to give but shouldn't be an expected normal thing to give your partner. My love and being with her are far more important then giving her flowers.

Having said that, for the record I did personally give flowers to women I dated or had relationships with in the past. One of my ways of being sweet and showing she's special to me.

Satyromaniac · Accepted Answer

Who knows what's normal?

The girl I gifted chocolates, roses, cards and gifts for her birthday, valentines and aniversary ended up dumping me and married another.

The woman I was with the longest, never mentioned them or asked for them, surprisingly now that I think of it, it never occurred to me to present her with those things while we were together, yet she stuck by me the whole time and we seperated on a good note.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I don't expect flowers, if I want them I buy them myself for myself. Just bought some for myself Saturday.

I get flowers all the time though from guys, quite often I have no idea WHO they came from.

That guy sounds cheap to me, you need to have a chat with him about it. If that doesn't help, move on.

Anonymous · Answer

not normal. but at least he took you out to dinner. just tell him you like flowers. maybe he'll get them, maybe he won't. unfortunately, it's rather normal to just be taken out to dinner for valentines day. sometimes guys don't bother with the effort. who knows why, only he does. but it honestly just sounds like he doesn't care much about gifts. it's the worst type of personality trait. but just talk to him.

HawkPerception · Answer

My girlfriend and I don't practice Valentine's day and I certainly don't believe in giving flowers which will inevitably die within a few weeks. I would rather we save our money for more valuable things like vacation, investments, and long term usage items.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe no one ever sat you down and told you this but here goes : MEN ARE NOT MIND READERS. If you want chocolates then OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND SAY SO.

Anonymous · Answer

I tell people all the time, communication is key. If his mom doesn’t like flowers or he probably never seen women in his life been given flowers- he just doesn’t think to give out flowers. You learn form your experiences. I’m 33 and I have never been given flowers. I just assume it’s the type of guys that I have dated. Then again- I’ve never asked for them neither. You’re still young. Just let him know that you would love to receive flowers one day.

aquamarine321 · Answer

Feminism as caused men to stop doing things, so it’s not his fault, plus you can suggest it to your guy before making negative conclusions, and also ask him what he wants also because women are always asking asking but never asking or giving what a guy wants or needs

animesenpai · Answer

From a purely practical matter I would like to give something that has more life and staying power than flowers. Especially around Valentine's Day when the price of flowers goes up like crazy. Giving a more memorable and time enduring gift seems like a better idea

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

If his mom doesn't like flowers, then he might not perceive them as part of a romantic gesture. Speak up if you want them

Sarahr123 · Answer

I hadn’t received flowers in seven years. The guy is probably just not that fussed about impressing you.

hahahmm · Answer

Guys don't really value flowers usually. That time he listened to you whine about something for an hour was worth a truckload of roses.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

If you want flowers then maybe you should tell him you'd like to get some. Personally I don't really care for flowers and see them as kinda pointless.

crazy8000 · Answer

Some doesn't consider it's an act of appreciation or love to give material thing or to give in general. Do you give him what you want him to give you?

mark000h · Answer

Wtf? 2 years and you've never gotten flowers 🌹⚘🌼🌷🌺

Kkoalalita · Answer

It’s alright, I haven’t gotten flowers from any dude I been with either 🥲

noohair · Answer

Guys usually follow the pattern set in the home they were raised in.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys don’t surprise us anymore unless it’s with a hard on or cheating they got no romance either

Wiredone · Answer

Guys should buy their girlfriends or wives flowers. Unless of course they don't like flowers. I give my wife flowers on special occasions and every once in awhile just to show my love for her.

007kingifrit · Answer

yea he may have interpreted your words as meaning you didn't want flowers

cookiecrusher · Answer

I never give flowers either, waste of money. I do buy her expensive loot a the time though.

LegendaryIcon · Answer

i gave flowers to a couple of the wwe divas I've met. they're both retired but, i gave it to them when i met them, this past summer. they're both taken but, figured why not

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