Why no one sits next to me in class?

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Ok yes... This has been going on since elementary school... No one has ever wanted to sit next to me especially girls! Most people in my school seem to like me but I still am alone. Its not like i hate being alone or sitting alone i love my space, but it really weirds me out! I think that maybe it's all because i am alone at breaks sometimes or maybe they think that i don't need their company. I am not a clingy person for example, i only talk with people if they start conversations with me first.. It happens quite a lot. But in class they still avoid me that's weird.. What could be the reason if not the one i mentioned above?

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Based on your responses to what others have written, it appears they either see you as unapproachable or sense you feel superior to them. People don't want to be around someone who looks down on them. The way you portray your confidence may lead people to feel you think you're better than them. If people don't feel safe and comfortable being themselves around you, they'll keep their distance. You keep your distance from others, as you've been betrayed in the past and expect that pattern to continue. I'm not hearing you say you bully those who don't measure up to your standards, but I sense people may avoid you because you don't reach out and make them feel welcome. You're just the scary unknown that people don't understand... so avoid.

If you've watched American movies, you'd see lots of examples of this. You have teen movies where the in-girls feel they are better than anyone else, and, if you haven't already discovered this, girls tend to be much more cruel than boys. You also have the movies where there is an old lady who never comes out of her home, so she is labeled the local witch, and people fear getting too close to her. If you want people to be welcoming of you, show them you're welcoming of them. Get involved in a school service club or volunteer your time outside, showing you want to help others rather than just take care of yourself.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

You're not ugly, maybe they think you want to be left alone because you don't start conversations? Don't worry about it, just be yourself. Life is too short to worry about what other people think. The only time you need to worry about what other people think is if it's going to improve your health, happiness, or keep you alive or out of trouble.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

When I was younger I had a hard time starting or keeping conversations going. I had to learn things like when someone asks me "How you doing" not to answer with "fine" that ends the conversation.

Instead need to say or do things like "Great, how are you doing?" people love to hear others talk about them. It is a great way to make friends and then those people will want to be near you. They subconsciously want to be near you.

If your the shy quiet type, people rarely want to... I know this first hand. Especially if people think its hard to talk to someone because everything they say ends it real fast.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

As a suggestion perhaps you should try starting to make some conversations yourself, don't wait for others to do so.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I kinda had the same thing growing up. Not so much that no one wanted to sit near but I was always getting teased and made fun of and most of my "friends" weren't really friends. They were just people that'd tolerate me for a while or were only interested in BEING my friend when I had something to offer them. Like, if they wanted to have a bash on my drums, they were my buddies but, they cold even leave the house after hanging with me and throw things at my bedroom window!! Or, when we had a pool in the yard, they were my best friends during the Summer but their main snowball target in the Winter!!

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

You may just be different. Your interests, styles, vibes or etc and people an be judgmental. But it's not always a bad thing and there's nothing wrong with you unless you really do hurt anyone. It's just that you're unique and some may relate to you and when they do, they're going to be your really close friends. But of all that, you should love yourself first regardless and you wouldn't have problems being alone and remember that you are your best friend. The right ones will come.

the_man57 · Answer

It's the fact that you don't talk with people unless they talk with you. They think you're unfriendly. Just talk to them first every now and again and I promise that it'll change

whosnumber1 · Answer

if that's you in the pic. your cute! I dunno maybe a confidence thing? are you a confident person?

Anonymous · Answer

I went through that throughout primary school and high school it sucked students just didn’t like me at all

jahaims · Answer

Do you not have friends? They probably just prefer to sit next to more social people so they aren't bored.

Jimbob08 · Answer

i have the opisite girls always want to sit next to me. drive me crazy. i dont know why they dont sit with you you look chill

Anonymous · Answer

Body odour? Something physical? Hard to say when we don't know you.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Kids are irrational. Who knows why they do anything?

Heartache0405 · Answer

Maybe you’re just very intimidating 😂😅

Cubus · Answer

Weird. Maybe try to start conversations more

Preeti161101 · Answer

Make some friends

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