Should I cut him off sooner rather than later?

[Anonymous]

So quick context: (20M) coworker and (18F) me dipped our feet into the dating pool. Didn't last more than a week nor to the first date till he broke it off because I wasn't ready to have sex, I'm a virgin. He said that I should lose my virginity to someone special and we can just be friends and it's not a big deal but he only texts me late at night... And he completely ignored what I texted him to tell me that he gets turned on by thinking of me naked. It really bothers me how he KNOWS I'm not ready for sex but still trying to have a sexual conversation. I really tried to be a friend to him but I feel like he doesn't care at all. I'm so so so happy that I didn't give up my virginity to him because he seems wish washy. I'm not sure if he transferred to another workplace and thats why he got suddenly bold but he hasn't been working at the job for a few days. I haven't had a friend irl in a very long time so for it to just be like this makes me want to cut it.

[Anonymous]

I think he just wants sex. He's pretending to be a good guy by telling you that you should lose your virginity to someone special, but then he texts you late at night and tries to start sexual conversations with you. He was hoping to trick you into thinking he was a better guy than he actually is. So yes, I think you should cut him off.

[Asker]

Yeah I had a bit of a feeling that him being super understanding and accepting was just a cover up. He always tried saying "You know I'm not a fiend, I'm a good dude blah blah blah" and When I focused more on his character he focused more on how "reserved, quiet, and private" I was... 🤷‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I've learned the hard way that actions speak way louder than words. Some people are good about saying the right things (i. e. what they think you want to hear), but their actions are the real thing. If he was honestly respectful of you and your virginity, he wouldn't try to close your boundaries by striking up sexual conversations.

[Asker]

He did tend to overstep my boundaries and try to make me feel uncomfortable on purpose to try and push me towards what he wants. I guess I over looked it a bit because he's my "friend" now, he's just being friendly like a "normal friend" right? Well at least I know and didn't waste a bunch of time on such a shady guy.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, trust your gut. Whenever I've tried to ignore that gut feeling and give someone the benefit of the doubt, I've gotten burned.

[Asker]

Ty sis this Convo really means a lot. I hope you find your happy and stay blessed! ☺️

[Opinion Owner]

You're very welcome! Stay true to who you are and what you want, no matter what. I hope you find your happy too!

[jshm2]

You need your head checked, kiddo. NEVER date people you work with or are related to. It's simply a rule of life.

You're not going to et far in life if you don't realise this.

[Asker]

Yeah ik I'll never do it again. Just he was the first guy to really show or at least pretend to have romantic interest in me. I learned the lesson don't worry!

[sensible27]

If he makes you uncomfortable, yes. I'm not entirely sure if the entire behaviour would change overnight..

[Asker]

I didn't even respond I just let it sit there I didn't believe he'd try it but he did. My dumbass decided to let it sit there for one day so he can have the chance to correct himself incase it was a mistake but he blocked me immediately when I didn't respond in his time frame 🤣

[sensible27]

Well.. the problem solved itself no.. (?)

[Vikkrram]

Yeah probably this guy only wants to have sex wid you... no emotionally relations.

[Asker]

He blocked me after I didn't respond to his thirsty text LOL IM SO RELIEVED 😅

[Vikkrram]

So maam case solved... Enjoy ur life...😅

[Asker]

Hell yeah! I feel so much better now 🤣🙌

[Fromdusktilldawn]

He is horny and isn't really interested in a relationship, just in sex

[Asker]

I thought he was confused on what exactly he wanted at the start but he made it extremely clear that if we started a relationship he wants and expects sex. I was kinda surprised that I couldn't even be friends with the dude without his expectation for sex! 🙇‍♀️

[Levin]

The guy just wants to get his dick wet.

Keep this in the context of any decisions you make.

[Jamie05rhs]

I give him props for being honest with you and not taking advantage of you for his own sexual gratification. That's a decent dude right there! (Even if he isn't relationship material. He still has character.)

[Jamie05rhs]

As far as the sexual conversations, don't let him do that if you're not comfortable with it. If he persists, block him.

[Anonymous]

Seems to me you've already made up your mind.

[Asker]

Kinda wish I just hacked it off sooner since I was the only one checking on how he was doing and wasting energy worrying about his well being lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Better late then never.

[boxxie2002]

I would avoid responding to the late night text

[CuriousMufuxka]

Oh dear.