What isnthe point of adulthood when I am living it alone?

[Inthecraphole]

My adulthood has been terrible.

Part of adulthood is being able to get serious with someone, experience intimacy, get married, and start a family, yet I am 27 and never even had a real girlfriend. Before I know it, I'll be hitting 30 and still in the same situation.

I still live at home. I cannot afford to live on my own despite making $45k/yr because I have a motorhome payment and a car payment I am responsible for. I am starting to think the motorhome was a mistake. It is $915 a month!

I don't like where my life is at right now. To make matters worse, I am only wanting a woman that has never had her first love or a boyfriend before. My chances are dwindling every day and it causes a lot of anxiety and stress. I cannot date teen girls anymore, which is probably one of the worst parts of being a grown adult, knowing that I am considered "old" to them now.

[Heartache0405]

Why not sell the motor home after finding a reasonable apartment? Use the money to pay the entrance fee and you should be able to continuously pay the rent every month with your salary


As for relationships, dating and having a relationship really isn't worth it. It's not. It's unfortunate that you haven't been able to experience the fact that it isn't worth it first. But trust me

[Inthecraphole]

I have always wanted to have a girlfriend, wife, and a family of my own though. It may never be a reality for me.

[Heartache0405]

@Inthecraphole, trust me, your saving yourself a lot of emotional pain/stress. The affection isn't worth the pain. The first never lasts. And marriage always ends in divorce. Women initiate 80% of all divorces. Then take half of everything you own and if you're already struggling financially... You'd probably end up on the streets or living in your parents basement because of her.

[OlderAndWiser]

Life is what you make of it. You need to take some responsibility for this mess.

[slatyb]

The motor home was a huge mistake. Sell the motor home for whatever you can get, pay the rest off as quickly as possible, then get an apartment. If you can get some counseling. You sound depressed to me. Find some physical activity you like that is affordable and go do it, ideally with other people. There are outdoor meetups in every city.

[Inthecraphole]

When am I never depressed? My life has been far from ideal, and I think my parents are oblivious and think this is acceptable I am under their wing. To make matters worse, I may never find the woman I have been desperately seeking for years... one where we can be each other's first loves. Meanwhile, most of my peers I have known are married or have kids now.

[slatyb]

"To make matters worse, I may never find the woman I have been desperately seeking for years... one where we can be each other's first loves"

Oh, you again. Of course you will never find her. There is no such woman available for any man over 18.

[Redstang88]

Why the hell would you be spending almost $1000 a month on a rv you’re apparently not even using? That’s beyond stupid