Is it reasonable to ask my boyfriend to change his Facebook relationship status from “single” to “in a relationship” ?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend posted a video on Facebook a couple hours ago. Some woman commented, “Thanks for sharing, sexy.” When I see comments like that, I feel it’s not unreasonable to ask him to change his relationship status. It hasn’t bothered me before until recently and normally I don’t care about that sort of thing. We’ve been dating almost a year. He’s not cheating. It’s just that comments like that bother me, understandably so. I have a good mind to tell him, “you either change your relationship status, or we’re done.” The thing with my boyfriend is that he’s a private person and doesn’t like to broadcast personal things like that. I respect his privacy, but people shouldn’t be posting that sort of crap. Our mutual friends know we’re together, but other people don’t. I feel with a comment like that, it’s appropriate to ask him to change his status. Besides, we’ve been together for this long, I think it’s time.

[Anonymous]

If you both get rid of Facebook, neither of you will have to worry about things like this, but like THAT'S ever going to happen!

Worse than my generation, you are. The generation behind you, worse yet. Addicted like crack, fox's or heroin!

Neither cell phones, not social media, nor PCs were invented, or instead I should say, in wide use. Computers were around, the size of a warehouse, and took all day to add two and two.

I'll never understand the addiction, and then the angst, and finally the anger and the sacrifice of a relationship, over a status, all so someone can broadcast details of their lives, their drama, their horrid opinions about others and post things others get all bent out of shape about. For what?

Disconnect sweetheart. Both of you, or just you. You can't though, because you're addicted, or insecure, or jealous, and totally ready to sacrifice your relationship over it.

I also see that you didn't mention love once. Gotta wonder about that, or how committed you truly are.

Damn girl. The things you people get yourself into just to whine and complain about it. If neither of you were on Facebook seeking attention, you probably wouldn't be here venting and seeking advice.

Just turn the damned thing off! You'll feel so much better. Unencumbered, Free!

[magiusX26]

not really. it is a part of his (semi because its docial media) private space/private thoughts. it is his to do with as he pleases. just as yours is yours to do with as you please. this is rougjly another version of going through the other"s phone type thing. the reality of doing that kind of thing relates back to your insecurities and/or trust. if you feel the need for such a control over your partner then your relationship is very likely doomed to fail because that marks that you do not trust your partner and a relationship without trust almost always falls apart. this type of trust is one version of faith in the saying "taking a leap of faith".

[Dinklex3]

Well.. I wouldn't call it "unreasonable", but you should be understanding if he declines.
You stated he is a private person and if posting that is out of his comfort zone, then that's that.
I never post my relationship status on social media. I don't want people knowing my personal business like that. If my significant other can't respect that and threatens to break up with me over something like that, then I'm better off without them anyways.
& If other girls are calling him sexy, there's no telling that it would stop once he changes his status.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Sure. I think it’s still a minuscule thing to worry about though, because people could easily ignore that.
That woman who comments is more of the problem. You said he’s a private person but he can block that person or message her and tell her to stop commenting that. Making a whole “single” or “in a relationship” status on social media shouldn’t be something that makes or breaks your relationship…

[Asker]

No, I know. It doesn’t make or break a relationship. I was too harsh when I said, either you change your relationship status, ir we’re done.” I just read the comment and I was a bit angry about it. I should at least talk to him calmly about changing his status. I shouldn’t even care about this nonsense, but after seeing that, it hurt

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Oh I gotcha! Yeah, I can see where you’re coming from. It’s just difficult seeing another person say those things and then your partner not doing much about it to prevent it.
I think it should be communicated calmly, so you can get your point across effectively so he can understand your reasoning. It’s normal to get jealous or feel insecure, but it’s also important to trust your partner wouldn’t do anything 😊

[TheorionMage]

He can either change HIS status OR... you'll change YOUR'S to match his, and reply accordingly~

"Good for the Goose is GOOD for the Gander" You're NOT 'chopped liver' ~ >: (

[D_Bone_Steak]

Facebook? what are you my age? All his side chicks are on Instagram.

[Anonymous]

Fb really doesn't matter, but if it's important to you, yeah he should.

[Iron_Man]

You can ask him about it but he should be doing that automatically

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm on your side. I agree with you.

[pizzalovershouse]

Yes if he cares about you

[Avicenna]

Totally reasonable

[boobliker]

it's ok?