Ot3 means triad, where you have three people who are in a romantic relationship together. I personally find the idea very wholesome, a bit whimsical and something that can satisfy me. I'm bisexual and while it's only human to get jealous, I wouldn't let it stand in the way of happiness.
#polyamorous#bisexual#ot3PS. I've done other polyamorous questions. Mostly I get invalid offensive comments. If you have negative opinion of polyamory, you either skip this question or say "negative' in the opinion section.
I have tried it and it was a negative experience instead of one person picking on you now you have two or more and I found out by accident my mother decide to pay us unannounced visit and she heard the two women talking crazy shit about me after that I was not so enthusiastic about helping the two girls anymore and to this day they don't say nice things to me one I gave the pink slip right away the other one that took me some time to do something but I had so much evidence of a conspiracy she had no choice but to leave I still have those videos for this day if you're going to do something like this you better have eyes in the back of your head it's too easy for people to criticize your lifestyle to stab you in the back I remember a guy who went through divorce going back decades ago he actually rather than me he says you want two headaches instead of one if you only focus on the positive you won't be cautious with the negatives and your only focus on the negative you'll never see the positive or never get to the positive. The Bible talks about polygamy only two places if my memory serves me correctly one if you're the head of a church it's not for you if you married two sisters they cannot be uncooperative or fighting with each other that's a No-No as well cooperation is the key here. Good luck and happy trails and I hope you have better results than I.
It doesn't seem like a good idea if you're thinking long term.
Humans are competitive by nature. We might say that we're OK with being in a relationship with multiple people at once, but there is often a part of us that yearns to be "the one."
I imagine that as these polyamorous relationships drag on, issues would arise over who is getting preferential treatment over the other, and someone might suspect there is a "favorite" in the relationship. A monogamous relationship is difficult to maintain as it is, I would think it would be worse trying to maintain a relationship with two other people.
But perhaps I'm wrong... and there's a polyamorous relationship out there currently celebrating their 30th anniversary together. Though I have yet to see that.
I'm in somewhat of an OT3 relationship (I think) My husband and I have been married 20 years. We're happy! And I have someone else I see on the side. This is an adult consensual relationship. My husband supports me all the way since it brings me so much pleasure! But we're never all together at the same time if that's what you mean by an OT3 relationship.
I've never been in a relationship where I was one of three partners and everybody loved each other. The closest I've been to OT3 was an open relationship and I was seeing a guy on the side with my then-partner's blessing. My partner at the time was a lesbian, so she was never interested in the guy that gradually stole me from her.
Polygamous relationships are much less meaningful and loving than those that are monogamous. Implicit in the monogamous relationship is that you love the other person so much that you are willing to commit yourself physically and emotionally in many ways, to just that one person. This represents a sacrifice that shows how much you love the person you share the monogamous relationship with, and this meaning isn't present in polygamous relationships for obvious reasons. It is this gesture that makes the monogamous relationship far more loving and meaningful than the polygamous one. When you are that one person your significant other has chosen over everyone else, you feel incredibly loved by them.
If you feel like monogamy is the only way to truly love someone then that's what you feel, and there's nought wrong with that. I personally think that some people have the capacity to equally love numerous people and some people, you included, just don't. That doesn't make polyamourous relationships any less meaningful or loving, and it for sure doesn't make them "silly".
I would say that for a majority of people, it's impossible to have a polyamorous relationship with multiple people. Mainly as you stated, jealousy and another core fact of humans, selfishness. Of course, as it is polyamorous and not monoamorous, what you'd experience would be completely different and somewhat disingenuous to compare the two, since the dynamic between the partners is more complex in a polyamory.
Of course I am in full support of it. Myself doing it tho? well I get protective and jealous against guys. So would have to be 2 girls. But to ask for it one way not the other is a unfair ask that I wouldn't bring up nor need or want to unless she mentions it and wants that.
There were some interview of a family years ago, a man with 2 wives. Loving them both, and they were not fighting for him either. he had kids with both of them, and he said it has it advantages, because when two of three people are at work, the third is home and can take care of the kids. I mean, There are couples who often find a third wheel, after a threesome. Who are we to have a say? Its their life.
A thupple sounds interesting but I can see potential issues developing with everyone getting equal attention. If your going to have kids who goes first with who and how does that affect the balance when one partner is going through pregnancy and the others aren't.
So basically if it works for you great but expect some hard work comming up.
Triads are good, it can work really well if everyone is pan/bi. I mention poly takes a bit unwinding of ingrained learning of how relationships are and what they could be. Like just because your partner loves someone, they don't love you any less. So in a triad it's all love equally.
It takes three special kind of people to get this to work, and in reality is pretty much impossible.
I am conservative so my own opinion is that I think its morally wrong to be with the same gender. However, you live how you choose to live, thats your right, just don't endocrine it into culture. Its a lead a horse to water but can't force them to drink situation. However if you start pushing your lifestyle to be acceptable then we have a problem.
I could only imagine its complicated, I can't say I know much about it as it's not interested me before. I'd be worried I'm not giving my attention equally to both partners etc, worrying that one person would become jealous of 2 of the way the other 2 get on, or if 2 find they feel more for each other than the 3rd person. I don't know really, is that something that can happen? I don't know what the agreement is in this kind of relationship.
As a poly person myself, I totally agree. I'm not bisexual so my experience is probably more restricted than yours but when it happens (as I have experienced), if it occurs naturally, it is really wonderful and yes as wholesome as monogamous sex.
All I know is that it's not for me. I've never seen it or thought of it so I don't know what to think of it tbh. The only time I saw something close to this was from anime/manga harems lol.
I could be in a triad with two women, but finding one who's compatible is hard enough. Finding a second who's compatible with us both seems unreachable.
Your asking for thoughts. So you should be an adult and listen to negative thought on the subject. Otherwise your just risking falling into a cult like mentality. Personally, i don't think its the best. However I'm not against it. As long as all three of you are consensual and mutually love each other. Your going to have a lot of explaining to do for the children who come along eventually.
In the world of unhappy people if three people are happy together then that's better than three people being unhappy the world needs to mind its own business your own happiness is what makers
There is a great fiction about a throuple on HBO which is set in England and has a character that was a figure swimmer as the third person, but I can't remember what is was called...
