Do you speak for yourself when discussing likes/interests or do you often base your opinion around what your partner wants? (Page 2)

DizzyDesii · 2022-02-21T03:57:27Z

I notice in a lot of the opinions on my posts, a lot of guys dont really speak for themselves. It always starts or ends with “whatever the girl likes...” I mean yea, make it about us, sure. We like that kinda thing but what about what you like? You have to be happy too. To all the men and women, please dont say seeing your partner happy is enough to make you happy. I mean yea, maybe temporarily. But a lot of people cheat because they lack self control and can't actually live with the thought of settling for someone who does not make them entirely happy as well. Love can only go so far. And I think one of the biggest mistakes is when the guy or girl thinks they can later change/ease someone into liking what they like. Even i had that horrible mindset many years ago. You’re setting yourself up for failure. You should state your likes early on and just leave the person behind if your must-have is a turn off for them. I’m pretty set in my ways and others may be as well . So yea, long story short, you can let the person you’re attracted to have their way if you want, but at least speak your piece too so that they know where you stand. Don’t just feed into some bullshit that you’re not into. This goes for sexual desires/compatibility and nonsexual interests as well. #FeelFreeToList #TheYesMan

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pizzalovershouse Follow
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I share what I like but my exs had some things they liked that I dint especially movies an the bedroom

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Oh i see
  
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- pizzalovershouse
  
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  Yep I'm no peg boy
  
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driven159 Follow
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I have never not spoke honestly anything else would be a fake If you are afraid of the answer, you better not ask me the question

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Haha
  
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imfreeze95 Follow
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I always speak for myself unless I know me and the people around me are on the same page but don’t want to be seen as insensitive I’m glad to be blunt

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Im not a fan of bluntness. But i try to be respectfully direct
  
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Swordnen Follow
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I am usually very clear what I want,
I am single but if I had partner, we would come to the average in what we want...

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Ahh compromise
  
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- Swordnen
  
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  Not compromise
  I bend some she bend some
  Life is good...
  It still comes on depends
  Car I buy
  House we buy
  Furniture of her choice, carpenter of my choice
  TV my choice
  Food her choice
  Diet my choice
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Okay i get it
  
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JohnQue74 Follow
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I play Devil's Advocate a lot. And I often will go with her likes. But if it's important I'll stand my ground.

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Can you stay happy forever and ever by going with those certain likes of hers
  
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- JohnQue74
  
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  Oh yes. I'm a lazy ass. Most things just don't bother me.
  
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Zygum Follow
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I myself avoid to give my own opinion on the post of users, I have experience some user annoyed, so I refer to other people

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Oh that makes sense
  
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- Zygum
  
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  @DizzyDesii, if you like, then I can directly comment on your post
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Sure
  
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- Zygum
  
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  @DizzyDesii, Thanks
  
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Waldoe Follow
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Men like women... pleasing them gives us access to Pussy... We ARE doing what we like.

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  😂😂
  
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Twalli Follow
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My girlfriend and I have enough similar interests that we usually can agree

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Thats great
  
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Guido Follow
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I speak my mind but in a relationship there is always compromise

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Sometimes
  
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TallAnon Follow
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I'm single as fuck, so that's not a problem I've had, lol

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Haha
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  The single ones are the ones im referrring ro
  
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- TallAnon
  
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  That's some crazy logic, lol. I'm not thinking about non-existent people 😂
  
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I try my best go speak for me n my own beliefs lol. No one else I do represent.

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Nice
  
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It's generally what she wants, I don't remember last when I had my own opinion on things at home 😂

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Lol i bet
  
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- sattii2607
  
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  🤣😜
  
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mpodeszek Follow
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No i am pretty blunt i love lots if things and would try anything for my woman

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Oh wow
  
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- mpodeszek
  
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  Always i make the money she takes care of n
  Me
  
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Hell yeah I do, but I had to learn it first

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  How so
  
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- melanieeeB
  
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  With time and experiences. My mom is a total people pleaser and so am I.
  I would always try to make my friends happy and do what they liked, even when I was uncomfortable. With my very first more serious guy, I was the same at first but he actually encouraged me to speak up and with time, through school and new social surroundings I learned that it's crucial to stand your ground. Also I got older and learned more about myself and became this kinda arrogant confident person.
  I'm still somewhere a people pleaser, but like I will never ever do something that I don't like to do, I rather lose people.
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Thankfully i stopped being a people pleaser after 2015
  
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- melanieeeB
  
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  That's pretty good🙏🏼
  
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Partner is always right, even when she isn't

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Lmao
  
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SmokyOne Follow
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I feel like I speak for myself. Mayb too much

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Haha you do but i like it
  
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- SmokyOne
  
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  And I like that you like it lol
  
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- DizzyDesii
  
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  you're something else haha
  
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Jerre Follow
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I speak for myself! Very well written!!

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Thank you. I just feel like a lot dont and i dont have time to beg them to speak for themselves.
  
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- Jerre
  
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  I know exactly what you mean.
  
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I speak for myself

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  We know you do 😂
  
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I speak for myself.

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  You do and thats great.
  
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- Phoenix98
  
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  Mhmm.
  
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ALewis30 Follow
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I speak for my self.

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- DizzyDesii
  
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  Okay
  
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