A husband saved all his money for a vacation, while his wife did not, and now she wants to go. What do you think is fair? (Page 2)

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This happened at my work, it's been very interesting to see it unfold. Two co-workers are married, but in different departments. They have a joint budget, that they pool all their income to pay bills and have designated money that they get each month to do whatever they want with. They both make very similar income. The husband, saved up most of his money for many years, because he wanted to go on a nice vacation.  This was not a secret as he had let his wife know this was his plan and she should save too if she wanted to go. She spent all of hers and did not save up anything. He figured that meant she did not want to go. When he had several thousands of dollars, he decided he was going to take a two week vacation, without her. His wife felt like he should take her too, using his money and he should take a shorter vacation and not do it as grand as he had planned so they both could go. It caused some hard feelings on both sides. What would you do? I'll update later with what they actually did.

SmokyOne · Answer

I have similar issues with my SO lol
I'll spend my money on physical things I want and she tends to spend her money on consumables or experiences. She always gets mad cause at the end I have the things I bought and she's empty handed lol

ragooo8 · Answer

It should be a lesson but the woman will never learn. A lot working women are like this, that their money is their own while his money is also her own even after divorce.
At least she pays half thd bills.

HighValue · Answer

He should have had a prenuptial agreement. Don't take her because it is her own fault and if she gets upset at him or blames him, divorce her.

Guy13 · Answer

How horrible. It seems like he needs to grow some balls and man-up. I would have told him to go - himself and that would have been it for me.

Tyrael · Answer

If she knew well in advance that he had planned that trip then it's on her for not making the effort to save up for it. Go alone.

chnapo · Answer

Funny because this actually happened to me. I took her the first time, but the next time this happened I was mad at her and I went alone. Because she was well aware and just wanted to exploit my money.

JayParris · Answer

I'd cancel the vacation and wait to see what the fallout was. Plenty of time to reschedule it after the divorce

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

That’s a tough one but it sounds like he’s morally entitled to go without her and enjoy himself if he wants (as long as he doesn’t cheat)

NathanDavis · Answer

I'd never let money get in the way of happiness... period

PAcc92 · Answer

Absolutely do not take her, she is not entitled to his money. This is just female entitlement rearing it's ugly head, she should take accountability for her actions.

Mac-One · Answer

That was never a problem for us. We always put our money together and mutually decided on expenditures.

OddBeMe · Answer

I don't know, if I save for a vacay my wife is coming with me. We have separate accounts but maybe because we know we’re both responsible and ambitious that neither of us worry we’re being used.

driven159 · Answer

she knew the agreement and she broke it shame on her you make your choices now you have to live with it if I was him, I would be looking for a new wife that was more responsible

jahaims · Answer

Been sharing a bank account with my wife since we first started dating. If you have two responsible adults all that isn't necessary.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I'd probably grudgingly take her because I don't want to ruin the marriage. But I'd make sure that I did everything I wanted to on the vacation.

_no_one_ · Answer

I mean if she really wants to go then she can take a loan and just pay it off from her cut? ez

EnglishEuropean · Answer

If it's a joint budget what's the problem? If he doesn't like it he should divorce her and take someone else.

Paul09 · Answer

I would have broken up with her way before. If i saw how she uses money. Her own fault. The guy is 100% right.

noohair · Answer

He is smart. He knows it is useless to try and control her and he taught her that decisions have consequences.

Twalli · Answer

She knew that if she wanted the vacation she needed to save. She chose not to, so she chose not to go on the vacation

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