Have You Ever Been "Falsely" Judged Or Labeled as Something You're Not Because Of Someone Else's Lies Or Words Against You?

Question

If you have, to you I'd say: If you're more the kind of person that would tell lies about someone or only your side of the story, I'd say: And Lastly, if you're the kind of person to pass judgement on someone you don't "really" know just off the words of another, I'd say:

ohshee · Accepted Answer

All the time . And so many times I would love to come unglued. But I dont. Well. It depends how far they Take it. . But if it's a lie. I will tell the truth and watch to person back track and do or say what the have to say with ouy a word
Be ause they are dying in side begging me to get loud and take the focus off of them. And the more quite I am the more a d faster they talk then they start messing up

The one thing that pisses me of is I look at it like this if I have to tell the truth then u should have to do the same thing. Or I should be a le to lie since they get to but I won't go there but any way its happen more than once and some how the truth always comes out. But in that moment the damage is being or already done because I now get to be judged on someone lie. Its fucked up . Because from that moment on your not trusted anymore. Then I have to look at the person that is saying it and think to myself it's pretty bad when you can look someone in the eyes and spin a story just so they dong get in trouble
This happen give me one time to work.
My boss looked at me and said is this true.
I look you straight in the eyes. I shook my head and said no
I told her that's all the difference that I need. I said I told you when you hired me that I would never lie to you and I keep that promise.
She shook. her head ok. I said if it's okay I would like to leave I got lots of stuff to do you can sit here all day long and drill this person as far as I'm concerned the truth will come out. . I walked. I can just hear this guy's voice seen all kinds of stuff but I just kept walking.
The funny part was from that day forward my boss did everything in the world to set me up to see if I would lie to her probably about 3 weeks straight and she would ask me some tough questions but if I'm going to do something I'm doing it for a reason there's no reason to lie about it.
Some days she would ask me how I'm going to do a job I would tell her she would tell me I can't do it that way I would say that's the only way you can do it.
I would go do the job I would go back to the office she would ask me did I finished I said yes she said how did you do the job and I would tell her the way you told me not to do it if she would just smile and shake her head your why are you so fucking brutally honest I said I'm not you just asked me a question I answered it
I hate liars I hate cheaters and I hate these those are my three biggest pet peeves ever

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Yeah. In college, an angry misandrist feminist in one of my classes; some 19 year old slutty-dressed prissy rich evil white female, accused me or "looking at her wrong" and "stalking" her. This was in 2015 at the height of wokeness in universities. The school instantly took her side and launched an investigation by a third party.

The investigation turned up nothing, because I did nothing, but the school decided they didn't want me there anyway and added on another charge at the last minute, "Harassment of Gender," basically meaning I as a male was not allowed to make a female feel uncomfortable or 'offended' in any way, even though her issue was just me being an overweight black male in her presence in class, and her disliking that. I was expelled from the school based on this flimsy "harassment of gender" charge after the investigation, meaning they had always planned to do this.

I spent three years in a lawsuit with them, and the school only settled out of court because my lawyer threatened to use the wokeness back against them and play up the rich white girl falsely accusing a poor black male of something he didn't do, and was going to essentially "Cancel" the university in the media. That, and my lawyer feared the school's four lawyers.

In the end, I got next to nothing in payment. The lawyer got his legal fees paid by the school, and the school had to erase the records that I had did anything wrong, and I got paid virtually nothing; pretty much just the tuition I had spent there from 2014 and 2015, as well as "two free semesters" of tuition at my new college, but nothing at all towards the THREE goddamn years that of my life wasted with that fucking school and their false allegations and MeToo'ing me. And the worse part? There are innocent men who go through far worse every single year at American universities. False rape claims, and everything else. I got off "easy" considering how I look and how many women could just make up anything about me.

FUCK Saint Joseph's University! That's the school.

So the TL;DR: I was falsely accused of being a sexual predator and stalker at my university, expelled on literally zero evidence, and had to sue them for three years just to get any admittance of wrongdoing from them.

Cathy7734 · Accepted Answer

1. About one year ago I developed a friendship with someone and we clicked.
2. We confided in each other about our personal lives.
3. We went our separate ways.
4. About 4-months ago I wrote him an email asking if we could be friends again and he said yes. I felt so excited.
5. I asked him how things were going with him, concerning the things he confided in me last year.
6. He said he never confided in me and we never had any meaningful conversations.
7. He claims I went on his personal website, gathered information, connected the dots and came up with those claims.
8. He said all of his relationships, romantic or not, is based on lies and deceit.
9. He said he is the most honest person and never lies about anything.
10. So he judged me as someone who lies and is full of deceit.
I feel shocked and stunned. What a bummer. I really miss him.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Yes the parents of a former friend told her she was no longer allowed to hang out with me anymore because I was a “slut“! What is worth noting here is that I had not even had consensual sex at that point, and I was apparently a “slut“ because I wore dresses & skirts that were just TOO short (in their crazy churchy opinion!) and I “show too much skin?”(by the way, these are the kinda outfits I’d wear, Top=date/dance, bottom=everyday wear. THIS apparently made me look promiscuous.) I blank out my face b/c stalkers use software to violate my privacy, & actually scare the $hit out of me, by showing up at my home!

Have You Ever Been "Falsely" Judged Or Labeled as Something You're Not Because Of Someone Else's Lies Or Words Against You?

Top img would be for a date of a school dance/bottom would be every day wear

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I had a bunch of people make up lies about my sexual history - really it was one ring leader impacting their associations. And at work my co workers were worried I would steal their job promotion so they said my personality was fake.

Lliam · Answer

I can't think of anything malicious that caused me real harm when I was young.

For about a year in my early 20s, I was employed by a school district to care for the floors in their administration complex. The janitor and I worked alone there from 3:00- 11:00 every weekday.
One day I showed up for work and heard that stuff had been stolen from the audio visual building. Some administrator called me into his office and accused me. Later, even the guy I worked with every day, who was technically my boss, was sort of grilling me. I told him that they should either provide evidence or drop it. He wound up believing me. Nothing else ever came of it, although the nice ladies who worked in the audio visual department became more distant.

When I was working as a motor vehicle claims adjuster/appraiser in the field for 30 years, there were a couple of times when people called my company and accused me of damaging their cars when I came to their homes to inspect damage. They were trying to get the insurance company to pay for damage that I didn't cause. My company backed me up.

The only other thing I can think of is, in the past 5 or 10 years, as politics has become more polarized and divisive, I've fallen out of favor with some people because of my views on certain issues. Some liberals accuse me of being a right winger and some conservatives accuse me of being a liberal. Certain liberal acquaintances, in particular, who I knew from working with a local environmental organization from 2004 to 2011, lost their shit over some of my opinions on Facebook. Good riddance to them.

But there are other people, very close friends for over 15 years, with whom I am no longer close, partly because of their political party loyalty and adherence to "woke" ideology, but mostly over covid. Golly, I must be a far right-wing Trumper if I don't support BLM riots or covid emergency mandates.

It's kind of sad to lose very good friends over differences of opinion when we didn't even get into a fight or argument. There are a few people who I thought knew me well, but instead of valuing my character, they made assumptions and judged both me and my wife as not being ideological "allies".
Manufactured, media driven, political divisiveness has torn society apart over the past few years.

OpenClose · Answer

I would say "just let them say what they want and just keep doing you", but in my case, it was a slew of false sexual assault and predation accusations started by a few girls who didn't want me joining theatre. It was during the period of all the Title IX audits around 2010-2011, so I could have been expelled and banned from campus on the rumors alone. Hard to "just do you" when $30k in classes could have been nullified and my entire career ruined.

I was able to get it sorted out with security. But I still am particular about who I tell the story to, because it's about a 50/50 shot if people will believe me or think that the rumors were true and I just "got away".

One of the most painful parts was that I was active in campus groups advocating for women were victims of exactly the stuff I was being accused of. When discussing the Title IX stuff, instead of telling my whole story, I brought up the idea of false accusations and how they should be handled, and was hit with a quote about "the falsely accused have an opportunity to reflect on their own sexism" and "he probably deserves it on behalf of other men who got away." and was told not to bring the topic up again if I wanted to stay in the group. Killed my faith in everything I thought I was fighting for, had a brief stint as an MRA and later what we might call "Incel". Pulled myself out of it, but it still put things into perspective.

Lynx122 · Answer

I have been falsely judged recently but it's because of an organisation that can't see that they have an agenda or doesn't care but claims to be neutral. So they were looking to judge me wrongly from the start. I don't think I've been wrongly judged because of someone elses words but maybe I just haven't noticed it.

I generally go by the belief if I'm true to who I am and believe in my principals the way I want to live people will notice that even if someone else talks badly about me so I never really bothered with trying to find out who's talking about me if you start buying into that only negatives come out of it.

If you find out someone is talking shit about you you might vent about that to someone else and then it comes across like you're both talking shit about each other behind your backs and nobody really likes that in other people not in a friend and not at a workplace so it's all bad news.

But if someone talks shit about you and you're clueless and you're just being yourself being open to everyone then it just looks bad on the person who's gossiping. Most people still make their own judgments about you (except maybe in highschool) and if someone really is swayed by gossip and dislikes you because of something they heard they probably weren't a great friend anyway you're not missing out on anything there.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

My ex's friends who I worked with at the time accused me of forcing myself onto her or something and made my life at work a living hell. It's a long story but it wasn't her fault and there wasn't much she could do to stop it.

Her friends hated me and cornered me in the back where there's no cameras one day. I was getting nervous because I really am the last person who would sexually mistreat a woman. So in the middle of all of her friends surrounding me, trying to tell me what an awful, disgusting human being I am, her ex shows up. (You'll never guess why they broke up 🙄)

This kid, I know for a fact, less than a month ago held the girl he was "defending" at knife point for saying she was gonna leave him for me. (like I said, it's a long story) so when he started pointing in my face telling me what he was going to do to me if I "bothered" this girl again while hiding behind a wall of 5'5" girls, I grabbed his pointer finger, pulled him in and clocked the kid across the face.

Not exactly they way you invision being the good guy to go but what the fuck at least I got to punch that kid in the face.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

"Let them say what they want..."

Unless they're trying to frame you for a crime that never even happened, or so convince others that you're a threat, that you can't walk into a public place, minding your own business, without panicked individuals calling the police on you.

When the lies are so malicious, they can result in mobs hating you and hunting you down, or in police arresting you for nothing.

That's when they have to be held accountable for "saying what they want"!

I was nearly in that level of danger once. Somehow, the responsible parties never got more than politely asked by authorities to tone the rhetoric down slightly. No other repercussions, all of them got to keep their jobs, and I got sent to mandatory counseling as though my trauma made *me* a threat to society!

Instead of this madness in government-funded universities being universally condemned, however, once-Christian universities are now contemplating hiring presidents that will fill the campuses with more of this same madness, so Christian students in particular have no refuge they can seek anywhere!

We truly do live in a Clown World.

pearlypink22 · Answer

A lot of times. I’m assuming it’s because all my life I was a very socially withdrawn, anti social and I guess “mysterious” person as I’ve been told. I had plenty of friends/acquaintances but not many people actually KNEW me as a person, if you get what I mean. So I’m assuming this lead to multiple people jumping to conclusions, or coming up with random shit about me or blaming me for shit I didn’t do just out of boredom or because they had no idea what I was about so they came up with their own definitions of me just to have something to say.

The only thing that sucks about this is that all these projections, nobody assumed anything positive (that I know of) lol. So it felt really uncomfortable just being the scapegoat for a lot of stuff. But this rarely happened with people that did know me personally as a person, I guess cause they knew I’m a better person than others. Same shit happens with family too since I ain’t that close with them either.

Nagahime · Answer

Yep. When I was a senior, I got involved with this dude who I thought was cool and we hung out a couple times and he sexually assaulted me on one of the outings. I came home, told my mom and she and my dad called him about his bullshit. He got mad at me the next day and I guess told everyone in our grade that whole week that I was nothing but a "Whore, slut, bitch, etc" because a lot of people I got along with who knew him started distancing themselves from me. I never had sex with him or anyone for that matter, so I don't know how I was any of those.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Part 2 from words of gold by the wise spongy forehead 😌

Anyways, i fell so many times in this situation but i never cared because i know what i am and what i did and i surely know that are their claims are just a bunch of lies...

Having everyone trusting me blindly is a big responsibility and i always have to be right and always feel with others and understand them, sometimes i wish if i just can pass some white little lies but i just can't...

Some people do want you to lie because the truth hurts them and they think that you are rude, well i'm just acting the way i am and that's it...

UsernameXLTX · Answer

Sorta yeah.

At my previous job, when I got hired , there was a big scandal of workers stealing money and whatnot which I wasn't aware off. My surname was the same as the owners so everyone automatically assumed I was related and was sent to this particular department to keep and "eye on things ". For 3 months the workers called me 007 behind my back cause they thought I was spying on them. Then one day a worker asked how I was related to the owners and I was like , I'm not. I showed her where I sent my resume ( e-mail) 4 months before they even hired me. And that's were she told me about the 007 nickname lol

virtue2332 · Answer

Not people telling lies. I am a quiet observer who would prefer not to have attention directed my way. For some reason this manifest as stuck up to some people. Definitely not. I make it a point to smile more and acknowledge people I make Eye contact with a nod. I'm probably awkward at times and once people get to know me and I'm comfortable enough to be me they often let me know that my personality is different than they thought or imagined how it would be when they first saw me. Even more so if they met me and communicated with me prior to meeting in person and them seeing me

2Wheels · Answer

I have. It was actually kind of hilarious. My sister accused me of sleeping with a guy and getting pregnant. At this time I had never even slept with a guy at all yet.
It's now an inside joke with my friend and I. "How's our kid doing?" 😆

MarkRet · Answer

In high school I was very socially withdrawn, had very few friends, and kept to myself a lot. I didn’t even TALK to girls, because I was ugly, didn’t know what to say to them, and they usually made fun of me anyway. Because I wasn’t out ‘trying to score’, some people decided I was a closet gay, and referred to me as a ‘fairy boy’.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

I'm a feminist... yeah... yeah I'd say I get falsely accused of a lot of things because of a vocal minority of radicals. I like to think myself as pretty level headed and friendly while advocating for both men and women, but yikes, to hear some people talk about me on these boards you'd think I had crucified men personally on my front lawn lmao

Alyssa_11 · Answer

Oh gosh all my life! My auntie spread so much about me when I was a kid to make her kids look better. Til this day I’m disliked by those people. It doesn’t affect me though because how can you even believe someone who’s talking crap about a KID and even decide you dislike a KID.
I’m an adult now and there’s no way I’d ever judge a child. Poor child.

AndrewMG · Answer

I mean I was called a bang average (Sunday league) footballer that can't handle his beer on the football pitch the other day... absolutely slanderous!!! I'm a bang average footballer that CAN handle his beer (and milk). I'm almost over it though now! lol

LC123 · Answer

People think I could be bisexual because I never say whether I am straight or not. Like it’s not your business if I am or not 😂 would you stop asking after the 5th non answered questioned?
I have been asked by some teachers as well 🥴 like stop your my teacher, teach me the damn subject and stop worrying about my sexuality

ChiTown33 · Answer

"No weapon formed against me shall prosper" -Isaiah 54:17

Maybe a couple of times. Really though my character speaks for itself. I don't really don't concern myself with what most people say about me because I know when they speak ill of me they only ruin their credibility. I only care what God and my loved ones think of me. Their opinions are the only ones who truly matter.

Anonymous · Answer

I am straight, but I've been labeled as a lesbian. I don't know if someone told this to everyone to affect me, but it really was bad.
I think they started this rumor because I have 3 lesbian friends and they all gave me a rose in Valentine's day. Of course, I have told them that I'm not interested in women and I really like men. And they're fine with it. But everybody is to quick to judge.

Heartache0405 · Answer

Yes. I was falsely accused of being a stalker and a school shooter. When I don’t even own guns and I didn’t have a car at the time and I still hate to drive even though now that I have a car I drive but only when I have to.

NathanDavis · Answer

at this point of my life... no

I already have a reputation and I am fairly well known and people do not tend to doubt me or go about me with things that others say about me

it's been tried a couple of times, and it just didn't work at all... lol

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I am pretty familiar with that and i never bother defending my self. Plus when they know i have a middle eastern background and i have a thick long beard, so i have heard all from alqaida, al shabab and isis "jokes" as they say. I am too smart to be bothered with such, but i find it funny and that's why i enjoy my work

Franknorthwich · Answer

Yes I have and the thought of it alone saddens me there's this wrong friend I made at college some years back who had to tell the most evil of all lies just because he had interest in the same girl I fell in love with as at that time and that ended my relationship with her and sadly some years after she discovered the truth of it all and then it was a little too late

BCRanger10 · Answer

Nothing beyond being called the usual racist, sexist, bigot, white supremacist, anti-science... uh... and other items on a long list of goofy stuff that's usually thrown at guys like me.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Often.

Thats honestly unavoidable, stupid people are going to misinterpret and assume, assholes are going to lie, expecting gossip and rumors (and at this point even images, text, or video) to not be fakes, is unrealistic.
We live in a world where fiction is far easier to find than fact, and even the nicest, most sincere, concerned people, lie and assume their way through life, for roughly 90% of the population.

OpinionIsNotFact · Answer

Now that social media exists, all of these "empowerment" movements, and politics are very polarizing. Yes. All the time with the labels.
Do I care, nope. I troll those that speak up at me, or i ignore them.

Most of the noise made comes from insecure people that dont want to improve so they deflect.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Yup. Falsely judged. Talked about. Lied on. All that good shit. Stings when it's from people you thought you could trust, but such is life. Couldn't care less anymore.

Love_girl1290 · Answer

Yes, I have but that will change one day. Until then I'll be doing me and be the bigger person like I always have.

SaoirseS · Answer

I’ve been falsely labeled, and certain assumptions have been made about me but I don’t think it was ever due to lies or malice.

Anonymous · Answer

Those days are coming to an end people are not taking it no more

KatherineJ · Answer

I’m sure that everyone has at some point. As your post says, the most effective way of dealing with it is by just being happy being you.

onlylonelygal · Answer

I have had this happen and it bothered me for awhile, I realized if they want to listen and believe that crap nothing I can do about. That's their opinion, I'm not wasting anymore of my time caring

myabe123 · Answer

Oh yes, there were horrible rumors about me in college one that I was ultra promiscuous and that I was a snob. Neither are true I’ve become a somewhat grounded person. Maybe I was a little promiscuous but not ultra, lol. And for the snob thing I was just born into an upper middle class family I had friends of all walks of life as an adult.

pixie215 · Answer

almost everyday of my life, but in the end its not my problem its their ignorance and stupidity

DarkCarousel · Answer

Only by one person and at that point, he didn’t matter to me anymore.

dustybiker · Answer

Oh, yes. But my reputation preceded me. The attempt crashed and burned. 🔥

Slartybartfast · Answer

I'm a man , we are all demonized and misrepresented by modern misandrus society.

I was always just looking for sex, never a relationship.

I was always a potential abuser.

I was always a potential rapist.

I was always guilty till proven innocent.

Because that's how men are portrayed these days.

Gellette... The best a man can get..

exitseven · Answer

No, I probably deserved all the bad things people say about me.

humanearth · Answer

Oh yeah, it happened more when I was younger. Now never

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

People who I told that I have Bipolar I feel judge me

Cjbruser · Answer

Yes. You are never treated good or fairly if you have any kind of disability as well.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Yes I have. It said more about the person who said it and those that knew me and believed it anyway.

Alextry · Answer

My girlfriend calls me liar all the time even though I'm not lying to her

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

I think a lot of people have been misjudged, also I believe a lot of did misjudge others eg: misjudging a celebrity. Its part of life.

collie22 · Answer

that's happened before cause that's what people can do when there not doing things the right way

_no_one_ · Answer

Yeah, it happens when people don't really know much about u so they make assumptions spme negative some positive and there's no point in proving anything to them coz that just firms their beliefs lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe. Maybe not. But I don't care. It does not concern me. I want money and girls. Money and girls make me happy.

Bluemax · Answer

I believe virtually everyone has at one time or another.

TrillXHippy · Answer

There was a question on here that I answered: “If you had to use one word to describe yourself, what would it be?” I was labeled “SOMETHING” that I am not

krin_m · Answer

Unfortunately , yes and it is quite hurtful but you just try to move on.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Yah I was in school when some guys said I was gay funny how it dint work the out cone they wanted then I got lots of girls hitting on me

Massageman · Answer

Not because of anything specific, but society's generalities against male Massage Therapists.

douride2 · Answer

Yes it has happened. I was judged & labeled easy in high school. It didn't happen like that.

Subarugirl · Answer

Only every high schooler ever lol

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Yes I'm a man. I'm automatically a rapist, abuser, deadbeat father, rapist, abuser, rapist.

Godsvengeance · Answer

That is literally happening to me as we speak

OddBeMe · Answer

Most likely. I stopped caring a while back.

rebeliouse · Answer

@brainsbeforebeauty have you

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yep! A number of times.

Anonymous · Answer

Typically online; rarely in person.

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