Have You Ever Been "Falsely" Judged Or Labeled as Something You're Not Because Of Someone Else's Lies Or Words Against You?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If you have, to you I'd say:

If you're more the kind of person that would tell lies about someone or only your side of the story, I'd say:

And Lastly, if you're the kind of person to pass judgement on someone you don't "really" know just off the words of another, I'd say:

[ohshee]

All the time . And so many times I would love to come unglued. But I dont. Well. It depends how far they Take it. . But if it's a lie. I will tell the truth and watch to person back track and do or say what the have to say with ouy a word
Be ause they are dying in side begging me to get loud and take the focus off of them. And the more quite I am the more a d faster they talk then they start messing up

The one thing that pisses me of is I look at it like this if I have to tell the truth then u should have to do the same thing. Or I should be a le to lie since they get to but I won't go there but any way its happen more than once and some how the truth always comes out. But in that moment the damage is being or already done because I now get to be judged on someone lie. Its fucked up . Because from that moment on your not trusted anymore. Then I have to look at the person that is saying it and think to myself it's pretty bad when you can look someone in the eyes and spin a story just so they dong get in trouble
This happen give me one time to work.
My boss looked at me and said is this true.
I look you straight in the eyes. I shook my head and said no
I told her that's all the difference that I need. I said I told you when you hired me that I would never lie to you and I keep that promise.
She shook. her head ok. I said if it's okay I would like to leave I got lots of stuff to do you can sit here all day long and drill this person as far as I'm concerned the truth will come out. . I walked. I can just hear this guy's voice seen all kinds of stuff but I just kept walking.
The funny part was from that day forward my boss did everything in the world to set me up to see if I would lie to her probably about 3 weeks straight and she would ask me some tough questions but if I'm going to do something I'm doing it for a reason there's no reason to lie about it.
Some days she would ask me how I'm going to do a job I would tell her she would tell me I can't do it that way I would say that's the only way you can do it.
I would go do the job I would go back to the office she would ask me did I finished I said yes she said how did you do the job and I would tell her the way you told me not to do it if she would just smile and shake her head your why are you so fucking brutally honest I said I'm not you just asked me a question I answered it
I hate liars I hate cheaters and I hate these those are my three biggest pet peeves ever

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah I hate liars too

[MCheetah]

Yeah. In college, an angry misandrist feminist in one of my classes; some 19 year old slutty-dressed prissy rich evil white female, accused me or "looking at her wrong" and "stalking" her. This was in 2015 at the height of wokeness in universities. The school instantly took her side and launched an investigation by a third party.

The investigation turned up nothing, because I did nothing, but the school decided they didn't want me there anyway and added on another charge at the last minute, "Harassment of Gender," basically meaning I as a male was not allowed to make a female feel uncomfortable or 'offended' in any way, even though her issue was just me being an overweight black male in her presence in class, and her disliking that. I was expelled from the school based on this flimsy "harassment of gender" charge after the investigation, meaning they had always planned to do this.

I spent three years in a lawsuit with them, and the school only settled out of court because my lawyer threatened to use the wokeness back against them and play up the rich white girl falsely accusing a poor black male of something he didn't do, and was going to essentially "Cancel" the university in the media. That, and my lawyer feared the school's four lawyers.

In the end, I got next to nothing in payment. The lawyer got his legal fees paid by the school, and the school had to erase the records that I had did anything wrong, and I got paid virtually nothing; pretty much just the tuition I had spent there from 2014 and 2015, as well as "two free semesters" of tuition at my new college, but nothing at all towards the THREE goddamn years that of my life wasted with that fucking school and their false allegations and MeToo'ing me. And the worse part? There are innocent men who go through far worse every single year at American universities. False rape claims, and everything else. I got off "easy" considering how I look and how many women could just make up anything about me.

FUCK Saint Joseph's University! That's the school.

So the TL;DR: I was falsely accused of being a sexual predator and stalker at my university, expelled on literally zero evidence, and had to sue them for three years just to get any admittance of wrongdoing from them.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry you went through that

[MCheetah]

Thanks.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤗🤗

[Cathy7734]

1. About one year ago I developed a friendship with someone and we clicked.
2. We confided in each other about our personal lives.
3. We went our separate ways.
4. About 4-months ago I wrote him an email asking if we could be friends again and he said yes. I felt so excited.
5. I asked him how things were going with him, concerning the things he confided in me last year.
6. He said he never confided in me and we never had any meaningful conversations.
7. He claims I went on his personal website, gathered information, connected the dots and came up with those claims.
8. He said all of his relationships, romantic or not, is based on lies and deceit.
9. He said he is the most honest person and never lies about anything.
10. So he judged me as someone who lies and is full of deceit.
I feel shocked and stunned. What a bummer. I really miss him.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry to hear that

[CrazyGirl2]

Yes the parents of a former friend told her she was no longer allowed to hang out with me anymore because I was a “slut“! What is worth noting here is that I had not even had consensual sex at that point, and I was apparently a “slut“ because I wore dresses & skirts that were just TOO short (in their crazy churchy opinion!) and I “show too much skin?”(by the way, these are the kinda outfits I’d wear, Top=date/dance, bottom=everyday wear. THIS apparently made me look promiscuous.) I blank out my face b/c stalkers use software to violate my privacy, & actually scare the $hit out of me, by showing up at my home!

Top img would be for a date of a school dance/bottom would be every day wear

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Those outfits don't look slutty

[CrazyGirl2]

That’s what I thought, apparently you and I just don’t see things the way “Southern Baptists” see things!

[Still-alive]

heyyy there she is!

looks amazing babe :*

[CrazyGirl2]

@Still-alive Well that’s not exactly why it was posted those pictures, but I do still thank you for the lovely compliment. I just hate when people post pics saying it’s for one reason, but it’s obviously clear that they just want compliments. I honestly don’t want people thinking that’s why I posted them. I’m just not like that. I only posted them to illustrate that this is the type of thing I would wear at 15. One as an example of something I would wear for every day stuff, the other as an example of what I would wear to something like the Senior prom, which I was invited to all four years, and attended three out of the four years. I can’t believe that grown adults would see clothes like those and insult a fifteen year old virgin, about her being a slut based only on the clothing I chose to wear! That absolutely STILL disgusts me!

[Still-alive]

yeah thats terrible. they looks good. i don't see the 'sluttiness' at all

[CrazyGirl2]

@Still-alive Thank you for you kind compliment, and your words of support 😘💋

[Still-alive]

:* :* anytime

[CrazyGirl2]

@Still-alive “Any time”? Alrighty then, how about as soon as I’m done writing this! 🤣😅😂🤣

[Still-alive]

alright You look bangin babe! oooh ahhh :*

[jennifer_bloom]

I had a bunch of people make up lies about my sexual history - really it was one ring leader impacting their associations. And at work my co workers were worried I would steal their job promotion so they said my personality was fake.

[Lliam]

I can't think of anything malicious that caused me real harm when I was young.

For about a year in my early 20s, I was employed by a school district to care for the floors in their administration complex. The janitor and I worked alone there from 3:00- 11:00 every weekday.
One day I showed up for work and heard that stuff had been stolen from the audio visual building. Some administrator called me into his office and accused me. Later, even the guy I worked with every day, who was technically my boss, was sort of grilling me. I told him that they should either provide evidence or drop it. He wound up believing me. Nothing else ever came of it, although the nice ladies who worked in the audio visual department became more distant.

When I was working as a motor vehicle claims adjuster/appraiser in the field for 30 years, there were a couple of times when people called my company and accused me of damaging their cars when I came to their homes to inspect damage. They were trying to get the insurance company to pay for damage that I didn't cause. My company backed me up.

The only other thing I can think of is, in the past 5 or 10 years, as politics has become more polarized and divisive, I've fallen out of favor with some people because of my views on certain issues. Some liberals accuse me of being a right winger and some conservatives accuse me of being a liberal. Certain liberal acquaintances, in particular, who I knew from working with a local environmental organization from 2004 to 2011, lost their shit over some of my opinions on Facebook. Good riddance to them.

But there are other people, very close friends for over 15 years, with whom I am no longer close, partly because of their political party loyalty and adherence to "woke" ideology, but mostly over covid. Golly, I must be a far right-wing Trumper if I don't support BLM riots or covid emergency mandates.

It's kind of sad to lose very good friends over differences of opinion when we didn't even get into a fight or argument. There are a few people who I thought knew me well, but instead of valuing my character, they made assumptions and judged both me and my wife as not being ideological "allies".
Manufactured, media driven, political divisiveness has torn society apart over the past few years.

[OpenClose]

I would say "just let them say what they want and just keep doing you", but in my case, it was a slew of false sexual assault and predation accusations started by a few girls who didn't want me joining theatre. It was during the period of all the Title IX audits around 2010-2011, so I could have been expelled and banned from campus on the rumors alone. Hard to "just do you" when $30k in classes could have been nullified and my entire career ruined.

I was able to get it sorted out with security. But I still am particular about who I tell the story to, because it's about a 50/50 shot if people will believe me or think that the rumors were true and I just "got away".

One of the most painful parts was that I was active in campus groups advocating for women were victims of exactly the stuff I was being accused of. When discussing the Title IX stuff, instead of telling my whole story, I brought up the idea of false accusations and how they should be handled, and was hit with a quote about "the falsely accused have an opportunity to reflect on their own sexism" and "he probably deserves it on behalf of other men who got away." and was told not to bring the topic up again if I wanted to stay in the group. Killed my faith in everything I thought I was fighting for, had a brief stint as an MRA and later what we might call "Incel". Pulled myself out of it, but it still put things into perspective.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry you went through that

[Lynx122]

I have been falsely judged recently but it's because of an organisation that can't see that they have an agenda or doesn't care but claims to be neutral. So they were looking to judge me wrongly from the start. I don't think I've been wrongly judged because of someone elses words but maybe I just haven't noticed it.

I generally go by the belief if I'm true to who I am and believe in my principals the way I want to live people will notice that even if someone else talks badly about me so I never really bothered with trying to find out who's talking about me if you start buying into that only negatives come out of it.

If you find out someone is talking shit about you you might vent about that to someone else and then it comes across like you're both talking shit about each other behind your backs and nobody really likes that in other people not in a friend and not at a workplace so it's all bad news.

But if someone talks shit about you and you're clueless and you're just being yourself being open to everyone then it just looks bad on the person who's gossiping. Most people still make their own judgments about you (except maybe in highschool) and if someone really is swayed by gossip and dislikes you because of something they heard they probably weren't a great friend anyway you're not missing out on anything there.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry to hear that

[Lynx122]

It's ok I'm alright I heard about what they tried to use to paint me in a bad light and I appealed and I'll set them straight next time when I get a hearing ^^

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's good!!

[Telekinetic-Potato]

My ex's friends who I worked with at the time accused me of forcing myself onto her or something and made my life at work a living hell. It's a long story but it wasn't her fault and there wasn't much she could do to stop it.

Her friends hated me and cornered me in the back where there's no cameras one day. I was getting nervous because I really am the last person who would sexually mistreat a woman. So in the middle of all of her friends surrounding me, trying to tell me what an awful, disgusting human being I am, her ex shows up. (You'll never guess why they broke up 🙄)

This kid, I know for a fact, less than a month ago held the girl he was "defending" at knife point for saying she was gonna leave him for me. (like I said, it's a long story) so when he started pointing in my face telling me what he was going to do to me if I "bothered" this girl again while hiding behind a wall of 5'5" girls, I grabbed his pointer finger, pulled him in and clocked the kid across the face.

Not exactly they way you invision being the good guy to go but what the fuck at least I got to punch that kid in the face.

[ObscuredBeyond]

"Let them say what they want..."

Unless they're trying to frame you for a crime that never even happened, or so convince others that you're a threat, that you can't walk into a public place, minding your own business, without panicked individuals calling the police on you.

When the lies are so malicious, they can result in mobs hating you and hunting you down, or in police arresting you for nothing.

That's when they have to be held accountable for "saying what they want"!

I was nearly in that level of danger once. Somehow, the responsible parties never got more than politely asked by authorities to tone the rhetoric down slightly. No other repercussions, all of them got to keep their jobs, and I got sent to mandatory counseling as though my trauma made *me* a threat to society!

Instead of this madness in government-funded universities being universally condemned, however, once-Christian universities are now contemplating hiring presidents that will fill the campuses with more of this same madness, so Christian students in particular have no refuge they can seek anywhere!

We truly do live in a Clown World.

[pearlypink22]

A lot of times. I’m assuming it’s because all my life I was a very socially withdrawn, anti social and I guess “mysterious” person as I’ve been told. I had plenty of friends/acquaintances but not many people actually KNEW me as a person, if you get what I mean. So I’m assuming this lead to multiple people jumping to conclusions, or coming up with random shit about me or blaming me for shit I didn’t do just out of boredom or because they had no idea what I was about so they came up with their own definitions of me just to have something to say.




The only thing that sucks about this is that all these projections, nobody assumed anything positive (that I know of) lol. So it felt really uncomfortable just being the scapegoat for a lot of stuff. But this rarely happened with people that did know me personally as a person, I guess cause they knew I’m a better person than others. Same shit happens with family too since I ain’t that close with them either.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry you went through that

[Nagahime]

Yep. When I was a senior, I got involved with this dude who I thought was cool and we hung out a couple times and he sexually assaulted me on one of the outings. I came home, told my mom and she and my dad called him about his bullshit. He got mad at me the next day and I guess told everyone in our grade that whole week that I was nothing but a "Whore, slut, bitch, etc" because a lot of people I got along with who knew him started distancing themselves from me. I never had sex with him or anyone for that matter, so I don't know how I was any of those.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry you went through that

[TonyMetal___86]

Part 2 from words of gold by the wise spongy forehead 😌

Anyways, i fell so many times in this situation but i never cared because i know what i am and what i did and i surely know that are their claims are just a bunch of lies...

Having everyone trusting me blindly is a big responsibility and i always have to be right and always feel with others and understand them, sometimes i wish if i just can pass some white little lies but i just can't...

Some people do want you to lie because the truth hurts them and they think that you are rude, well i'm just acting the way i am and that's it...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Can only be yourself, and some will get you and accept you for you, and those that don't, oh well🤷🏼‍♀️

[TonyMetal___86]

And those that don't can have that pinocchio finger in my previous question 🤣🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣 one person I know already did hahaha

[TonyMetal___86]

You're a naughty sponge, i can't imagine this person spinning on it and ended up drilled 😂😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Hahahaha 🤣 maybe it'd "drill" some sense into them, good "place"to start when they were always talking out of there ass 🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*their

[TonyMetal___86]

I'm running away from this evil spongy forehead, she have drills, whips and other weird machines, heelllllpppp 🏃🏻‍♂️...😟

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣🤣 you seem like you running a little slow there, muffins slowing you down🤔🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

Did someone say MUFFINS 😳
The sponge made me a box of muffins 😋

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Nope, sorry I didn't.. Lolol

[UsernameXLTX]

Sorta yeah.

At my previous job, when I got hired , there was a big scandal of workers stealing money and whatnot which I wasn't aware off. My surname was the same as the owners so everyone automatically assumed I was related and was sent to this particular department to keep and "eye on things ". For 3 months the workers called me 007 behind my back cause they thought I was spying on them. Then one day a worker asked how I was related to the owners and I was like , I'm not. I showed her where I sent my resume ( e-mail) 4 months before they even hired me. And that's were she told me about the 007 nickname lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why didn't they ask you sooner lolol

[UsernameXLTX]

They had already convinced themselves I was a spy from day one. Lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's why people shouldn't assume smh

[virtue2332]

Not people telling lies. I am a quiet observer who would prefer not to have attention directed my way. For some reason this manifest as stuck up to some people. Definitely not. I make it a point to smile more and acknowledge people I make Eye contact with a nod. I'm probably awkward at times and once people get to know me and I'm comfortable enough to be me they often let me know that my personality is different than they thought or imagined how it would be when they first saw me. Even more so if they met me and communicated with me prior to meeting in person and them seeing me

[2Wheels]

I have. It was actually kind of hilarious. My sister accused me of sleeping with a guy and getting pregnant. At this time I had never even slept with a guy at all yet.
It's now an inside joke with my friend and I. "How's our kid doing?" 😆

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why would she even do that?

[2Wheels]

I never found out the reason. She was most likely jealous.

[MarkRet]

In high school I was very socially withdrawn, had very few friends, and kept to myself a lot. I didn’t even TALK to girls, because I was ugly, didn’t know what to say to them, and they usually made fun of me anyway. Because I wasn’t out ‘trying to score’, some people decided I was a closet gay, and referred to me as a ‘fairy boy’.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Some people are just very immature

[Ez-Bri-Z]

I'm a feminist... yeah... yeah I'd say I get falsely accused of a lot of things because of a vocal minority of radicals. I like to think myself as pretty level headed and friendly while advocating for both men and women, but yikes, to hear some people talk about me on these boards you'd think I had crucified men personally on my front lawn lmao

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I hear you, you don't even have to be a feminist to be labeled badly, just be a female and some guys in here call you feminazi

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Yeeeep.

It's ok though, ill just keep trying to convince them otherwise

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

As long as you know the truth, f what some asshat strangers on a website think of you💛🤗

[Alyssa_11]

Oh gosh all my life! My auntie spread so much about me when I was a kid to make her kids look better. Til this day I’m disliked by those people. It doesn’t affect me though because how can you even believe someone who’s talking crap about a KID and even decide you dislike a KID.
I’m an adult now and there’s no way I’d ever judge a child. Poor child.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry you went through that

[TonyMetal___86]

@alyssa_11 you know that such things are common in the middle eastern societies, especially between the relatives 🤣🤣

[Alyssa_11]

@Brainsbeforebeauty Thank you! I appreciate that.

@TonyMetal___86 Yes, unfortunately it is! There seems to be some unnecessary competition between families for some reason.

[TonyMetal___86]

@alyssa_11 that's true miss alyssa rapunzal, people should love each other and help each other for their best!

[LC123]

People think I could be bisexual because I never say whether I am straight or not. Like it’s not your business if I am or not 😂 would you stop asking after the 5th non answered questioned?
I have been asked by some teachers as well 🥴 like stop your my teacher, teach me the damn subject and stop worrying about my sexuality

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah, why would a teacher ask you that or need to know that?

[AndrewMG]

I mean I was called a bang average (Sunday league) footballer that can't handle his beer on the football pitch the other day... absolutely slanderous!!! I'm a bang average footballer that CAN handle his beer (and milk). I'm almost over it though now! lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣

[ChiTown33]

"No weapon formed against me shall prosper" -Isaiah 54:17

Maybe a couple of times. Really though my character speaks for itself. I don't really don't concern myself with what most people say about me because I know when they speak ill of me they only ruin their credibility. I only care what God and my loved ones think of me. Their opinions are the only ones who truly matter.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

EXACTLY!!

[Anonymous]

I am straight, but I've been labeled as a lesbian. I don't know if someone told this to everyone to affect me, but it really was bad.
I think they started this rumor because I have 3 lesbian friends and they all gave me a rose in Valentine's day. Of course, I have told them that I'm not interested in women and I really like men. And they're fine with it. But everybody is to quick to judge.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah just because you're friends are lesbians, don't mean you are.. Although according to one asshat user on here who keeps creating new accounts to try to spread his bullshit, all women are secretly bi sexual and attracted to women🙄🤣🤣

[Opinion Owner]

Hahaha he's such an incel

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well, troll at the least lolol

[Heartache0405]

Yes. I was falsely accused of being a stalker and a school shooter. When I don’t even own guns and I didn’t have a car at the time and I still hate to drive even though now that I have a car I drive but only when I have to.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Wow, sorry to hear that. That must have been a horrible experience to go through

[Heartache0405]

You have no idea @Brainsbeforebeauty

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well hopefully you get past it with time 💛🙏

[Heartache0405]

My counselor says I have ptsd because of it. Minor ptsd because it’s obviously nothing compared to the Ptsd soldiers end up with. @Brainsbeforebeauty