What is cheating? My perspective on it!! Should I change it? (Page 2)

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I believe when we come in a relationship, we commit to the love and promise to love each other only, sex is not actually attached with love. It is just something everyone do with anyone. Girls think guys don't get sexually attracted to others because he's in love with them but (90% of guys) they still do.  When sexual attraction can't be love but only lust. Why is that included in cheating. If my partner holds someone's hand and while looking into their eyes say he love them, I'll just hate him, despise him or might leave him, but if he's just having sex with someone, how's that wrong? We aren't just some sex partners or anything, we love each other.  Well doesn't mean I do that, I'm virgin and never even desired to have sex with anyone other than my lover! Sometimes I feel I'm asexual but I'm not sure yet as I just never tried. My boyfriend had a lot of women in his life before me, he have had sex with a lot of them. But I don't mind, the only thing that bothers me is the time's he might have held their hand or told them he love them or smiled at them or other things, sex is nowhere in the list. I don't mind that. Although he thinks very differently! He's very possessive for me!

Sasha_Gee · Answer

I see your point! Love and Lust. You shouldn't change it, if you are okay with it, but you should make sure that your partner is okay with it too!

Iron_Man · Answer

Sex in person foreplay as well. cyber sex on the Internet and phone sex. And if you’re laying on the couch with some stranger guy that I don’t know snuggling and holding him watching TV then you’re out of there too

VikingWarLord · Answer

Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.  You'll see the world of relationship dynamics in a completely different way than what you've been taught.

Subarugirl · Answer

Fidelity varies on the relationship, and it really depends on the people... Your perspective on what cheating is, is your perspective.. you just have to find someone who shares that perspective.

OddBeMe · Answer

Basics: Cheating is going against your partner’s view of love and sex.

You may have this separate of lust and love, which is fine. But if your SO doesn’t see it that way, you’re committing to be loyal to him.

gabby100 · Answer

I can see your point of view. For me well , being divorced i tend to just have friends , that i might have sex with. Male or female..

little_rose · Answer

I think if he respects you he wouldn't sleep around.  But different couples do things differently

StrawberryShake · Answer

Yeah this ain't it but ok. Sex is supposed to be a very intimate, romantic thing with the person you love, just like holding hands.

jestergent · Answer

If doing an act would harm anothers psych, then you are delivering harm to the other.

Anonymous · Answer

If you say someone is cheating then you are also saying a relationship is a game. You cheat at games. So is it a game? If so, why play if you worried about people cheating.

Twalli · Answer

It's possible that he thought he loved them, or loved them in a less mature way than he loves you.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Women thinking like this is exactly why I quit dating in my mid 20, s

Waldoe · Answer

As we grow up our ideas change with "Life experiences" I suspect yours will change too

Anonymous · Answer

I agree with you, but it's also possible to love more than one person.

jimmy2 · Answer

Wow you are a different girl

flirtatiousgirl · Answer

Yes you are

UpdateGloomyNights_ · Answer

Are you crazy

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