AITA for telling our friend to stop wearing my boyfriend's clothes?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were introduced by my best friend. She was dating his friend and met him about 3 months before me. My boyfriend and I have been together about 3 years. Her, my boyfriend and her boyfriend were staying at the same place for a bit. When she ran out of clothes she went to my boyfriend's room and borrowed some of his clothes without asking. I came over to hang our with her and saw her wearing the shirt I had just got for his bday. I asked her not to borrow his clothes anymore as it made feel uncomfortable because it felt like she doesn't acknowledge that he's my boyfriend and not just her friend. My boyfriend says it was weird but not deep enough to say anything about but I feel it crossed boundaries. Was I wrong?

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+1 y

AITA is "Am I the Assbole?"

[abc3643]

Don't just demand a stop to it.
But, first, ask her WHY she does it.
THEN tell her it upsets you BUT, you yourself better do some self-relection as to why it upsets you so much and be prepared to vocalize that because she will be expected to ask you why it upsets you so much. If you don't have a good reason, then it just illustrates a certain level of immaturity and/or insecurity on your part and she might not comply with your request.

[Asker]

I already talked to her about, she understood and said sorry, my reasoning was above. I'm double checking to ensure I wasn't going overboard

[spartan55]

NTA... that's just fucking weird. First of all, do some laundry if you 'run out of clothes'. Second, why couldn't she borrow clothes from her boyfriend? Last, girls wearing guys clothes is just weird to me overall.

[StrawberryShake]

You're definitely in the right. She super creepy, disrespectful and crossing boundaries.

[dreamstar72]

There could be another reason for this.

[NathanDavis]

what's AITA?

[Asker]

Am I the asshole

[NathanDavis]

I mean, it is just ONE shirt, and it was ONE incident... it does not sound like a very serious issue to make it into a bigger problem

but this bothers you and that's what matters here, and you already explained it to her that it does... I do agree with @abc3643 than in this circumstances it is much better to just talk it out and ask first why is she doing in this... instead of telling her that you feel like she doesn't acknowledge your relationship and stuff, that was not necessary

chances are that she just won't do it again... now that she knows better

[Asker]

It was more than one instance, I used the shirt as an example. I didn't tell her that she didn't acknowledge it. I only told her it was making me uncomfortable

[NathanDavis]

I thought there would be more than just a shirt... so, what else did she do

did she get in the shower with him, because they were running out of hot water?

[Asker]

Lol no, I meant she borrowed his clothes probably 6-8 times

[NathanDavis]

well, you already told her... and it should be alright