My daughter (22F) came out to me (56F) as a transgender man. What the hell should I do?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are very big Christians, and our children were also brought up to be Christians as well. Our two oldest sons are doing well. Both are married with children, work jobs that pay them well, and attend church regularly. As for our daughter, well... she WAS doing well until she turned 19. She then decided that she doesn't believe in God anymore. Now, she wants to be a man that dates women. I feel like I failed as a parent. I can't let this happen. What should I do?

[SueShe]

Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about your daughter's decision.

It is not that you have failed with the education but rather that she has succumbed to a new trend, a fashion that hits those younger generation people. She wants to be different because it is cool to be and because everyone else does it. Unfortunately it shows how influenceable people can be and how much brain washing is impacting on those that cannot resist.

You can try to help her by seeking the assistance of a specialist but at this stage, your daughter is unfortunately already "corrupt".

Your best bet and only option is to stand by if she needs you. In no case should you shut her out because it will only make things worse and your relation will progressively become toxic. Good luck.

[bamesjond0069]

Does she look or act manly? No offense but I see a lot of clueless Christian conservative parents raising gays and tranny kids and stuff. When she wanted to do things like cut her hair or wear pants all the time and never dress like a girl in a dress, did you say "Hey, women keep long hair and you are not to cut it." Did you tell her she must wear a dress or skirt out of the house? I mean these things seem little but I've seen this a lot with the girls these days. As a very conservative Christian man who dates young girls (hoping to find one with morals still intact) there are many whose parents are pastors or just very traditional but don't actually pass this on to the girls. They are more worried about being PC and pushing a young girl to go to college instead of get married and have kids... something young girls want to do, generally takes little convincing providing they haven't been brainwashed by backwards parents.

[Anonymous]

She's an adult now. You didn't fail, at some point (like you probably did with your parents, or that many do) they just become their own person. Now she's responsible for herself. You don't have to agree with it, or even like it, but it's her choice now. You did your job. She's an adult now. But I'd suggest doing nothing. Any interference from you is only going to damage your relationship with her, maybe even permanently.

[TrueConfection]

I heard another mom's testimony similar to yours. Short version:

She said she would put on her daughter's shoes and walk around the house praying in them for her daughter. Her daughter said that one day she felt the desire for that lifestyle just lift right off her all at once and she knew it was God. She returned to her roots.

[OlderAndWiser]

What do you think your options are?

[nawtee_me]

Pray for her constantly and let God do what you can not...
Proverbs 22:6 - Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Ephesians 6:4 - And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Surprise, surprise, surprise & as some people say god works in mysterious ways & the only thing you can do is roll with it & love your daughter no matter what.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Be proud of your daughter she had the courage to come forward to you with this.

[TonyV]

She's 22, you can stop or control her. No one cares about your religion either.

If you've already got grandkids who cares if she has any?

[exitseven]

I am not sure what the difference is between a transgender man and a lesbian but may be her reality. You need to make sure she (?) has the best life possible.

[AviatorTom]

You didn't fail as a parent. No matter what she does, she will always be your child, and you should always support your child.

[LazerBean]

Put up with it. You don't have to agree with them, but you can still love them.

[genericname85]

i'd send them to a psychiatrist to confirm or denie if they suffer from gender dysphoria. i feel like most idiots these days are just full of shit and completely confsed.

[Adronicus]

This is why I'd never send my kids to a public school or college; the deviants won't leave the kids alone..

[jahaims]

Realize you are an adult who is in a cult that takes advantage of people who can't cope with reality.

[Cubus]

It's a very tough situation. You should still love her. You don't have to accept this, but you should still love her.

[Anonymous]

Try to figure out where her confusion lies and help her overcome it. It took me 7 years to overcome my own gender dysphoria. Thankfully I didn't try to transition.

[TrillXHippy]

It’s not my decision to tell you what you should do in that situation

[Anonymous]

show her this

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ZSZUkBJFetE

[whereismyjohnny]

Be a good parent, and support them.

[Pterodon]

You only have two choices. Accept it or disown it

[KrakenAttackin]

That we be about as disappointing as can be.

[Anonymous]

Did she start attending college?

[clemdenim]

Give love and support or you will lose