This is a discussion you should have had when it was known he might be getting a job someplace else. Since you didn't, now is the time... before the wedding. You need to work out what the two of you are going to do.
It's not about someone backing down, it's about the two of you reaching a mutually-agreeable solution.
You should probably investigate if you could get a desirable job at the new location, and he should investigate having a desirable job and staying where you are. Then, you two can have a meaningful discussion and agree on a solution. Best of luck.
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That's a tough one, it rarely is a win win, you have an established career, he is going on to something new, that could possibly not work out.
No clue what I would do, I see both points, but I would lean towards staying and find something new here.
You should quit your job and relocate.
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if you never ever discussed and didn't even considered this possibility... then the two of you should not marry at all
both of you should reconsider your entire relationship first... before you end up married There are more things to consider besides money. If the new place has a very high cost of living compared with where you are now will not improve your situation. This is a very long discussion that needs to be settled before you get married.
Is your low paying job more important to you than him? It sounds like your bullshit job is not the real problem here.
Why not trying to find a similar job for you from the new location? I think it's a good opportunity to start fresh and new.
If his new job is high paying and your current job is average, you could stay with him and find better or similar job
I kinda see his side moreso tbh ngl but use the whole story
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