What do you think the different reasons would be for why a man versus why a woman would cheat?

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Jabberjaw · Accepted Answer

Commonly stated reasons for cheating across genders

Men: " no matter how much I did, nothing was ever good enough for her"

Women: " I didn't feel like he loved me"

I do think there are several reasons for cheating, but those two above are the number one most common reasons given by both genders for why they cheat. So it's worth mentioning

Personal opinion. Of the girls I know who cheated, a lot of it comes down to feeling like they settled for the guy they're with. And on some level they lost respect for him if they ever had it at all

And my personal opinion. Of the guys I know who cheated, a lot of the time it comes down to they just wanted more variety and felt like they settled down too soon before they got it out of their system.

Like no matter how happy a guy is or how attractive his girl is, he's going to be attracted to the girls. And he's going to want to have sex with other girls, whether or not he actually takes action on that one.

So for guys a lot of it comes down to that want for Conquest, variety, sexual satisfaction from something new. But girls I think is usually more rooted in feeling like they should have held out for a better deal.

Like it's more common for a guy to cheat and go back to his girl and continue the relationship. Whereas if a girl cheats it's more likely that the relationship is over and she's wanting to replace. Sometimes not the case but most often it's just done

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

Man or woman doesn't matter. Having emotionally cheated, i can tell you the reasons are centered on something lacking in the relationship and due to an unwillingness to change or make it better, leaving the cheating partner to feel lost or abandoned, naturally connecting to someone who empathizes or understands. Believe it or not, relationships and marriages, people become complacent and the needs of each other become less important and the demands become expectations. Unless someone is severely lacking in self control, cheating isn't something someone just decides to go and do

possumpi26 · Accepted Answer

A woman cheats because she's not getting the love and attention she wants from her man or she's lacking excitement in her love life and things have gotten monotonous. A man cheats because he simply can and wants to stick his d*** in different women behind his woman's back. The difference is a woman has to have reasons to cheat and it's a last resort, a man needs no reason to cheat at all. Bottom line is that it's wrong to do it for ANY or no reason at all. if you're the the kind of man or woman who cannot be with just one person, do not get into a relationship with someone and don't get married.

TransAm85 · Accepted Answer

Men cheat b/c they're not getting it at home, their wives/gfs are getting comfortable and not taking care of themselves anymore like they did in the beginning, and things have become a chore or an obligation. I cheated b/c my husband is a functional alcoholic and seems to love his cerveza more than having sex. I am only 36, I want to have sex, but not a random John. I met w/an ex I've known for almost 20 years. Other women may cheat for mental/emotional compassion.. I could care less. I just want some sex!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Same reason for both sexes: they value their immediate gratification over their obligation to keep their promises.

SkyCastle90 · Answer

Majority of people cheat to fulfill a fantasy gone wild in their head.

Women be thinking they found the prince/man that truly understands them, gives them the sex/excitement they always wanted, wealthy, etc; when in reality theyre just being manipulated and played for a fool by either another cheater or someone just as immature as they are. Or she's just garbage and did it because she can.

Whether it be for sex or companionship, men be thinking they found the one, but tragically already married their bitch of a wife or committed themselves to their girlfriend and feel stuck. Or he's just garbage and did it because he can.

Star_88 · Answer

Cheating men are NEVER happy with one woman even if she is perfect looking, multitalented, loyal and caring. They are STILL excited for the new chick they saw in a friend/work group, gym, club, etc.
But they're cowards and weakest because they want multiple orgies, ego boost and are extremely dependent on female company.
Women simply breakup but the ones who cheat are financially dependent, kids are involved or simply codependent so they are scared to leave but they cheat because they were taken for granted, compared, not prioritized or loved in the same way they do. Also they caught the guy lying, manipulating and seeing how much of a pervert he was.

Finchie40 · Answer

Guys mainly cheat if their girlfriends or wives constantly deny them sex and constantly nag at him like he has to earn it or she never really initiates it , he will feel resentments and not feel respect from her so he is open to receiving it elsewhere , A girl will mainly cheat cuz her emotional needs aren’t met or she is drawn to another guys status , she can have a loving man at home that provides and protects her but if she doesn’t look up to him she will be drawn to another guy that others look up to , He can be a boss or have an important job like a doctor or lawyer or even a co worker etc, she will get on her knees to him and act like he is the best thing that ever crossed her path. So guys mainly go for beauty and a girl that boosts his ego , where a girl mainly goes for status , Bottom line Girl’s are more selfish then men are

globetrotter22 · Answer

I think a better question would be “how do men vs women react when they are caught cheating”.
In my experience guys either act like they don’t give a shit OR they are conscious stricken and assume all guilt.

However look at most of the female excuses for cheating below. It always starts (and usually ends) by blaming their boyfriend/husband for something to self justify what they did. Their excuse might be understandable but very few of them own up to doing something wrong.

Women have less guilt about cheating in my experience.

loveslongnails · Answer

Men often do not equate sexual fidelity with "love" or "providing for a woman and family". Women on the other hand, almost always equate sexual fidelity with love. That's your biggest basic difference right there, in my humble opinion.

A man will compartmentalize and "love" a particular woman but not think that screwing the sexual hottie of his fantasies means anything that would affect his loving that person. Women don't really grasp how a man can do that, so they search for the small percentage of men who they believe don't think that they. How's that working, historically speaking?

baserunner611 · Answer

Total different disagree, a man wants to go places and show her off to family and friends. He wants to travel or sit at home to touch his girlfriend or wife. I watched her, and thankfully I got a precise wife.
A man cheats because he is no longer critical In her life. The second-hand thing she is listing to her mom or friends more than me.
But they are a guy who wanted the cake to eat too.
He tries to isolate his girlfriend or wife to abuse or talk into it all right for his sex with other women.
They show pictures of their girlfriend or wife every I want to have sex with their girlfriend or wife.
I like to tell how many guys show me nudes pictures of their girlfriend of wife in thousands
If an a. guy is tried to isolate his girlfriend or wife is not suitable from his family and friends

Espresso-Grande · Answer

People cheat because they are weak. They have no willpower. They lack self-control over their desires and emotions.

Not everyone in an unfulfilled and unhappy relationship will cheat. And not everyone who loves their partner will remain loyal.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

I think cheating is pretty much the same for both genders. Ego and being a coward. They believe they 'deserve' to cheat for one mental gymnastic reason to another. For many, if mental gymnastics were an olympic sport, they'd get gold every time. They're also a coward for not facing the issue, or if they have, breaking it off with the person they're with if they're willing to cheat.

browndog · Answer

I have had 4 of my ex's cheat on me and they all told me it just happened. I have never cheated nor will I ever because when in a relationship it's about sharing with your partner. My assumption is either not being satisfied so find it from elsewhere. If that's the case maybe communication and opening up about what needs you like. If the relationship is true then you'll want to fulfil each other's desires. I'd it's about just because, fuck why not then relationship should be ended and stay single.

mark000h · Answer

Almost all the women blamed men for cheating but also blamed men or someone else for the women cheating which is absolutely ridiculous. Cheating happens, male or female, because the cheater is a scumbag human. It is telling how the women cannot accept blame.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

For women, it's ALL about MONEY!! For men, it's mostly because they met someone else that was prettier, sexier and/or sweeter than what they've got waiting at home or just the fact that his steady old lady is or has turned out to be a raging bitch and he wants to get the hell away from her as soon as possible.

GlassTop · Answer

I’ve seen lots of women cheat by getting drunk. Put themselves in vulnerable positions or just being sluts in general. Guys cheat because they want a different sexual experience or not sexually satisfied. Or they might think they will never have an opportunity again if they don’t take it. Guys don’t see much action at all unless they have some characteristics that make them attractive or high value.

ChiTown33 · Answer

It's the same for BOTH. Bottom line, they simply don't love their partner. Because you DON'T cheat on someone you love. NO EXCUSES! I don't care what they said or did. I don't care how you felt towards them or for how long. If you feel the NEED to cheat. End the relationship.

backdoorman · Answer

Men and women cheat for exactly the same reason... they are not happy / satisfied because their needs are not being met, and they are too weak to resist the temptation to do what they know is wrong for some short term satisfaction. The nature of people's needs may differ from person to person but they all come down to emotional needs in the end.

John_Doesnt · Answer

The media always likes to make it the man's fault that a woman cheats because the guy was abusive or neglectful and if a man cheats then it's the man's fault for being horny.
The answer is that it's always both partners fault. The cheater should have self control and the person being cheated on should be paying more attention to their partner.

LogicBomber · Answer

Generally, Men “cheat” because new vagina is offered and it’s a rare occasion for that kind of thing to happen.

Women CHEAT because they feel they are missing something more, they have grass is greener syndrome, they want to see if another option is better before jumping ship, they are not fully happy, they are missing something emotional, they feel their guy isn’t giving them something they want emotionally or physically.

Women cheat, men have sex.

TonyV · Answer

Who cares why, it's just a person who agreed to be in a relationship that wasn't ready for or didn't respect commitment.

I don't care what a man or women wanted or felt they needed, cheating is never the answer.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

A woman wants to be desired. A man wants to fuck.

IveGotNoName · Answer

The reasoning behind it doesn't matter, because there will never be a good reason. The reason belongs to the individual not their gender and the bottom line is that they're an awfull person, simple as that.

Subarugirl · Answer

Generally people cheat for one of two reasons, either their sexual or emotional needs are not being met... usually a combination of both.

ManOnFire · Answer

Men I think more often cheat out of sexual reasons, while women cheat for both sexual reasons and they cheat in their heart more than men do.

Vegasrunner · Answer

A man cheats if he does not continue to provide security to his woman. A waman cheats if she is sexually active w/ another man. Men typical receive the blame for booth as women rateley take responsibility for their mistakes

KarinMcDonald · Answer

men cheat because it's their nature, and women cheat to be sexually satisfied.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Man wants to get his dick wet and the woman wants to be wanted and noticed.

Rebecka33 · Answer

For women its because looking to replace there dad at least for me. For men its more self esteem.

PaganWarrior · Answer

I should have left first, but I was too scared to. I cheated once because I got the love and kindness I was missing from my narc ex.

DiegoO · Answer

There is no reason, only excuses. Change reasons for excuses.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Both are the same reason: They're trash people with no morals.

jahaims · Answer

The different reasons are just ways of justifying it so they can lie to theirselves about being a trash human.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

A man cheats because his primary woman isn't putting out enough. Women cheat because they are bored, or trying to move up the ladder by getting what they consider a better guy.

hostboy__fastestlaps · Answer

Men cheat because they are rich. Women cheat because their boyfriends or husbands are ugly or don't have a lot of money

Anonymous · Answer

They are both the same. Stupidity. Don't eat your stake from the gutter.

Slim57 · Answer

Men because the sex is bad or nonexistent, women because the sex is bad or nonexistent, they were emotionally cheating and found someone "better", they got bored.

Valso · Answer

I don't know. I've never cheated. It's not in my nature to do that.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Both can cheat for the same reasons. Women also cheat for sex and men also cheat for money.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Men cheat because we can and have options  women cheat because of jealousy and revenge.

robocop666 · Answer

some men cheat as they feel the deserve variety. No reason. Read any interview with a sex worker and they say this. They hate these men.

Philyouup · Answer

both cheat due to low ethics

Zolly99999 · Answer

A lot of women get bored very easily.

OddBeMe · Answer

Pretty sure it'd be the same

anylolone · Answer

"It's the same picture!"

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Women want attention and men want sex

jimmy2 · Answer

The husband is not meeting her needs in love

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