What do you think the different reasons would be for why a man versus why a woman would cheat?

[Anonymous]

[Jabberjaw]

Commonly stated reasons for cheating across genders

Men: " no matter how much I did, nothing was ever good enough for her"

Women: " I didn't feel like he loved me"

I do think there are several reasons for cheating, but those two above are the number one most common reasons given by both genders for why they cheat. So it's worth mentioning

Personal opinion. Of the girls I know who cheated, a lot of it comes down to feeling like they settled for the guy they're with. And on some level they lost respect for him if they ever had it at all

And my personal opinion. Of the guys I know who cheated, a lot of the time it comes down to they just wanted more variety and felt like they settled down too soon before they got it out of their system.

Like no matter how happy a guy is or how attractive his girl is, he's going to be attracted to the girls. And he's going to want to have sex with other girls, whether or not he actually takes action on that one.

So for guys a lot of it comes down to that want for Conquest, variety, sexual satisfaction from something new. But girls I think is usually more rooted in feeling like they should have held out for a better deal.

Like it's more common for a guy to cheat and go back to his girl and continue the relationship. Whereas if a girl cheats it's more likely that the relationship is over and she's wanting to replace. Sometimes not the case but most often it's just done

[mobiusforniner]

Man or woman doesn't matter. Having emotionally cheated, i can tell you the reasons are centered on something lacking in the relationship and due to an unwillingness to change or make it better, leaving the cheating partner to feel lost or abandoned, naturally connecting to someone who empathizes or understands. Believe it or not, relationships and marriages, people become complacent and the needs of each other become less important and the demands become expectations. Unless someone is severely lacking in self control, cheating isn't something someone just decides to go and do

[possumpi26]

A woman cheats because she's not getting the love and attention she wants from her man or she's lacking excitement in her love life and things have gotten monotonous. A man cheats because he simply can and wants to stick his d*** in different women behind his woman's back. The difference is a woman has to have reasons to cheat and it's a last resort, a man needs no reason to cheat at all. Bottom line is that it's wrong to do it for ANY or no reason at all. if you're the the kind of man or woman who cannot be with just one person, do not get into a relationship with someone and don't get married.

[TransAm85]

Men cheat b/c they're not getting it at home, their wives/gfs are getting comfortable and not taking care of themselves anymore like they did in the beginning, and things have become a chore or an obligation. I cheated b/c my husband is a functional alcoholic and seems to love his cerveza more than having sex. I am only 36, I want to have sex, but not a random John. I met w/an ex I've known for almost 20 years. Other women may cheat for mental/emotional compassion.. I could care less. I just want some sex!

[OlderAndWiser]

Same reason for both sexes: they value their immediate gratification over their obligation to keep their promises.

[yofuknutz]

It's like people that won't pay the cable bill even though they use the cable services and then you know that you are using their services if they can't pay their cable bill what makes you think they are willing pay for you?

[SkyCastle90]

Majority of people cheat to fulfill a fantasy gone wild in their head.

Women be thinking they found the prince/man that truly understands them, gives them the sex/excitement they always wanted, wealthy, etc; when in reality theyre just being manipulated and played for a fool by either another cheater or someone just as immature as they are. Or she's just garbage and did it because she can.

Whether it be for sex or companionship, men be thinking they found the one, but tragically already married their bitch of a wife or committed themselves to their girlfriend and feel stuck. Or he's just garbage and did it because he can.

[Star_88]

Cheating men are NEVER happy with one woman even if she is perfect looking, multitalented, loyal and caring. They are STILL excited for the new chick they saw in a friend/work group, gym, club, etc.
But they're cowards and weakest because they want multiple orgies, ego boost and are extremely dependent on female company.
Women simply breakup but the ones who cheat are financially dependent, kids are involved or simply codependent so they are scared to leave but they cheat because they were taken for granted, compared, not prioritized or loved in the same way they do. Also they caught the guy lying, manipulating and seeing how much of a pervert he was.

[Star_88]

There are some women who cheat for a richer guy too but in most cases she was exploited, neglected and abused.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Star_88 Your problem is you are addicted to fuck boys.

[Finchie40]

Guys mainly cheat if their girlfriends or wives constantly deny them sex and constantly nag at him like he has to earn it or she never really initiates it , he will feel resentments and not feel respect from her so he is open to receiving it elsewhere , A girl will mainly cheat cuz her emotional needs aren’t met or she is drawn to another guys status , she can have a loving man at home that provides and protects her but if she doesn’t look up to him she will be drawn to another guy that others look up to , He can be a boss or have an important job like a doctor or lawyer or even a co worker etc, she will get on her knees to him and act like he is the best thing that ever crossed her path. So guys mainly go for beauty and a girl that boosts his ego , where a girl mainly goes for status , Bottom line Girl’s are more selfish then men are

[globetrotter22]

I think a better question would be “how do men vs women react when they are caught cheating”.
In my experience guys either act like they don’t give a shit OR they are conscious stricken and assume all guilt.

However look at most of the female excuses for cheating below. It always starts (and usually ends) by blaming their boyfriend/husband for something to self justify what they did. Their excuse might be understandable but very few of them own up to doing something wrong.

Women have less guilt about cheating in my experience.

[Star_88]

Obviously guys feel guilty because in most cases girls were loyal, took care of him and beared his crap, sacrificed her goals etc. But all a guy did was party, hang out with friends, continuously lie to her and desired multiple women.

[globetrotter22]

@Star_88 I don’t doubt that happens. But honestly how often do you hear women say something along the lines of “I am a cheating pos and you deserve better”. Virtually never. They instead say bullshit “oh you weren’t there for me” or “he made me feel special” or “it was an accident”. An “accident” like she slipped on a banana peel and landed on some random guys D?

It’s that ego protecting bs I can’t stand. When women try to self justify their shitty behavior.

[globetrotter22]

Also @Star_88 how about the “nice guy” who bent over backwards and did everything right for his girlfriend/wife who ends up getting cheated on because “he’s boring”. You know damn well that happens often.

[Star_88]

Those girls who get bored of nice guys are bitches. Simple.

[globetrotter22]

@Star_88 again what pisses me off the most is the ATTITUDE many women have about cheating. They try to self justify and gaslight their partners more often then men do.

Again a men who get caught either don’t give a shit (because their scumbags) OR they completely own up to what they did. However women more often than not try make up excuses for their bs because their egos can’t admit they are cheating whores. There is a difference I’ve noticed.

[Star_88]

Yeah but I'm the breaking up type. I'll break up immediately if I see warning them 2 times didn't worked. I'm not the type to cheat but to leave asap. Even if I don't have any other options I don't mind leaving because I know I am self reliant. But a good amount of girls are financially dependent so they prefer to cheat.

[Star_88]

Yeah I know there are cheating whores but some who are abused, wronged can't leave because of kids, shelter and she's too weak to handle the breakup

[globetrotter22]

@Star_88 that’s the right way to handle it. If your boyfriend doesn’t respect you then you need to walk. Once you move on feel free to do whatever you want.

I get there can be complications with kids and finances. My uncle who divorced my cheating whore aunt was in a situation where she was the breadwinner. They also have 2 kids (who don’t respect him despite him being a lifelong supportive father). When I first heard about her infidelity I thought it was a recent thing because they had been married for over 20 years and sometimes things go stale. I later heard him admit it happened the entire marriage.

I love my uncle and he’s been in a living hell for the last few years (his health is going now). But honestly that’s his fault that he put up with that bullshit. I wouldn’t care if my wife was an heiress to a billionaire and/or was a beautiful celebrity. I would NOT tolerate that bs. No. It’s better to be lonely and yet retain your self respect and pride.

[Star_88]

Great that's what matters. Not the breadwinner stuff or your spouse being rich. That's why working to be independent because u never know what happens. Instead of being stuck with them, you can break free.

[globetrotter22]

@Star_88 yep. Exactly.

[loveslongnails]

Men often do not equate sexual fidelity with "love" or "providing for a woman and family". Women on the other hand, almost always equate sexual fidelity with love. That's your biggest basic difference right there, in my humble opinion.

A man will compartmentalize and "love" a particular woman but not think that screwing the sexual hottie of his fantasies means anything that would affect his loving that person. Women don't really grasp how a man can do that, so they search for the small percentage of men who they believe don't think that they. How's that working, historically speaking?

[baserunner611]

Total different disagree, a man wants to go places and show her off to family and friends. He wants to travel or sit at home to touch his girlfriend or wife. I watched her, and thankfully I got a precise wife.
A man cheats because he is no longer critical In her life. The second-hand thing she is listing to her mom or friends more than me.
But they are a guy who wanted the cake to eat too.
He tries to isolate his girlfriend or wife to abuse or talk into it all right for his sex with other women.
They show pictures of their girlfriend or wife every I want to have sex with their girlfriend or wife.
I like to tell how many guys show me nudes pictures of their girlfriend of wife in thousands
If an a. guy is tried to isolate his girlfriend or wife is not suitable from his family and friends

[Espresso-Grande]

People cheat because they are weak. They have no willpower. They lack self-control over their desires and emotions.

Not everyone in an unfulfilled and unhappy relationship will cheat. And not everyone who loves their partner will remain loyal.

[browndog]

I have had 4 of my ex's cheat on me and they all told me it just happened. I have never cheated nor will I ever because when in a relationship it's about sharing with your partner. My assumption is either not being satisfied so find it from elsewhere. If that's the case maybe communication and opening up about what needs you like. If the relationship is true then you'll want to fulfil each other's desires. I'd it's about just because, fuck why not then relationship should be ended and stay single.

[TheLoneTerran]

I think cheating is pretty much the same for both genders. Ego and being a coward. They believe they 'deserve' to cheat for one mental gymnastic reason to another. For many, if mental gymnastics were an olympic sport, they'd get gold every time. They're also a coward for not facing the issue, or if they have, breaking it off with the person they're with if they're willing to cheat.

[mark000h]

Almost all the women blamed men for cheating but also blamed men or someone else for the women cheating which is absolutely ridiculous. Cheating happens, male or female, because the cheater is a scumbag human. It is telling how the women cannot accept blame.

[FunkyMonkee]

For women, it's ALL about MONEY!! For men, it's mostly because they met someone else that was prettier, sexier and/or sweeter than what they've got waiting at home or just the fact that his steady old lady is or has turned out to be a raging bitch and he wants to get the hell away from her as soon as possible.

[GlassTop]

I’ve seen lots of women cheat by getting drunk. Put themselves in vulnerable positions or just being sluts in general. Guys cheat because they want a different sexual experience or not sexually satisfied. Or they might think they will never have an opportunity again if they don’t take it. Guys don’t see much action at all unless they have some characteristics that make them attractive or high value.

[ChiTown33]

It's the same for BOTH. Bottom line, they simply don't love their partner. Because you DON'T cheat on someone you love. NO EXCUSES! I don't care what they said or did. I don't care how you felt towards them or for how long. If you feel the NEED to cheat. End the relationship.

[backdoorman]

Men and women cheat for exactly the same reason... they are not happy / satisfied because their needs are not being met, and they are too weak to resist the temptation to do what they know is wrong for some short term satisfaction. The nature of people's needs may differ from person to person but they all come down to emotional needs in the end.

[John_Doesnt]

The media always likes to make it the man's fault that a woman cheats because the guy was abusive or neglectful and if a man cheats then it's the man's fault for being horny.
The answer is that it's always both partners fault. The cheater should have self control and the person being cheated on should be paying more attention to their partner.

[LogicBomber]

Generally, Men “cheat” because new vagina is offered and it’s a rare occasion for that kind of thing to happen.

Women CHEAT because they feel they are missing something more, they have grass is greener syndrome, they want to see if another option is better before jumping ship, they are not fully happy, they are missing something emotional, they feel their guy isn’t giving them something they want emotionally or physically.

Women cheat, men have sex.

[TonyV]

Who cares why, it's just a person who agreed to be in a relationship that wasn't ready for or didn't respect commitment.

I don't care what a man or women wanted or felt they needed, cheating is never the answer.

[Ms_Facesitter]

A woman wants to be desired.
A man wants to fuck.

[baserunner611]

Not a way for all men, intimate with a girl

[PaganWarrior]

Not all men want just sex.

[baserunner611]

We want sex; I and some others want to be with my girl too

[Ms_Facesitter]

@PaganWarrior I know, it's a bit stereotype stuff. I was fishing for a difference here.

[PaganWarrior]

Yeah, I guess.

[IveGotNoName]

The reasoning behind it doesn't matter, because there will never be a good reason. The reason belongs to the individual not their gender and the bottom line is that they're an awfull person, simple as that.