Why is he stressing so much even though I took a plan B pill?

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last weekend high af and I told him to finished in me... which he did (I don't even know what I was thinking), he knew I wasn't on birthcontrol. The next morning I bought a plan b and he watched while I took it just for his own peace of mind, after that everything seems fine... i was sooo wrong. Every few days he will call me wanting to know If I got my period and just venting about how we aren't ready for kids and how he doesn't want a kid right now, which I agree with yet he keeps calling me with the same concern over and over again and I don't really know what to say to him since he knows I've taken multiple pregnancy tests and all are negative... also no abnormalities at all... just a delayed period since I did in fact take a plan b. I honestly feel so pressured rn and even feel like he will leave me once my period shows up... anyways any advice as to why he's pushing this so hard?

[Apope16]

Because of the Amber Heard Trial. Look it up.

There are a lot of ladies out there who will lie to a man and use birthing a child as blackmail for marriage or a relationship or worse.

At the end of the day, the reason why he is freaking out is that there is a trust that is missing between you both in the relationship you have. You are having unprotected sex so he trusts you enough for that. But for some reason deep down he has a fear that you would lie to him or black male him. Maybe he senses that you are in love with him and might blackmail him with a child in order to keep him.

The solution here is to build trust with him. Open communication. Give him the comfort to know that you care about him and that he can trust you.

[spartan55]

Good lord, neither of you have any business having sex right now at your maturity level. If your moron boyfriend is so concerned about getting you pregnant then why did he blow it in you? And why tf aren't you on bc?

[Asker]

I was on birthcontrol the past 2 years I've been with him and I just recently stopped due to some intense side effects, I alerted him about everything and he was ok with me not being on it. He keeps saying he's upset with what happened then says he's not upset with me then back again with being upset... but he's seriously obsessing over it he's stressed everyday and can't focus at work... I feel bad that I can't do much to reassure him, I think he's broken :/

[kylee2437]

Why would he leave you if your period shows up if he isn’t ready to have kids? Not trying to parent but if both of you are going to partake in sex and not want kids, maybe you should get on birth control

[Asker]

We started off on birthcontrol but after awhile it was starting to make me depressed, body aches and have mood swings and so he's ok with me not being on it.

[kylee2437]

@asker oh I totally understand what it does to your body, however having a kid with someone that doesn’t want to father is even more depressing, stressful etc. birth control has made me dodge quite a few bullets so in my opinion the pains are worth it. I know it’s not for everyone but if it’s not for you then you need to prepare yourself to get pregnant sooner or later if you are just raw dogging and not using contraceptives

[MzAsh]

Sounds like high anxiety.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Can you really blame a guy for it in our modern world? A baby would equal 18 to 21 years of strapped down paying more than half you make. If he doesn't make much by the way, that's like not being able to afford rent by yourself. Then on top of that if you can't pay... big daddy government will have you in prison. You'll get your money, but he'll be getting butt raped in prison or working his ass off to have half as much as he would've normally been able to afford. Kids are no joke for the male half.

[MagicCarpet1]

[RuthlessAggression]

Oh because you never know with B. C. and Plan B. You just don't. So, he's freaking out.

If you do get pregnant, are you guys even ready to be parents?

[SlothySlob]

The man understands that pill you gobble so readily works as well or worse than a condom.

[Anonymous]

If he’s so worried about pregnancy, why didn’t he pull out?