If a guy really loves you will he commit regardless of being ready or not?

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If a guy really loves you will he commit regardless of being ready or not?

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Oh fuck, no.

If a guy really loves you, he'll be the first to admit he may not be ready to give what you're looking for.

I've had two previous long term relationships, both failed because we weren't ready or able to give the other what we were looking for.

The first time, I thought if I waited long enough, he'd be ready. Nope. He never was going to be, not for me. And I wasn't what he needed either. We both needed more time to grow into the people we wanted to be in a relationship.

It would've been better had either or both of us realized this sooner.

The second relationship failed because my ex committed before he was ready. He proposed, but our relationship fell apart during the move because he had lied about so many things - all because he was afraid of losing me.

His literal failure to launch, because he wasn't ready but committed before being ready, cost me thousands in flights and rentals, and nearly my job.

If a guy really loved you, he'll be honest about where he's at. If he really loves himself, he'll wait to commit until he *is* ready. And it's better to be with someone who loves themselves.

sassyredhead · Accepted Answer

Trust me you don't want a guy who is unsure about you that's more painful than stopping seeing him all together. I am currently going through this he loves me but can't commit to a relationship and it's messing with my mind and emotions. I need to just cut my losses at this point.

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

If he was smart he would not commit to anything under those circumstances. Nobody should commit unless they are ready for it. Committing anyway is a formula for failure.

By the way
"If a guy/girl really loves you.."
These words should never be used. That's just not a good way of looking at things. Love a person in your own way. Let them love you in their own way. As soon as you say "If s/he really loves me" then it messes it up. It means you do not accept their love in the way that's natural to them. It also means you do not accept them for who they are. If you start trying to twist it around, it's no longer a natural love.

Try very hard to avoid conditional relationships.

razelove · Accepted Answer

If the girl really loves the guy would she pressure him to? It's definitely something to talk about if you're in that place and feel like your relationship needs more definition, boundaries, whatever. Sometimes it is just timing. I got involved with women and thought hey, this is a nice relationship, they wanted to stay NSA, other times they'd want more from me and I wasn't willing to give it.

When I met my wife I was seeing a couple other women casually and that was the extent of that. I liked her, she was genuine, we both wanted a relationship, and it moved that way.

hhadeshatesme · Answer

forcing commitment is asking for things to fall apart quickly. Can’t speak for a man but for me if I’m falling in love I slowly start committing without realizing it at first. Commitment shouldn’t feel forced it should come to you naturally if you’re genuinely interested in someone

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Even if he truly does love you pressuring him as a quick way for him to break up with you. I mean you can bring it up but you don't pressure him. Love isn't unconditional and trying to force someone to make a commitment when they're not ready is a quick way to lose said love

mstbooblover · Answer

Are we ever ready to commit to someone we love? I don't think so, but if I really love some girl, sure I will commit. It's a matter of daring to take a risk, because love being rather blind, one never really knows the person they commit to. It's an illusion worth the risk ;0)

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think I would. As much as I would want to. Love is a choice and I think most people miss that completely. And I would want to choose what would really make you happy. It would take time to understand what I have and you need. If I was not what you really needed I would love you enough to let you find another.

Anonymous · Answer

What does "love" mean to you? Are you referring to the old definition of caring for and supporting, or the new definition of infatuation?

If its the old definition then his being ready is a factor, but very much relative and thus not critical if your willing to work with them.

LazerBean · Answer

I believe that there are a lot of worthless men who genuinely love a woman. But the love of a worthless man is, well, worthless. So focus less on if he "loves" you and focus more on figuring out what other good attributes he has.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

There is no one size fits all answer to this question. It's a grey area.
I can think of several examples where a guy is head over heels in love but will not commit. It all depends on the situation you both find yourself in.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not necessarily. There's a significant difference between "love" and "commitment". Someone can love another and not be ready for a commitment to them. Over time, that may change... with patience by both partners.

Ninania · Answer

No. If he's not ready that would be a very selfish thing of you to ask for. Rather, if you really love him you don't push his boundaries for your own benefit.

SimpleGuy95 · Answer

He´ll probably but he shouldn´t if he´s not ready because if he isn´t ready he´ll mess up. A guy who´s not ready could making a decision he later doesn´t stick with no matter what he promised.

NotGuru · Answer

Yes he will... If he is career focused, he'd just tell you that he needs let's say 3 years...
* If his ex left him because he needed time, he might not commit even if he loves you because he doesn't want to get dumped again...

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Well. Why don't you ask the question then? I can't read his mind and I have no idea. Maybe he isn't ready. Maybe he is too scared. Among other things

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

You want the guy to be ready cause if he isn't, it can end up falling apart, it's best to wait for both people to be ready.

Adronicus · Answer

If I really love a woman she never knows it & probably thinks I despise her. There's a reason & I feel as if I'm doing her a favor by driving her away.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Ready or not for what exactly? Engagement? Marriage?  He can commit to a relationship provided there is not a heavy demand of him for Marriage and children.

Avicenna · Answer

I think by definition he will be ready if he loves her, but yeah.

serious · Answer

No, he will not. A guy won't commit if he is not ready.

1GoldTwins · Answer

I don't think he will. If he commits when he's not ready, chances might get ruined

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

No.. he'd be a fool to commit if he's not ready only to appease a lady. Setting both up for heartbreak

AdithyaR · Answer

Not necessarily. Maybe he loves her enough to realise that he's not ready and she doesn't deserve to be treated in a half hearted way and lets her go.

RobT312 · Answer

For me they are different things. Only when I’m ready !

Ihatethewill · Answer

Come on really? You can't pressure him into commiting to you. He will figure out on his own if he's ready or not. Otherwise the relationship won't be 100% secure.

libsaretards · Answer

Not true. In fact, if a guy really loves you he will make even more sure he is ready.

Kreneman · Answer

For me, I will commit and I did it recently. Now I am engaged.

Sia_nee · Answer

Ehhhh... not really. Love can only do so much sometimes. The situation also seems like a bad idea

clampfan101 · Answer

Committing before you’re ready for it would be bad for both of them, thus not something you would want to do to someone you love.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Love and commitment have little connection in the male mind. Stop trying to explain male behavior with womens emotions.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

A person should not get into a relationship until they are ready for one.

Caunsos · Answer

No if you force to commit to something they are not ready for it will lead to resentment.

Crankor · Answer

Depends how much time goes on before it can start to progress

Jltakk · Answer

If the girl really loves him, she wouldn't pressure the guy into making a potentially life wrecking decision.

Anonymous · Answer

Not unless he sees signs of commitment from her. So many want commitment from guys, but that's it. Commitment is a two way street.

Twalli · Answer

Probably not, if you're not ready to commit, you shouldn't.

Curiouslad123 · Answer

Yes I would I wouldn’t be dating a girl if I wasn’t ready to commit.

Sorbay · Answer

Yes a man with no sexual market value will do anything you ask

GatewayRealm · Answer

No because if He Tries his teeth 🦷 will Start Falling out in less than a second.

Anonymous · Answer

Define commit? Meaning a girl is a steady girlfriend?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, Usually he will because we don't care that much about being ready for a Relationship as much as you Girls do.

Guy13 · Answer

No, I don’t think so.

msc545 · Answer

No, if he loves you he will be honest about that.

Wise4myage · Answer

I would only commit if I was ready.

Waldoe · Answer

not if he is mature and self-aware

Alex8736 · Answer

Things need to fall into place naturally

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

He might but he shouldn't

Slim57 · Answer

What do you mean commit? But I think so

Jackson619 · Answer

My opinion your gorgeous

irfan909 · Answer

Commitment depends on both sides.

Rose3022 · Answer

he does but he shouldn't...

MagicCarpet1 · Answer

If he is white, yes.

Th3ft · Answer

Not usually.

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

I do

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Define "commit."

Sam_25 · Answer

Absolutely

Intothevoid666 · Answer

He really won’t tbh

RebeccaSJ · Answer

Yes.

In_Trance · Answer

Not necessarily

jimmy2 · Answer

Yes he will

Finum · Answer

yes. absolutely

RanaAli07 · Answer

Hy cite

If a guy really loves you will he commit regardless of being ready or not?

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