Three years ago, I moved at my ex boyfriends house and left my family. My family is Muslim, my dad is extremely strict. I lost contact with him while I was away, he was extremely mad and made my entire family suffer his rage. My mom fell in depression and I felt so guilty that I also fell in deep depression. I came back, broke it off with my ex, and my father "forgave me".
Now, two years later, I am going to university. The boy I love will also be going there. We are not together, however, we are very very close and have a lot of chemistry. He asked if I could share an apartment with him and, although it would be a dream come true to me, I had to decline due to my father's strict standards.
I am 21 years old and the guy says that I moved three years ago to be with my ex boyfriend but for him I wouldn't disobey my father. I told him that I don't want to put chaos within my family for my own "selfish" reasons and maintaining a relationship with my father is hard enough as it is. If I ever decide to commit a sin again, he would disown me like he had before. So, I told the guy I like that I will slowly grow independent from my family so that in the future I'd act on my own free will, that for now I'm still dependent of my family. I don't want to be disowned again.
How do I convince him to accept my situation?
I really love him. And my family.
Now, two years later, I am going to university. The boy I love will also be going there. We are not together, however, we are very very close and have a lot of chemistry. He asked if I could share an apartment with him and, although it would be a dream come true to me, I had to decline due to my father's strict standards.
I am 21 years old and the guy says that I moved three years ago to be with my ex boyfriend but for him I wouldn't disobey my father. I told him that I don't want to put chaos within my family for my own "selfish" reasons and maintaining a relationship with my father is hard enough as it is. If I ever decide to commit a sin again, he would disown me like he had before. So, I told the guy I like that I will slowly grow independent from my family so that in the future I'd act on my own free will, that for now I'm still dependent of my family. I don't want to be disowned again.
How do I convince him to accept my situation?
I really love him. And my family.
